Are you offended by "Pretty Princess Days"?

We did a ceremony in Mexico that "technically" wasn't legal and got married a few weeks later in the US legally by the judge. I still consider our Mexican wedding our wedding day not the one we did in court.

I don't see what the big deal is... seriously it's not your wedding so who are you to judge? If you don't like the idea then keep your mouth closed and don't attend. It's not like people are asking for double the presents etc. so I just really don't see what the big deal is.

Im with Alli. even though Hubs and I are "married" we are still having the wedding celebration. Its to celebrate our love.

I'm not offended by them and I agree the term is stupid. I think being honest about it is important, though. I don't know if "offended" is the right term, but if I went to a wedding and then found out later that they'd actually been married for 6 months, it would rub me the wrong way. I feel like if people are important enough to celebrate your marriage with you, you should be able to be honest with them about it.

D1 I did see that episode and I thought it was sweet... If its just a small gathering and more intimate... It's really just the big "vow renewals" that get me because its like LOOK AT ME AND MY HUSBAND WE LOVE EACH OTHER OK??!' BACK OFF BITCHES HE IS MINE!

Edited to add: I really REALLY don't mean to offend anyone if this is what you're doing. You do whatever you want to do. Don't care what I think.

@GypsyBride

Yup

I'd ask GypsyBride is that you too but I think it clearly is.

I am offended that it is called a PPD. Eff that shit I am having a wedding because at the time I got married (for our own personal reasons) we could not have a wedding. And we deserve a wedding if that is what we want. I am not dressing up to play a princess. I am dressing up for the occasion of being married and celebrate that fact with our loved ones. And because of the fact that we were married by a notary and not a Pastor before God the way we wanted to, now we get to do that and it is REAL because there is still a line on our marriage certificate that is designated for the church to be signed. So none of it is in vane and not for any one's amusement or to put on a show. We are having a wedding because we want one. We are celebrating how we want because it is our prerogative. I dont understand why people even care about what others do. Its as if they are so miserable, they need to sit and pick at what is "right" or "wrong" in their own eyes because they have nothing better to do.

BTW thanks for that link Rev Ann

I'm with some of the others that say be honest with people and then do your thing. I assume if you're inviting me, we're close enough to let me know that you had to get married for tax/insurance/we already wanted to be legally married reasons. I'm not gonna NOT celebrate your wedding any less because you're legally married -- I wasn't there, I didn't get to celebrate with you!

But I won't appreciate if you are married and you're acting as if you aren't, I think that's misleading. And I think most of the ladies I've seen on here are not doing that.

And like Nafina, it's one thing to do an elopement/JOP and then have a big celebration. It's bratty to say you didn't like how things went, so let's do it again. There's things that could have gone better at my wedding, no doubt, but I had mine and doing it again ONE year later is silly.

Oh, also don't get the yearly vow renewals that some celebrities do.

And also, very well said in that blog post, Rev Ann!

Thank you Kris if that was you! I'm thrilled with the group of ladies here.

One of the reasons we are getting married so soon is because I am in a similar situation as Allison and need the insurance. But refused to go to the JOP just because of that (and because he married his 1st wife that way. lol) So am toughing it out for a couple of months until we can have something romantic and memorable as well as practical. But we also wanted something for just us, but also something that includes our children and loved ones so trying to find the best of both worlds and not keeping secrets from anyone. We are totally open about the whole thing.

No matter how we all do it, we have to follow our own hearts and do what is right by us and our beliefs so that we have no regrets at the end of the day. At least in my opinion. Take it for what you will.

I wouldn't be offended by it. I would see it as a vow renewal.

I've never heard of it & I hope I never do again. Many of my couples get married in private ceremonies for reasons that are theirs alone. When (and if) they have a big wedding, they don't have to call it a vow renewal, they don't have to scale down their plans, they don't have to do anything differently because SOMEONE ELSE has decided to have an opinion about THEIR LIFE. I have no patience at all for that kind of judgement. If a couple got married so their health insurance would cover their sick child or spouse, who would have the balls to call their 'vow renewal' a sham marriage? Not me, that's for sure.

A wedding, in addition to being a legal contract, is a community celebration of a milestone life event. Period. Whether that celebration comes immediately after the ceremony or later on doesn't matter. And anyone who thinks it does has spent too much time considering other people's decisions as if their opinions mattered.

And the phrase, "PPD" is revolting and childish.

^^^^YESSSSS @CELIA MILTON!!!

My SO and I have been together for 8 years, living together for 7 of them. We're both in our 30's and I've been married and divorced previously. This past spring we decided we wanted to get married in Mexico, and set a date for September 2014. There was no official "proposal" just two adults making life decisions. Earlier this month my SO got pretty sick. He has no health insurance and I do. My company doesn't extend benefits to "domestic partners" and there was NO DOUBT in my mind that he'd NEVER withhold health insurance or health care from me because he wanted a "proper wedding." So we went down to the courthouse, paid our $30, signed a piece of paper and voila, we're legally married. We've only told about 6 people because I don't want the pompous jerks of the world belittling our wedding. God help the fool who should call our special day a PPD. As of right now we are still claiming "engaged" and probably will publicly until our wedding to avoid the fallout of my telling anyone rude enough to make a negative comment to go to hell. In truth, we were going to get legally married right before we left Colorado anyway bc the legal marriage requirements for visitors in Mexico are ridiculous. Anyone that concerned about how we file our taxes next year needs a hobby. And anyone who refers to ANYTHING as a "pretty princess day" is a condescending douche.

I don't see their point at all. How is it more conceited than wearing a big dress and throwing a big party without being married first? Cuz last I checked, you don't NEED any of that to get married, and all of it is for the bride and groom. The guests aren't insisting you wear a wedding gown and they get no enjoyment out of how pretty they feel while you wear it. Just sayin'. As for the gift thing, many couples decide to not make a registry or tell people no gifts. If their friends and family still want to give them gifts than that's up to them imo. No one else has a right to be offended that someone decided to give someone a gift. It's not like they took it from you to give it to the couple. Geez TK is bishy.

I am way more offended by the phrase than the idea behind it

my friends got married at the jop for her green card, they had been together 7 years and were saving for the ceremony, her time was running out a year later they had their big ceremony so what

my friends got married at the jop cause she was preggers and needed his insurance they had been together 5 years, and 2 years later they had their big wedding I partied it up with them no problem

friends got married because of deployment, health scare, whatever it is not your place to judge if you don't agree with it, don't go

I HATE HATE HATE the phrase pretty princess day. Especially sine a large majority of the brides who are SO against them live with there FH before hand and practically act married anyway... Idk I don't get it.

I could make a post a mile long as to why I hate it but there have been some who have already summed it up nicely.

100% with Pan

Right when I thought I couldn't love you ladies anymore, I do. Thank you for your opinions on the subject. For a moment there I thought I was the only one that wasn't offended by them by rather by the people that belittle those that don't celebrate things just the way they do.

Once again thanks ww, for making me feel comfortable with my plan. Like I said before, I heart Celia Mitlon and Rev. Fuller.

The term PPD is so stupid and offensive.