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Devoted July 2016

Bestman wants to propose at my wedding

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NicoleAnn, on March 3, 2016 at 5:56 PM

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The best man (grooms uncle) who I have only meant once just called my FH to ask him about the wedding and to ask a favor. He is flying his girlfriend up for the weekend to come to our wedding and wants to propose to her at my wedding. His idea is to have me throw my bouquet at her, then he will propose. My FH told him he didnt see an issue with it but he needed to ask me. I personally do have an issue with it. There is no way to guaratee that she is going to be the one to win the bouqet toss and also I feel like its imposing on our special day. What are your thoughts and how would you respond this sitution?

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Expert June 2016
LaToya · on March 9, 2016 at 12:45 PM
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I'd say no. It's YOUR day.
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Dedicated March 2017
Weddingplanning · on March 9, 2016 at 12:53 PM
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This actually doesn't bother me either. I think it's cute. I saw it on social media and it was sweet. However if you are not in to it, you shldnt do it. Your day.
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Master September 2014
Staci · on March 9, 2016 at 12:53 PM
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How does this have so many comments?
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VIP February 2016
Patricia · on March 9, 2016 at 6:02 PM
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Traci is that WWKatie in your picture?
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Devoted September 2017
Meghan · on March 9, 2016 at 6:31 PM
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Noo waaay!
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Expert December 2017
Princess I · on March 9, 2016 at 6:32 PM
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Absolutely not.
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Savvy September 2020
Lacey · on March 9, 2016 at 10:27 PM
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No way in hell! That's your day.
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Just Said Yes November 2017
Courtney · on March 9, 2016 at 10:50 PM
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Absolutely not!
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Beginner August 2016
Adria · on March 9, 2016 at 11:11 PM
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Yeah one of my groomsmen just told me he plans on proposing the day before my wedding and I was not exactly thrilled either. If it makes you feel uncomfortable explain that to him. I doubt she would want someone to propose at her wedding.
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Dedicated June 2017
RowlettToBe · on March 10, 2016 at 3:47 AM
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Yeah nope that day is about you and your husband, not him and his girlfriend!
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VIP April 2016
bridetobe · on March 12, 2016 at 8:53 AM
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Nop nope nope
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Devoted July 2012
Chris · on March 12, 2016 at 3:17 PM
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I tried to get my cousin to propose to his girlfriend at my wedding. My husband is the one who didn't like the idea. Personally, I would have loved it. Cousin was ready to propose but didn't do it at the wedding and they were married a year later.
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Rachel DellaPorte · on March 12, 2016 at 3:27 PM
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Haven't people learned that public proposals don't guarantee accepted proposals? What if the woman said no? Talk about a bummer of a reception....and frankly, that's not even the point.

A proposal of marriage involves exactly two people. It should be unthinkable to suggest that a third party has the right to piggyback a private event to feature their own private event. This man can take his intended out to dinner, pull out the black velvet box, and propose on his own. If she says yes, the waiter can bring a bottle of champagne and shoot a photo of the betrothed couple on their cell phone. They can make it public by posting the photos and news on Facebook.

Your wedding -- something that resulted from an investment of your time, energy, and money -- isn't the proverbial stage for your guests' announcements. The entire day -- from the moment the bride and her attendants enter the bridal suite until the moment the bride and her spouse pull out of the parking lot -- belongs to the two people named on the wedding invitation.
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