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Savvy May 2013

Bridesmaid: Is she out of control or am I worrying it about it too much?

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Stacy, on March 12, 2012 at 2:29 PM

My youngest Bridesmaid, my niece. She's in the Airforce, this is her first time at freedom. I told her if she ever got Tattoos, make sure they are something of meaning and that she can live with when she's 50! I have several tattoos and I am not concerned. But this latest thing she has done. She's pierced her hips and belly button. Ok I can go with that, but the collar bones. I don't know. All I can see is the way she is going to look in her Bridesmaid's gown. I didn't think she would go this far. I just don't want her to be the talk of the wedding. The attention should be on my groom and I. Should I say something or should I let it be.

Maybe it's not as bad as I think it is.

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Savvy May 2013
Stacy · on March 13, 2012 at 1:42 PM
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@Jennifer That's a good idea!!!! I like that.

@Shannon you're right. My Sister and I talked about it. I LOVE IT HER FREAK FLAG!! HAHAHA!!

@goodkarmatwins thanks for the suggestion.

Thank you all for your suggestions and advice.
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Savvy May 2011
Raptor · on March 13, 2012 at 2:30 PM
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It's not as bad as you think it is
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Master August 2010
FMS, the barefoot wife! · on March 13, 2012 at 2:59 PM
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I askedy BFF to be MOH because I love her for who she is and how she's always been there for me. Every nose ring, labert piercing and even all 15 down her spine. You have to surgically have those piercings removed, you can't just take them out for a day. Unless you want to foot the bill to have them removed and re-pierced when they heal. Don't ask her to change a thing. She is who she is, and thats why you asked her, right?
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Master October 2012
Mouche · on March 13, 2012 at 3:08 PM
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Ouch!!!
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VIP October 2016
Cynthia B · on March 13, 2012 at 3:16 PM
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From someone with multiple old piercings, they are not as permanent as tattoos. I have tattoos as well, and sometimes wish they were as easy to hide as taking out a piercing. I would say it's not so bad, and don't stress yourself out over stuff you can't control. No one will look at the wedding party anyway, they could be wearing garbage bags and everyone will still tell you how pretty the wedding is because they are looking at the love shining in the B&G's eyes.
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Savvy May 2013
Stacy · on March 13, 2012 at 3:25 PM
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@Cynthia B. Thanks.
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Devoted February 2013
Rachel · on March 13, 2012 at 4:23 PM
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Oh my effff..... lol umm I would just make her have a half up half down hair style or wear it down so it covers them. You never know though in a year she could be tired of them, or her body could reject them and she will have to take them out. I would wait till it gets closer to your date and have a talk with her. Also if she still has them in after a year they will be healed so she can take them out for your big day
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Cara · on March 13, 2012 at 4:24 PM
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I agree with FMS on this one. You asked her to be your BM knowing her personality, and personally I think it's a bit rude to ask someone to change for your wedding. And you will be the one in the white gown, you'll be the one cutting the cake, throwing the bouquet, getting your garter pulled off, dancing alone with your husband and then your father. How can 2 little piercings take all of that attention away? I smell a bit of insecurity here to think your young (and uniquely styled) niece will steal your show. Most likely, that's not at all her intention, she's being herself.
One more thing, don't tell your bridal party how they should smile/stand/act/etc because none of your micro-managing will be natural to them and your photos will come out looking fake. Ease-up, it is your day and you will have all the attention, believe me. Let this one slide, it's peanuts compared to any REAL problems you might face (i.e. a vendor not showing up, running out food, etc).
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