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Beginner July 2015

Bridesmaid Drama: Demanding to bring baby to wedding or not come at all!

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Heather, on June 23, 2015 at 11:59 AM

I'm at a total loss right now, absolutely gutted. To keep this short, my fiancee and I are having a kid-free wedding (in less than 2 weeks)! We already told his family - all traveling from out of state - that they cannot bring their kids to the ceremony nor reception. They accepted. One of my very dear (local) friends and bridesmaid is saying that she HAS to bring her baby to the wedding or she cannot attend at all. Her baby (~2 months) isn't taking to a bottle and has to be fed every ~2 hours. I asked if she could just come to the ceremony, (leaving babe at home w/ dad) and I understand if she has to leave afterwards, but she's saying her baby or none at all. I'll be devastated if she chooses not to come, but what more can I do? We are unwilling to make the exception, we do not want kids/babies at our wedding. Am I being unreasonable? Admittedly I do not have kids, so I can only be empathetic, but not to a fault! Has anyone been in a similar situation? How did it get resolved?

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Master January 2016
FMM · on June 23, 2015 at 1:37 PM
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PK- I'm trying so hard to keep up but I can't today.. Formula digests slower in the body so you probably could go 4+ hours before being fed again.
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Master April 2015
Lucy · on June 23, 2015 at 1:38 PM
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Someone's sensitive.
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Master August 2016
OGSue · on June 23, 2015 at 1:39 PM
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Definitely not a toddler running around, but babies can disrupt the ceremony. I remember that one post a while back where someone brought a baby to their adults-only ceremony and the baby cried through the entire ceremony (the mother was not smart enough to leave the room) and their videographer wasn't sure if he could edit out the crying baby. Videographers are expensive.

The option of the father sitting at the back is a good one, as long as he steps out if the baby starts crying.
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Beginner July 2015
Heather · on June 23, 2015 at 1:39 PM
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How do I unsubscribe from notifications?!?!?! RIP my inbox lol.
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Master September 2014
Snarky · on June 23, 2015 at 1:40 PM
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@m I don't know........ I ended up letting my SIL bring her baby to the ceremony so I guess I would make an exception, but if I wasn't I hope my SIL wouldn't have taken it personally.
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Master July 2015
m · on June 23, 2015 at 1:40 PM
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You can't.

ETA: Re: Heather & notifications.
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Master September 2015
MrsPope · on June 23, 2015 at 1:41 PM
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@Maltese Thanks lol

@FMP my daughter wouldn't take the bottle either. I made sure she was fed before I left and she was fine for 3 hours.
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Master October 2014
Sarah · on June 23, 2015 at 1:41 PM
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I was offended by the rude comments that occurred after several people who are mothers let it be known that newborns do in fact need to eat that often... Sarcastic comments about babies starving to death, etc. We just had a fellow bride have to go through labor to deliver her dead baby at 26 weeks pregnant for crying out loud. Sarcasm isn't always the answer. Especially if you're uniformed.
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Master August 2016
StarFromIHJ · on June 23, 2015 at 1:42 PM
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PK, babies honestly survive because they are cute. Seriously. Mentally we find them cute, which increases their odds of survival. Also, physically they cry at a pitch that is hard to ignore to ensure their survival. Thats not even to mention the love of a parents. Babies evolved to survived.

I second or third the option of the father in the back of the room. If she feeds the baby before, chances are it will nap.
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Master June 2015
AthenaKay · on June 23, 2015 at 1:43 PM
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Meanwhile me and @emmy are in cat land being cat moms.
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Master September 2014
Snarky · on June 23, 2015 at 1:43 PM
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@Sarah, don't take it personally, PK just always needs to tell us how she feels about having kids over and over and over and over.
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Master October 2014
Sarah · on June 23, 2015 at 1:43 PM
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@Jacqui722- That is exactly what I was referring to.
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Master October 2015
Brigit · on June 23, 2015 at 1:44 PM
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AthenaKay- i am there with you

eta: especially after this conversation on a baby being glued to my boob 24/7
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Master October 2015
purplekitten · on June 23, 2015 at 1:46 PM
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Hmm. I didn't get that gene. Babies have never seemed cute to me. Maybe that's why I have a hard time "getting" this whole thing.
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Master May 2015
Genny · on June 23, 2015 at 1:47 PM
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Haha @Athena. I even got DH a father's day card from our cat (even though I didn't get a mother's day one)
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Master October 2015
purplekitten · on June 23, 2015 at 1:48 PM
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@Snarky - if a bunch of people wanted to jump off a cliff, you'd keep telling them how shitty jumping off a cliff is, too.
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Master April 2015
Lucy · on June 23, 2015 at 1:48 PM
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I think babies look like little aliens.
Their eyes are so big for their little heads.
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Master August 2016
StarFromIHJ · on June 23, 2015 at 1:48 PM
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PK, I hate to say it, but you are not the genetic norm. heh
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Master August 2015
Julia T · on June 23, 2015 at 1:49 PM
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@heather Create a folder and a rule so the emails with go into the folder
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Master January 2016
FMM · on June 23, 2015 at 1:49 PM
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Also if anyone cares... When a baby is first born a lot of them will cluster feed...so feeding every 30 minutes or so, this can go on for a couple days but it helps establish a good breast latch and get the mothers supply up and going. Mothers who tough out the cluster feed usually won't have as many issues with supply.

Fun facts about breastfeeding.
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