Bestman wants to propose at my wedding

Hell no. I've seen one video of this all over Facebook and suddenly everyone thinks this is a good idea. God bless the bride who was gracious enough to let that happen (the newly engaged girl was a BM though) but I never could. It's one day to be selfish. Idk why other people would try to make this day about themselves.

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The good thing is he did ask before just doing it be day of... But I would still say no!!!! If she is up here for the whole weekend, he can find another time to do it.

Uhh

Ew NO. Just because one person did it, and it got a million likes on facebook and youtube does not make it okay. Go do it later after the wedding or another day that isn't supposed to be about YOU and your groom! Totally rude IMO.

I absolutely hate the idea. I don't blame you for feeling that way

I wouldn't be happy about it either. Also, I agree, you don't know someone else will catch the bouquet. Tell him, that is sooo sweet that you want to propose to your girlfriend, but can you please wait til our wedding is over? Thanks! And maybe suggest, that he propose later at night back in their hotel room/his place... privately....

It's not being selfish to not want someone to steal your moment. Your wedding is ONE day, and should be about you.

Lol why would you *want* to propose at someone else's wedding?

Plus, what if she says no? Super awkward for everyone.

No. It may feel hard to tell him no, but this is your day. Besides, I wouldn't want to be proposed to at someone else's wedding. On your wedding, the attention should be on you. The day he proposes to her, the attention will be on her. But this day should not be the same day! Say no. Maybe explain to him that you're uncomfortable with the idea.

I´d be upset if someone asked to propose on my wedding day. If nothing else because I would hate being proposed to in the middle of someone else's wedding. It was hard enough having FH's siblings, parents, and grandmother all staring at me when he proposed. Thinking about it if was at a wedding with a bunch of people I probably wouldn't know is making me anxious.

Nope. You get one day and they do not get to steal your thunder.

ETA: also I would have been horribly embarrassed and felt really awkward of FH had proposed to me in public (on someone else's big day) like that. This girl will have no choice but to say yes. So much pressure!

So much nope. This is for your sake and this girls. I would be seriously embarrassed if FH had proposed at a someone else's wedding.

I think it would depend on who was wanting to propose at my wedding. I understand being a little unenthusiastic about someone proposing to a stranger at your wedding. But before you make up your mind, consider it from your fiance's perspective: you may have only met the uncle once, but he obviously means a lot to your fiance if he is the best man. Regardless of how well your fiance knows the GF, he may be really happy for his uncle. If he really wants to do this for his uncle, don't shoot it down without talking it through first.

As for the logistics of making sure it goes to a particular person, you can pretend to throw it with your back to everyone, and then turn at the last minute to the GF. If she's close enough, you can lightly toss it to her underhand, or you can walk over to her and hand it to her. My cousin handed her bouquet to my other cousin's GF as a hint that the family wanted to keep her. My cousin proposed 4 months later. Anyway, just a tip on how to make sure she gets the bouquet, if you decide to do it.

No no a thousand times no. I feel bad you even have to deal with this but make FH talk to his uncle and let him know you both talked and decided it wasn't what you wanted.

I second all the nopes. Also, thank the good lord your FH didn't fully commit you to it by ending his sentence saying, "...I don't see it being an issue."

No. This is a shitty idea. Who wants to get engaged at someone else's wedding?

I would not like this at all. It's the one day of my entire life that's only about me and my husband. Tell uncle to wait a day.

NO. I don't think there's a word for how enraged I would be if that happened!

I feel like I would be so disappointed in my FI if they proposed to me at someone else's wedding! Maybe tell FH that no girl wants to be proposed to at someone else's wedding and you are actually doing the BM a favor by saying no.

I'd have absolutely no problem with it . In fact Id be really excited to be part of the surprise. I never understood the issue people take with it, if anything it would make it more special for me.

So much NOPE. For many many reasons.