Anyone get crap for the size of their engagement ring?

@crescent sounds like my friend I mentioned above who said "I love your ring, but I wouldn't accept a ring under 2 carats". Yup. Because THATS what matters. You got it.

@sydney - that's the best response. Love when it's "not their style" okay cool don't wear it then?

@nicole - I love opals, my FH does too. When we were talking about the upgrade he wanted to do after the proposal I suggested an opal or mystic topaz and he shut that down "no, you are getting a diamond". He's super traditional and I'm super not. Makes our relationship fun though

You find out a lot about yourself and your opinions about tradition through this whole wedding thing. I found that FH really wanted things to be purposefully non-traditional, while I wanted some thing like a bridal party, wedding dress, etc. that I didn't even realize were considered "traditional." But we both agreed about the non-traditional engagement ring. I think the diamonds with the opal make it more fancy, for me. I'm just not a "flashy" gal, I would consider my ring to be as flashy as it gets, and I have a lot of strong opinions about the diamond and engagement ring industry. But, I still love looking at everyone's diamond rings. And I bought myself a nice diamond band for the big day. :-)

Austi...That is SO RUDE! And I'm sorry you have to deal with that. Truly....Mine is a .65 center I think? With a halo. Altogether a little over 1cttw and I have a size 7 finger. It's perfect.

Looking at Britts you guys have tiny fingers! Britt your ring is gorgeous!

In Europe the average size is a .50ct. It's so consumer driven here, he doesn't love you unless he gives you a giant diamond. BS.

I get the "look" about mine all the time and I'm over it. I've also gotten several "oh"s after people have asked to view my ring. I absolutely love it though. Mine happens to be a family heirloom that was worn by my great great aunt, my grandmother (who passed when I was little) and my mother. For those reasons alone I love my ring, but it is annoying that people think the size of your diamond equals the amount your FH loves you.

My fiance and I picked my ring together and when he proposed there was a bigger diamond in it than I had picked out. My future mother in law was angry and told me I was just out for what I could get out of him. She even found the receipt from her engagement ring which was purchased 26 years before we got engaged and thought it was appropriate to tell his entire extended family how much her engagement ring had cost and that it definately wasn't anywhere near what her son had to spend "to make her (me) happy". My fiances cousin got engaged 2 days after we did with a ring that probably costs twice what mine did but his mother still complained about how much mine was. The way I see it, as long as you're happy go with it. People are going to find something wrong with everything.

I've had a few people (mostly nosy coworkers) say the dont like the tiny diamonds and that he should have got me a bigger stone. I'm just like um, no. He picked it, and I'm in love with, kindly STFU.

Ignore them. You're wearing it, not them. Their opinions are irrelevant.

Wow! Shallow! A ring is a ring. I'd change the subject to how lucky you are to have FH and how excited you are to get married. Remind them of what matters: love and commitment.

@Austi, I honestly barely wear my e-ring unless I'm going out. I wear it to work although I probably shouldn't because it's more delicate (pearl) and it could get damaged. I have gotten a lot of compliments on how vintage it looks and how unique. I honestly got more crap from my MIL about not wearing it every minute because she "never takes hers off." Ok. Cool. People just have so many inappropriate and unwelcome opinions about other people's engagement rings! @Austi, your ring is beautiful because it represents the love between you and your FH.

@shawnda - wow lady, I am so sorry! Hope your FI told her where she can stick that receipt. Or at least defended you. Though I could see certain people saying similar stuff if I had went for a larger stone, simply because we are deciding on the upgrade together, and if I picked the biggest one I could find, I'm sure I'd get some side eye about that. Can't win either way. Either you are a gold digger for having a big one or your FI doesn't love you if you have a small one. What the hell. Lol

I think the diamond on mine is a little under half a carat. It was the diamond that was on my mom's engagement ring- she passed away a little over a year ago and I ASKED for my ring to have her diamond because it was important to me. I was explaining to this woman one time who asked where he got it (the band and halo are new) and her response was "Oh sweetie, he wouldn't even buy a new diamond? I would have said no!" It was so incredibly rude. I'm in love with my ring and I would take this diamond over a 'big' one any day.

Do these rude people have rings?

Austi- I keep suggesting alternative gems, etc to my girl. She is set on a diamond because tradition. I argue but who deemed that necessary? We go back and forth. Mine is the promise ring she bought initially, when she wasn't quite sure she was ready for engagement. I told her I have no problem with it being my Ering also. We don't have a bunch of money. She wants bigger. I love my ring.

Stupid blurry picture.

I think it's super rude strangers or even friends to comment on your engagement ring. I was in the same boat, and felt awful. My ring is gorgeous, custom made with lots of love. Funny how my friends made fun of it and they are in no position to do so. My FH chose to go with a diamond that sparkles for days as opposed to something large and cloudy. It certainly shines like the smile I wear everyday with it

I think it's interesting to see that there are problems on the opposite spectrum - women with "larger" rings getting side eye for being status obsessed or money hungry. Basically just shows you that people are a bunch of bishes and you can't make everyone happy. Just focus on making yourself and your partner happy.

FH could have given me a bread tie twisty and I still would have cried like a little baby when he purposed. It isn't about the ring, it's about two people who love each other so much they want to commit their lives to one another. I'm down with @Fiddlins idea of asking someone where their ring is when they comment. I am a petty bitch like that though too.

Don't mind my water retaining fingers. I may of ate shitty yesterday lol. But I've received nothing but compliments on my ring. And with that being said I BETTER. To each their own! We all have different tastes, styles, and budgets. If I tied a string around my finger it wouldn't matter. If people say rude things THEY are materialistic snobs. You don't need to feel bad or explain why you have the size you do. People should give you nothing but compliments and move on. If they don't then don't worry about it or accept that. The ring means nothing, it's the man/woman who gave it to you.

@FutureMrsC: We're not bashing brides with larger stones, we're simply saying that, just like you wouldn't give up your ring for the world, neither would we. Whether anyone else likes it or not, we love them. ETA: However, it is snotty and materialistic when someone says, "I wouldn't accept less than X carats" or "I would say no if it cost less than $X or X months salary".

It's not the ring that matters...it's the sentiment behind it. My FH and I went shopping together and I ended up picking a ring well below budget...but I loved how it looked but the symbolism of it meant more. He kept asking if I wanted a larger ring and I said no...we can upgrade when we reach a milestone...let's say, our 10 year anniversary. As long as YOU love your ring...and are proud to wear it...then do so!

@Kreestan, that is absolutely the rudest thing I have ever heard. I'm raging just reading that. Wow. What the ever loving fuck? Who says shit like that? Wearing your mother's diamond is a beautiful tribute to her. Your story made me cry happy tears and rage tears at the same time.