Bridesmaid Drama: Demanding to bring baby to wedding or not come at all!

Heather - way to be open-minded! It's not often we get a one-star on here who asks a question that sparks a debate, who is then willing to change her mind based on the feedback. Sorry about the notifications :/ That's something else we should talk to WWKatie about in her Community Feedback thread.

Also, in between work meetings but just have to pop on to say my mom had five kids and deserves a medal. I hope this thread makes it obvious why. And PK, not tryna challenge your aversion to kids and it's totally fine that you don't want any, but there are TONS of women out there who didn't like kids, whose opinion changed drastically once they did have one. Motherhood unleashes something new inside ya.

Heather - i just send all of the notifications to my spam folder lol, but if you go under account users and manage accounts you can change the notifications

You're only wired to think your own baby is cute. You can't help it. Thinking another baby is cute is your opinion, not your brain chemistry.

I refused to breastfeed or bottle-feed as a child. I was a little diva. Eventually, I took the bottle.

PK, let me use this example with a kitten. Kittens evolved to be cute. If you found a kitten wailing, alone and afraid, eyes unopened, would you bottle feed him/her every few hours? Probably, because you find kittens cute. Just apply that thinking to babies and thats how babies survive.

@Heather

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I'm not touching this debate..however when FH and I have kids in a few years- I have got to take this picture. Our baby AND a weenie? Amazing.

@Randi - That's probably true for a lot of women, but I wouldn't risk it, knowing it didn't work out for my mom. She never started liking kids. She never let us behave even remotely like kids, so childhood was miserable and confusing. I'm certain she didn't like me at all until i was 31 or 32.

So this was a legit post I take it? I'll be honest. On the forum page I saw rings and 185 comments and though, hmmm maybe it's a good one...I skipped to page 10 and it seems like actual comments, so that was slightly disappointing

I had a very similar situation happen right before the wedding. My husband was more upset than I was at it was his family and we had told others no kids. period. We compromised and asked that at least have the baby in another room being watched by someone they trusted during the ceremony. It sucks that she is stressing you out so close to your wedding but your day will fly by and you wont even notice the baby. Maybe just say the ceremony is 100% off limits and hopefully a 2 month old will sleep most of the reception!

Also when guests asked about why they couldnt bring their kids and the other guest did, we just said they just brought the baby without asking.

@Jillian, yes it's a legit post. Though it has derailed into a debate about having or not having children, and more.

@Kassy - you are my new hero!

^ They just brought the baby without asking? Priceless!

We are having a child-free wedding. One of my best friends is pregnant and will have a 6 week old when it comes time to my wedding day. I have told her if she has the energy and would like to come she is more than welcome to with her newborn. Newborns are diff than kids and I truly think your other guests will understand, especially since she is in the bridal party.

Good luck!

@snarky... we felt it made them look clueless as opposed to rude for threatening to not come (2 weeks before). this was immediate family.

10 pages and 192 comments in.

I'm so impress with how drama free this thread is. Everyone is being so respectful of different opinions. Look at us WW brides acting like adults. That's 2 in the row now. lol

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Hahahaha @emmy! That's great There's no way Odie would stay in one of those things. She would claw her way out.

Haha, Christine, never! I worked in a daycare for a while so I've seen my share of diapers and bottles!

LOL. If I was your friend, I'd say "peace out." We don't want kids at our wedding but we made an exception for a cousin who just had a baby and needs to breastfeed. You and your fiancé sound spoiled. Grow up. You're gonna sacrifice a friendship over one day?

My sister and Matron of honor had her baby with her at my wedding in May. She stood by me and her husband had the baby a distance from the ceremony where he stood near my uncle who was playing piano at the top of the aisle (outdoor wedding with plenty of space). I agree that it's a bad idea for her to leave her baby at home, yet I also think that you should be accommodated as a bride as well. Are there any ways around it? You don't want a crying baby at the ceremony, but other than that you'll be fine.