Bestman wants to propose at my wedding

I saw that on YouTube once and I just couldn't wrap my head around it. Get your own damn day!

Absolutely not! For one thing, what if she says no?! How awkward and humiliating is that? And think of how that affects your memory of your wedding day?

No way!! I would be mad because it's your special day. But maybe suggest that if she wins the toss the next day take her somewhere cute and then propose. But not on your day. It's about you and your future husband.

Tell him he can if he pay's for the reception, since hell be using for his own event.

Abso-fucking-lutely not!

Hell hell hell no. I would literally toss my drink on anyone who did that. Literally google lists of things not to do at weddings and "propose" is on nearly every one I've ever seen, usually as #1. It's one of the rudest things you can do. The best I would offer would be that if she catches the bouquet he could ask her the next day with it and that if she doesn't catch it I would promise to give them a centerpiece that he could give her the next day and say something like "since you didn't catch the bouquet I brought you this instead".

Honestly, I would calmly but firmly explain to the uncle (well, perhaps have FH do it) that it's your one and only wedding day and you shouldn't have to share it. Heck, mention that you're sure when he marries his GF she won't want to share either and shouldn't have to. If he thinks you are being irrational feel free to show him this feed and he can see that the huge majority of us also would not be ok with this. I'm sure he won't want to upset his nephews wedding day and will back off politely.

I'm in the minority camp who would have no problem with this. I've never understood the argument about people infringing on your day. Yes, it's your day, but do you really think anyone is going to steal your thunder on your wedding day? As if suddenly, after the first dance, etc. when you do the bouquet toss, people will turn the reception around and make it all about the newly engaged couple? Shrug. I don't know, I'd be excited if two of my loved ones got engaged at my reception.

Thank you everyone for the advice. I talked to the FH and told him I would be more then happy to help set up something back at the hotel room or by the water after the wedding but not during. The FH doesnt think it would take away from us but I do. Plus my parents are the ones paying for most of the wedding and we are picking up the rest as his family hasnt helped at all even when we asked.

Hell no!!!!! Who cares if you're not paying for all of it, it's your day, money is irrelevant. Tell him to get his own damn day. I'm glad you're speaking up though!

Hell to the no. I would never want to be proposed to this way. I want my own special moment.

The only way I would be ok with this is if it were my best friend. That's literally the only person.

No! He can propose some other way. It's your day!

He is not thinking of you two at all.. Its not about him meeting his wants on you guys special day.. I would tell him just like this.. HELL NOOOOO KICK ROCKS!! No one should think selfish on your day only you two can be selfish.. Plus on top of that why would he want to that on your dime and time smh

Nope. Not gonna happen. That would effectively end our friendship. You can't piggy back on my one day and use my great catering, decor, photography, etc as a backdrop for your moment.

I would be livid. No! We did not plan all this time for you to take our special day. My brother will be proposing to his girlfriend this year and I made it VERY clear there will be NO PROPOSALS at our wedding. Lucky for me he never even mentioned it and was like "duh! That's messed up! " good luck!

Absolutely not!

He should figure out another way to propose. This is about you and your FH not them.

Ew no. it's in terribly poor taste to propose at someone else's wedding. Have him do it the day after!! That would piss me off so much. You need to veto that!!

I'm another member of Team Nope! ETA: Saw your update and yay for you!

Nope. Bye.