Bestman wants to propose at my wedding

Yeah.... I wouldn't be happy about that either. Not sure how to respond, but you're not out of line to be rubbed the wrong way by this.

My thoughts are NOPE.

Nope nope nopity nope. He can do it at any other point in the weekend.

Um no

Personally, no way! Get your own day.

In all honesty, I've seen the videos of this and I think they're adorable but I find it incredibly rude

No. What. WHY? I don't understand why people feel the need to take the attention away from the bride and groom on their ONE DAY! If he really wants to propose, tell him to take his girlfriend for a walk around the venue the night of, have a nice secluded area set up and all romantic like, and do it there. If it were me, I would just respond with, "My fiance and I just want to have this one day. We would be happy to help you set up plans to propose after the wedding!"

No freaking way!

Your FH has kind of put you in a tough spot by telling his uncle it'd probably be fine, but I definitely wouldn't be okay with this. I'd just tell his uncle that his girlfriend will probably want her own day, rather than getting proposed to at someone else's wedding.

He saw that on that YouTube video. I dont really think that's appropriate, you get ONE day and i don't think it's selfish for you to not want to share that. Couldn't he do it after the wedding is over? Still romantic.

I feel like our wedding day is one day for it to be all about the two of us. Not someone I've never met before. I'm just never the center of attention and I feel like that's our one day to be and wouldn't want to share it. Maybe I'm selfish but that's how I feel.

For whatever reason this doesn't bother me?? I'm not sure how to make the bouquet toss work other than telling all the other girls...but a proposal at my wedding isn't something I'd be upset about? That's just me though.

Noooo omg just no...

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I actually was going to hint to a friend of mine that our wedding destination would be a beautiful place to propose! I totally wouldn't have a problem with it, but I'd want to be in on the surprise. I think I'd be angry if I had no clue it was happening, but if I knew, I'd be all for it. Especially, if they want to do it during the bouquet toss, that's later in the evening anyways. I guess, I personally wouldn't mind, but I could understand why it would bother you, and think it's perfectly okay for you to have FH tell his uncle that you don't feel comfortable with the idea. I think it's a little crappy that FH put the onus on you by saying he had no issue with it, but at this point, there's no taking that back.

This has come up before and the general consensus is to not allow this especially if you're not totally ok with it. It's nice that he asked, but on the other hand I would still say no. Your wedding is YOUR wedding and not really his place to do that. I mean we sang happy birthday to a cousin at my wedding but it was midnight and not many people were around anymore -- plus it was just a birthday!

Since he's on your FH's side, have you FH tell him that it isn't really appropriate and encourage him to find a different way to propose. Some people (including me) would have been horrified with a public proposal. Also, what if she says no.

Are you having a bouquet toss? I'm not even having one so my quick answer would be like nope, no bouquet toss, can't fit this into our night.

I would tell him that you have a beautiful venue and he's more than welcome to take advantage of it, but you would rather not stop the flow of the evening for this.

I just want to say that I would be PISSED if FH proposed to me at someone else's wedding. WTH!

Nope. If you're not okay with it, don't compromise. Nicely explain you don't want to have to worry about that on a day you put so much time, effort, and money into. Say you'd be happy to help anyway you can, but that you'd like your day to focus on you and your future husband.

It's beyond me how people think this is okay.

I would not have done this at my wedding.

No way! That's your day!

Like many others said, your wedding is YOUR wedding. I would encourage another option and your wedding is not a venue for another proposal.