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Are you offended by "Pretty Princess Days"?

Cherry, on July 25, 2013 at 7:37 PM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 64

I have been reading some posts on tk and I saw that most of the ladies didn't like them. Some of them are even offended by them. Which made me think (I know some of you here already frequent tk), what do the ladies in ww think. I personally don't think they're offensive. I would still attend one...

I have been reading some posts on tk and I saw that most of the ladies didn't like them. Some of them are even offended by them. Which made me think (I know some of you here already frequent tk), what do the ladies in ww think.

I personally don't think they're offensive. I would still attend one even if only I knew it was one.

So do you ladies and gentlemen get offended by the thought of a PPD? Would you attend one if you were invited to one and knew it?

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    Savvy February 2014
    Christina ·
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    I just experienced my second bashing on TK. Neither times were over PPD, I kept my mouth shut on that subjects seeing the bashing when I was lurking.

    I'm so happy to see that there are others out there that agree, no matter the reason, you went to JOP and got "legally" married. Then later have the kind of wedding you want, that it's okay.

    @ Miss B- I've seen on TK women come back and answer saying "If you can't afford the kind of wedding you want" OR "if you can't HOST your guests properly" then you don't deserve to have a wedding. O.O I was like seriously?!?!? Really?! I swear they are so weird and judgmental over there. I feel like it's high school all over again. If you're not "cool" enough and follow what the popular kids do you're just out.

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    Just Said Yes June 2014
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    I was on TK earlier and I saw the thread about PPD. I had never heard about it before but I checked it out anyway. After about 20 minutes reading the thread I had suddenly started to feel absolutely awful about my "PPD Wedding".

    My husband (we are legally married) and I had to get married abroad (courthouse & in a different language) in order for his immigration process to be as smooth as possible. Only my mother was able to attend from my side of the family and none of my U.S. friends. And it was the only way we could do it without either: 1) being separated for at least a year 2) having large gaps of time where my husband (then Fiance) would have been legally unable to work in the U.S. We are now, after 2 years of going through immigration (not the plan we had made but bureaucracy is awesome...) we are finally able to go to the US and have our "wedding". I was really excited, all of our guests know the situation and have been waiting for us to have our "wedding" there, and I had finally been able to start planning and booking things. We are having a ceremony to exchange vows (we didn't have the option at the civil ceremony) and I'm going to wear a white dress. We're going to have a ceremony and maybe a "first dance".

    After reading it I felt so awful and guilty that I was doing something utterly selfish and demeaning to the institution of marriage. I was a pretty princess demanding her day. Stupidly, I posted about our entire situation and asked if that was really being a pretty princess. They didn't rip me apart but I was told I should have made a different choice if I wanted the big wedding. LIKE I HAD A CHOICE?!?! I'm sorry but the love of my life isn't a U.S. citizen and that creates very real and difficult problems. We have had to dictate every part of our lives around his process of obtaining a green card. And I know I don't "deserve" a white wedding/pretty princess wedding, it is a privilege! And we're going to PAY for that privilege of exchanging vows and celebrating with our family and friends.

    Thanks for this thread.. thanks for being kind and understanding here. After reading all your comments from here I am no longer filled with anxiety that all my guests will think I'm an egotistical nut.

    Sorry for the rant... :/ But seriously, this whole PPD thing has thrown me off today.

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    Savvy September 2015
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    I am having what these ladies call a pretty princess day. I went through hell with my first husband, I have now married the man of my dreams and we did courthouse a year and a half ago because I needed his insurance for a complicated medical procedure. We are being "married" in a catholic church and our priest has made it clear that THIS is our marriage. Yes, I am 55 and having all of the "wedding" things. I hope my friends and family are happy for me but if not then don't come. I did not register and I am not expecting gifts. I did not put that we didn't want any because that is a faux pas in itself. Those ladies over at TK are vicious. I needed some advice regarding something and they told me to grow up, called me names, said I MUD (made up drama) so I called them names right back. I then looked at some things and found that they have over 10K in posts among them, I read just a sampling and it is the same MO, Find someone who needs advice and attack them. I say get a life. Geez

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