Bridesmaid Drama: Demanding to bring baby to wedding or not come at all!

Babies do come before brides. If I was this BM I'd like to *think* id be more accommodating (I'd bottle some breast milk maybe, plus I don't think I'd want to bring a baby to a wedding, has a 2 month old even been vaccinated??). But I'm not a mom, so I can't say. I see your point, she committed to being your BM, but at the end of the day, life happens, and her baby will and should come first.

It sounds like she just wants to stay home with her baby.

@FMM - for what it's worth, I was fed formula because my mom thought breast feeding was gross.

I always thought breastfeeding babies was the exception to the "no kids" rule for this exact reason. I think people will understand, unless you have guests with similarly-aged babies. Otherwise, you're fine.

@ m in response to page 6 question, see PK's answer above your question lol

You do realize that bottles are not the norm right?

You look like a bad guy no matter what.....whatever......

IMO your BM should just drop out and decline to attend the wedding. I wouldn't want my 2 month old un-vaccinated baby around a crowd that big. And yes babies eat every 2 to 3 hours at that age. The part I don't understand is didn't both of you know she would have a 2 month old before you ask and she accepted to be a BM?? Why the big shock and problem now?

I do feel like when out and about, I used to see a lot more babies with bottles when I was much younger than I see now.

@PK they will probably learn to take a bottle over time, but it won't happen in the two weeks leading up to the wedding. And some people don't believe in bottle feeding and want to exclusively breast feed and that is their right as parents. Some kids cannot take a bottle due to different medical reasons. I worked with a baby who had issues with his soft pallette and the bottle nipple was too rigid and made him gag and puke. No issues with breastfeeding though. So exclusive breast feeding was the only option. Nipples and bottles are two completely different mouth shapes and movements, so the baby basically needs to re-learn how to eat if you switch from nipple to bottle. Some kids pick it up fast, some do not. There are also some amazing nutrients in breast milk that can never be replicated in formula so I really could never insist that she deprive her child of that, even for an hour while she's sleeping, or at the ceremony in this case.

@OP...if you want to try to convince your FH, have him read this thread. It should help. And the act that we've kept on topic for nearly 8 pages is a helpful blessing and rarity.

This is a problem for a mother and nobody should be worrying the bride over it. This is ridiculous. When did one person's kid become other people's problem?

This is your BM which I'm assuming is your good friend?? Let her bring the baby. I don't like that's she's demanding it, but if its gonna be such a big deal just let her. After all, she has done so much for you as your BM...I'm sure she had to buy her dress, shoes etc. Bring the baby!

How come we can land a spaceship on a comet but we can't make a baby bottle that's shaped at least somewhat like a boob?

Snarky, no one's kid is another person's "problem."

I would hope that a friendship might mean something. My best friends kid isn't my "problem" - I love that little bugger, and even if I didn't like kids, it's about accommodating what sounds like a very, very close friend.

Regardless of who's day it is, that's how my friends and I have always acted. I help them out, they help me out, I'm empathetic with them, they're empathetic with me.

You don't have to, but I personally think its a wonderful quality to have, and I admire those who have it.

^^^^ i am with you on that PK

I want to know why is this coming up now? A pregnancy takes 9 months and the baby is 2 months. So you guys had 11 months to figure this out. What happened?

@pk....you have a point on that one. That might be a good market to look into!

A mother correct me if I'm wrong, but at least for my animals, it's not the shape of the bottle, its the texture and whatnot of the nipple.

Try to re-create it all you want, but no rubber nipple will ever feel/taste/pull like a human one.

I'm a mom who wished she could have breastfed her children. If i was that lucky there is not way in hell i would stop naturally breastfeeding for a wedding, I don't care who's wedding it is. Many moms don't do bottles when they're breast feeding and most kids won't take a bottle when they're breastfed so its either feed my child or a wedding .... Ummmmm that's a super easy decision

I don't think I have anything to add that hasn't already been said. I was wondering how the hell this got to over 100 comments. And with how the last page or so has been going, all I can think about is this movie: