BIG PROBLEM- NO kids

A bee can sting ANYBODY!!!! I have seen adults react worse to seeing a bee. Why do people keep saying kids ruin your wedding...adults ruin weddings as well. If one poor kid who screams ruins your entire wedding day that is sad. Nothing should ruin the day, nothing is perfect.

Please can someone explain to me the role of flower girl in adult only wedding? The ceremony is in the different place than reception.

At the church when the bridal party enters, all the bridesmaids go first and the flower goes before the bride sprinking flowers from a basket down the isle.

stays in the church or should go home !!!

It's the same thing. What would be different? Unless you expect an adult to toss flower...

It's not an easy decision for your brother to make to not invite children. It wasn't asn easy decison for my and my FH. We have at least 5 people we invited to our wedding who had babies in the last 7 months. We had to make a decision for budget reasons. Additionally, children are not in the future plans for me and FH we don't want kids who get tired and cranky at our wedding. We want it to be an enjoyable and memorable experience for everyone and not just us.

I think you should respect your brothers decision and not bring your children. If you are his closes living relative then you should be there to support him and represent your family on HIS day. Remember your brothers wedding is about him and his fiancee...not you and your kids.

Sorry didn't mean to get all preacher on the subject. I can relate with your brother not wanting kids and I know its a touchy subject but not an easy decision to make.

The same role she would have at any wedding....?

Maybe the Flower Girl should toss flower and run home - ADULTs ONLY Wedding - there might be a bee!!!!!!!!!!!

I had a FG and RB, they fulfilled the traditional role..I don't know what other role there is for a FG/RB...??? They came to our reception for a short time, ate, took photos, and were dropped off at their grandparents' house (my cousin's IL's) before the "dance" part of the reception started. They were gone by 6:30, and their parents had a great time after they left!

Helping at the bridal shower w the opening of the gifts. Either helping collect paper or passing them up to open. Is this a part of a traditional role ?

Wow. Should someone call the waaah-mbulance for you?

You seem more childish than your uninvited children.

Nope, my MOH and BM's handed me gifts and helped with the paper. Nobody opened gifts except DH and myself (co-ed shower). I don't even think my RB was at my shower...

I've never heard of any of that, my FG and RB were at the rehearsal where they were told what they would be doing, and practiced going down the aisle in order. They went to our rehearsal dinner afterwards. On our wedding day, my FG got her hair done with us, went home to get dressed, met up with us at my parents' house where I was getting ready, took photos and went to the church. At the church, FG threw petals, RB walked with a pillow down the aisle, after that, they took more photos with us. They went to the reception, ate, more photos, left early. Their parents came back after dropping them off at their grandparents' house and celebrated with us.

Lmaoooooooooooooooooooooooo@ "waaah-mbulance". Hee, hee. Good one.

Excuse me while I go into "mean girl" mode.

"The kids know how to behave , love their ONLY uncole and want to be there to see him on this very important day." It would be the 8 year old that MIGHT understand what's going on. It doesn't matter who decided on no children, you need to respcet the criteria for their wedding. 10 years from now, your children won't remember the wedding, that includes the 8 year old. Get a grip lady, their day is not completely about you.

Today must be "drama llama day". Eff it, I want a llama!

*Steps down from soap box, kicks it the side* THIS IS SOME BULLSH*T!!!!!

FMW ~ BatLlama
Just got an e-mail from FB asking if my girl could be a FG - toss flower and either helping collect paper or passing gifts up to open.

Waiting For the Day (Nicole)

You must have some big problems!!!Children won't remember the wedding? you would be surprised what the kids can remamber - if you can't remember you have a problem.

LMAO@ Edyta K., yeah, kids remember a lot. But NO KID under the age of 5 is likely going to remember a wedding they did or did not attend. If you think so, holla at me in 10 years and let me know if your kids remember not being invited to their "uncole's" wedding.

I went to a wedding (my cousin's) when I was 8, I don't "remamber" it. I only know I was there because there are photos of me there... and I have a VERY good memory. People are always shocked at the crazy things I remember from when I was growing up.

Correct me if I'm wrong, but the only one here with "big problems" is you. That is why you started this ridiculous thread to begin with. Yeesh, people in glass houses...I tell ya..

Mrs. Murdie if it is ridiculous why are part of this?
You have pictures, they will not !!!

*Bows to, Mrs. Murdle*... If by chance a vague memory comes to mind, in regards to the wedding you attended when you were 8 years old, please let us know; we'd love to know how much fun you did or didn't have

No specific part, just all of it in general. You're supposed to be this adult with 3 children who loves her brother, her closest surviving family member, but you're on a forum whining and blatting because he and his FW decided they are not inviting ANY children. Instead of sucking it up and hiring a sitter, or even having a discussion about it, you throw a tantrum and give him the childish ultimatum of "All of us go, or none of us go". It's absurd! The children will live, they will still have an awesome relationship with their dearest uncle even if they don't attend his wedding, kids are very resilient and forgiving. Your relationship with your brother if you don't attend, on the other hand, will be severely fractured and affected by this. It will cause a lot of unnecessary family drama.

The point of what I was saying in regards to the photo of me at that wedding (not even with the bride, it just has the date and is part of a series), is I wouldn't know I was even there without it.

I didnt read all these posts since there are so many, but i want to add, as im sure many others have said that OP you are being childish and selfish. Its your brothers day not yours or your children and you are adding to his stress with this childishness. Your children will be ok not being at the wedding. People have different visions of their day, and they envision their day childless. If you love your brother be there for him, in the end you will regret not going.

A- i can't believe this post is still going (yes i know by posting this i am just adding to it)

B- Didn't read it all

C- i resent the fact that someone (I don't feel like going back and looking ath their name again) said that big city people have big city weddings w/o children, but country people have country weddings with children. Excuse me? seriously? I'm from the burbs of the city and we have weddings with kids. it isn't about where you come from or how much money you have or how "high class" you are, it's about a personal preference to what is more important. an "adult" party, or a family affair.