BIG PROBLEM- NO kids

Uncole? Really?

Leave your kids at home or with a sitter. They are NOT invited to the wedding. Done deal.

Everyone thinks their kids are special and so much better behaved than anyone else's kids. Guess what, they usually aren't.

This is your brother's day, so let the focus be on him and his FW, not on you.

I can see them maybe being invited the the ceremony- but I feel receptions are usually adult oriented with loud music dancing etc...if you can find a babysitter and enjoy the night out! If you feel you cant go because of this- then its sad you will miss it but its your priorities- will you regret it in the future though? is it worth a huge family fight? maybe you can get them invited to the ceremony?

I'm sorry but it's hard to take your seriously.

I'm smelling a troll, perhaps you should stay at home with your children and open up this great book it's called HOOKED ON PHONICS. !

SMH

No kids at my wedding except our but they are special not even my nieces are invited

like Lyndon said its your brothers day its about him and his wife not you and your kids

You must be joking, Christine. You would take food from a buffet to kids not invited?? Most venues will NOT allow that due to liability issues, plus, it is not your food to take.

Also, no matter who the children are, if the Bride and Groom do not want children at their event, they do NOT want children at their event.

Children can be the life of the party? NOPE!

Really, no offense, but what 8, 4, and 2 year old want to be at a wedding or really understand whats going on? I say leave them with a sitter and enjoy your brothers wedding.

Its your brothers day, let him enjoy it.

Wow Kathy and Lyndon a little harsh... Do you guys even understand how hurt she is? She totally understands it is her brothers big day, and totally respects his decision to not allow her kids to come. Can you sympathize with her for a second. Their parents are deceased, grandparents are in another country, and she just wants to support her brother on his big day and have everyone including all three of her children there for their uncle.

How can one criticize another person's opinion on how well behaved they believe their children are? That is the most rudest thing you could ever tell someone who has children, that your kids are not any more well behaved than another person's children. It is already hard enough to raise children as is... people do the best they can. It's hard to come by a babysitter sometimes... easier said than done.

Unfortunate situation Edyta, I would just send a gift and your love, and wish him the best of luck on his big day!

@Charlesetta, not harsh at all. This woman needs to be a grown up and realize that her children are not invited to the wedding.

If she chooses to get bent out of shape and not go to the wedding, then SHE is being the smaller person. Shame on her for trying to foist her wants on those of the Bride and Groom.

My parents are deceased and my grandparents and im still having an adult only reception no matter how well behaved your children might be

I didn't invite children to my wedding and I did not feel an ounce of regret or guilt about it, neither should your soon to be sister in law and brother. My relatives were very supportive and respectful of my decision. I think everyone has been to a wedding with a hellion child with mortified parents who have no choice but to leave early because of their child's behaviour (or the parents who sit and laugh and watch their child misbehaving as if it is funny). It is not a big deal to get a sitter for a day, don't make this issue bigger than it has to be and miss out on the most important day in your brother's life. You will regret not being there, he will resent that you chose to not attend, and there will be a lot of hurt feelings and uneasiness if you keep pushing this issue. Make it easier for everyone and ask if the children can attend the wedding and go to a sitter for the reception, that way he can see you are trying and that you truly want to be there. If he says no, get a sitter!

I dont think shes a troll i think she just was over emotional thinking she could get a bunch of brides sympathy when most brides here are having an adult only wedding and would be offended if a family member said they wouldnt come if the kids werent invited.

I have 4 kids who I seem to be pretty fond of. They're cute, cuddly and really well behaved... WHO AM I KIDDING. They're hellions when you put them in fancy clothes that are itchy and uncomfortable and they especially act up when they're not supposed to! I can understand being upset but at the same time, like you said- you're the closest relative that he has. I think it's rude and disrespectful that 1. You aren't going and 2. that you're searching for somebody to blame. It's THEIR wedding. But that's just my opinion. I say just remember that Karma is real and someday you're going to need him for something and he may choose not to be there. How awful would it be if the shoe was on the other foot?

I am not looking for sympathy just for honest coments.

Tiffany please .... my kids love to wear fancy cloths.

I do not want to go into the history between I and my brother

I want them to have a perfect wedding, thats why this day will be all about them I just will not be at the reception. We forget what wedding is all about - reception is not the most importent they will stand before God and become one for iternity.

Reception is a big part of things i would be extremely hurt by your actions

Thanks for all the coments, this gave me a lot to think about.

Just cause you have a children at your wedding doesnt make you more family-oriented than someone not . Every wedding is different ive heard horror story about kids running around. Ive been to wedding with both kids and no kids and the ones with out are always more relaxing. As a mother myself our kids have been invited two a bunch of wedding and i have chosen not to bring them. My kids are extremly well behaved in public at home not so much. But i would like to enjoy my self as a guest not worry about my kids. and the weddings ive gone to where my kids werent invited many family i didnt though a big fit and refuse to stay the whole time

Thanks Christene H. I am family -oriented maybe too much