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Are you Doing a First Look?

Neffe, on July 31, 2018 at 10:05 AM Posted in Wedding Ceremony 0 61
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Are you sticking with tradition and “saving the best for last” and waiting for the walk down the aisle? Or, are you doing a first look and sharing a moment of intimacy before the official I-do’s?

When will you and your future spouse first see each other on the wedding day?

Are you Doing a First Look? 1

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Need help weighing the pros and cons or looking for first look photo tips? Check out:

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  • K
    Super September 2018
    Kate ·
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    We're doing a first look. It changed because FH relealizd pics could take up to 2 hours after the ceremony and he wants to be in the reception by then. So we're going to do a first look and enjoy the reception
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  • Mrs. Jones
    Expert May 2018
    Mrs. Jones ·
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    We didn’t do a first look
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  • F
    Super August 2018
    FutureMrsO ·
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    We're doing one. We want to maximize our time with guests, plus we're having an expansive cocktail hour and don't want to miss the food!

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  • A
    Savvy July 2018
    Ashley ·
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    We did one and it was so incredibly special! My photographer had Adam (my husband, I love saying that!) stand with his back facing where I would be coming from. She talked to him about not turning around until she told him to so she could get some cute pictures with me walking toward him, me holding his arm while his back was turned, etc. I will never forget his expression when he turned around. Our photographer snapped the pictures as we laughed and cried together, but was not intrusive at all. When she was done, she told us she was going to take her time and round up the rest of the bridal party (we did bridal party pics before the wedding ceremony because it was super hot and we just got our hair and makeup done and wanted to look as fresh as possible). Adam and I were hidden behind the house at this time so no guests would see us and we took in the view and talked about how happy we were and about the rest of our lives together. It is a moment I will treasure forever!
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  • FutureMrsKC
    Master January 2019
    FutureMrsKC ·
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    We really really really didn't want to do a first look but since we are getting married in January we are already fighting daylight with a 4:30 wedding. So we opted to do a first look to have as much daylight and time as possible for photos. It was just less stressful this way.

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  • DC Wife 10.27.18
    Master October 2018
    DC Wife 10.27.18 ·
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    We are doing a first look. We want to be able to spend time with our guests!

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  • KarenO
    Master June 2018
    KarenO ·
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    We did a first look. We are both pretty traditional, but we're both also practical - realizing that having a first look really helps knock those photos out early and lets you enjoy more time with your guests.

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  • Amanda
    Dedicated November 2018
    Amanda ·
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    We decided to stay traditional and wait for the aisle.

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  • Neffe
    Master July 2020
    Neffe ·
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    Awww, this is beautiful Ashley!! I love how your photographer captured real-time candids that captured your emotions!! So precious!! Smiley love Smiley heart

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  • Neffe
    Master July 2020
    Neffe ·
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    Ha, awesome way of making the decision!! Smiley shame

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  • OrangeCrush
    Super October 2017
    OrangeCrush ·
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    We did not do one - no regrets. I will NEVER forget the look on his face, coming up the walk and seeing me for the first time, though!!!

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  • Gen
    Champion June 2019
    Gen ·
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    We’re not doing one. We want to have the special moment of seeing each other the first time at the ceremony! Can’t justify to ourselves having that emotional moment for a photo shoot... would rather have it at our ceremony
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  • Neffe
    Master July 2020
    Neffe ·
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    The traditional "aisle moment" is also so beautiful! It upholds that element of surprise so nicely!! Smiley kiss

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  • Jen
    Super May 2018
    Jen ·
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    We did a first look. Both my husband and I wanted some time where it was just the 2 of us (and the photographers). We knew the day would be busy and we probably wouldn't get a lot of time alone after that. It didn't take away from the awe and love on his face when I walked down the aisle at the ceremony either. It also meant we could attend our cocktail hour and we were able to greet and hug every single guest before we even entered the ballroom for dinner.

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  • Happy Hedgie
    VIP September 2018
    Happy Hedgie ·
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    First look for sure! This was one of the very first decisions we made when planning the wedding.

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  • Mrs. J
    Expert October 2018
    Mrs. J ·
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    I wanted to do a first look for the sake of spending more time with guests but FH had one thing he was insisting upon for this wedding and that was that he doesn't get a first look until I'm walking down the aisle.

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  • J
    Devoted August 2018
    Jillian ·
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    Im doing a first look with my papa who is walking me down the aisle.
    But my FH and I arent seeing eachother until the ceremony.
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  • Neffe
    Master July 2020
    Neffe ·
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    Aw, this is absolutely precious Jillian! Smiley love I loveee it!!! Smiley heart

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  • L
    Beginner September 2019
    Lori ·
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    I was against doing a first look as I like the idea of my guests witnessing our first time seeing each other but with timing we will be doing one. We are taking pictures before the ceremony so that we can have more time to socialize with guests at cocktail hour therefore leaving more time to dance at the reception! Plus, our hair and makeup will be fresher looking for pictures before the ceremony!
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  • Kristina
    Master August 2018
    Kristina ·
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    I fought a first look for a long time. but now I'm really glad we're doing one, and I'm SUPER excited to do it!

    I'd probably have an anxiety attack if I waited to see my FH until I walked down the aisle. The first look will allow me to de-stress a little bit before the ceremony. He's my rock and he's able to calm me down in a second, so it'll be nice to be able to touch him, kiss him, have him be there before the craziness of the day. It'll take some huge pressure off of me!

    Also, I want a real, genuine reaction from him, and I know if he's in front of his brother and cousins, I won't get that. I don't know if he'll cry, if he does I can't wait to see the emotion in his eyes, but I will get a genuine smile and we'll be able to talk and laugh and be ourselves without the pressure of everyone watching!

    I'm also doing a smaller first look with my daddy Smiley laugh

    I'm tearing up thinking about it, honestly. Lol! 17 days!

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