Are you offended by "Pretty Princess Days"?

What is a pretty princess day?

I was going to ask the same thing.

@Nadine

When a couple is already married (JOP or civil) and then they throw another wedding with a ceremony, first dance, etc.

Some people prefer JOP and some do it cause their significant other is in the army or navy. I would go to their wedding. They obviously have a wedding also so they can celebrate with their family. I don't think there is anything wrong with it at all. As long as people going know its to celebrate and that they already got married but didn't have the wedding. But no I don't see anything wrong with it. Every man and woman deserves a wedding if they want one.

If anything, I would be more offended by someone calling it a "Pretty Princess Day," insinuating that the day was an excuse for the "bride" to get dressed up, rather than a celebration of their union with those they love. "Pretty Princess Day" sounds very sarcastic and patronizing. Five year olds have Pretty Princess Days.

ETA: @Lori, I see your point. Assuming that everyone was honest about it, I wouldn't think it was offensive, but the whole white dress thing and making it seem to guests as though it was the first and only wedding is deceitful.

I think the main argument over at TK against this is that, if you choose a JOP or civil ceremony or destination wedding, you are an adult making that choice and you should live with it. They see it as gift grabby or conceited to later on go through the whole motions (white dress, walking down the aisle, etc.). While I kind of see their point, that you pick your wedding and though it might not be ideal you're stuck with it, I am not at all personally offended if a couple makes the choice to do a small, private ceremony for whatever reason and later celebrate with friends and family. I think the only thing that would offend me is if the couple were legally married first and didn't tell anyone. Sorry, I know some people on here are doing this, but I would feel let down and lied to, especially if it was a close friend or relative.

I would go - everyone's situation is different. A couple I know went to the JOP and then for their 5 year anniversary they had a big wedding/vow renewal.

Think I have more important things to worry about than to distinguish between a PPD, a "real" wedding and a vow renewal. They are all symbolic and a celebration of the couple, love and marriage. If invited I would attend as if where the first time they said I do.

I've never been invited to one. But I agree with you....as long as I knew, I wouldn't be offended and would attend.

ETA - I do hate it when people call the renewal their "real wedding".

I had never heard of that either. "Pretty princess day" is a stupid term for that. I would just call it a vow renewal and/or marriage celebration. The PPD thing just seems like a bunch of catty women making fun of it because it doesnt fit to what they think or were told what is right or wrong. LOTS of people do it because its right for them. If the guest doesn't think it's appropriatte or they don't like it they just shouldn't attend.

I would definitely go especially if the couple was important to me.

I'm not offended at all. I wouldn't even care if I wasn't told the truth about them actually being married beforehand. Actually, I would prefer not to know. I know people get all kinds of upset about it but personally I don't care. Way too many other things in the world to care about.

ETA-I wouldn't do it cause I'm cheap. Once I'm married, that's it. although I have thought about going to city hall and then having a vow renewal on our honeymoon so we can say our own special vows. It would only be us though so there's no one to offend.

Never heard of it before. To me the name is stupid but other than that I would go if I like the person

Anyone who doesn't like it can kiss my ENTIRE a**. FH and I are going to the JOP on 11/8 and then having a ceremony on 11/9.

I'm not offended by vow renewals at all, BUT I do agree with Lori on this:

"I think the only thing that would offend me is if the couple were legally married first and didn't tell anyone. Sorry, I know some people on here are doing this, but I would feel let down and lied to, especially if it was a close friend or relative."

I was one of those attacked on TK for this. My husband and I eloped, with our big wedding/vow renewal next year. The ladies were not nice, but I did indicate that we did not want to share that we were married except with our families and try to pass the renewal as our real wedding. I do see the error of this, as those who truly care about us are just as excited about the renewal and our wedding day was the day I became my husband's wife. Also, as soon as we got married, I was so flipping happy I just had to tell everyone. So, I am ok with the so called "pretty princess day", hate that term though, as long as everyone knows the couple is already married.

Eh I wrote a hateful reply(to the ones who are just so overboard with the negativity) on one thread there. Now I've got someone who keeps pming me calling me a selfish liar and how she can't believe fh wants to marry me.

Personally, if you're upfront and not lying about it, it's your money. But I'm probably not going to keep the secret if someone asks if I knew.

I think they're kind of a waste, but different strokes for different folks. If you're doing it blatantly for the attention an to be gift grabby, etc, I'd be upset tho.

I hate that term as well. I wouldn't be offended at all and would definitely attend. Celebrating a couple's love is beautiful no matter what their situation is.

Damn Cheetah those ladies really are crazy. Why would she personally go out of her way just to continue insulting someone, what a B!

I've never actually gone on any other wedding forums so i don't know from experience but those types of stories remind to not bother trying lol.

I wouldn't rule out attending, but I wouldn't make as much of an effort to attend a "wedding" if the couple were already married. I'd treat it as similar to an anniversary party--nice to celebrate the couple's love, but not a once in a lifetime event.

To each his own! If it's what your friend/family member/etc wants, then support them and be happy for them!