Anyone get crap for the size of their engagement ring?

I've got a different problem that's somewhat related. My stone is pretty big, but it's not a stone commonly used for e-rings (it's an amethyst). I got a lot of "oh... purple?" and "What a ... clever way to save money!" when I first got it.

But I LOOOOOVE it! Purple is my favorite color and amethysts are my favorite stones and I just love my ring so much. It's not for everyone, but not everyone is marrying my FH. It's for ME. So I've learned not to listen to what anyone has to say about it.

Love your ring, girl. And rock it.

That's really messed up. FI and I have chosen/are choosing a lot of smaller/less expensive options for just about everything. If it means we don't go into debt over any of this, it's worth it. Couples that spend money they don't have before they're even married just so they can show off (certainly not saying that is the case with everyone who has a big ring, a $35k wedding, a nice car, etc., but it is true of many) aren't going to magically not have serious issues as soon as the bills come due. You have a ring that represents your relationship, a ring that you and you FI like, so no one else's opinion matters.

Honestly, the ring really doesn't matter. The size of it doesn't prove how much he loves you or how special you are to him. If the ring he got you makes you happy then that is all that matters.

F*ck them. Everything and every ring isn't everyone's cup of tea. I love it.

"Where's yours?" - fiddlin

Best response ever.

People are so disrespectful.

@DeNigris That story was so beautiful I literally welled up at work. So so sweet.

My FH got so hurt because someone called my ring small in front of him. He was so hurt! I was furious. It's ABSOLUTELY perfect for me! I love it so much. He promised an upgrade later and I told him there's no chance I'd ever want one. I love what I have now!

It's hard. But it's none of their business. You get to marry your best friend! I'm so sorry!

This is my ring and I wouldn't trade for anything in the world . Don't listen to them...I know how you feel. It's not about the ring .

The thing is that in American culture it's all about how big is the diamond but that does not determine anyone's love for one. There was a really good article about the same issue where people judged a woman because her ring cost 150 try googling it it may provide some great responses to the haters

Girl ignore those people. How ignorant! I actually told my fiancé I didn't want him spending over a set amount of money because like you said the ring doesn't make the marriage. He keeps joking he'll upgrade it when he gets out of med school but I love my ring! I designed my ring with the jeweler and it's perfect!

Forget what everyone else says if you and your fiancé are happy that is all that matters.

Size 3.25 finger here. I have a 3 ct total weight ring and when I first got engaged people I BARELY know where saying things like "I can't believe your FH would spend that much on a ring..." or "aren't you too young to have a ring like that?" Wtf??

You honestly can't win. If you had a huge ring people would talk shit. Small ring they talk shit. No ring they talk shit. The only thing that matters is whether you are happy and confident with it!

@Miranda P

I love that! And it's so true diamonds where made into engagement rings due to advertising of the De Beers diamond company...

I chose and aquamarine because the gem is one of my favorites and my fiancé said the one he chose reminded him of my eyes (soo sweet yet cheesy).

Regardless of what gem you have, what size the stone, what setting is in...if it's something you and your significant other want then forget everyone else.

No one has commented on the size, but I have gotten more "oh, was he trying to save money by not getting a diamond?" comments then are appropriate. I was even told that men usually buy halo rings to make up for not being able to afford a bigger stone. God forbid I didn't want a diamond and he knew me well enough that he got me a ring that fits my personality.

For the most part though I have only gotten compliments.

I love my ring! I get that people may think that .61 CT is on the "daintier" side but it's what I wanted. FH and I set a budget for my ring when we talked about getting engaged because I didn't want him paying it off while we were trying to afford a wedding. I actually designed it myself on Brilliant Earth. So yes it's safe to say I am 100% happy with my ring!

You're marrying the love of your life! That's all that matters )) fuck the haters haha

So far, I've only gotten one comment, and it was a woman I worked with. She wanted to see the ring and her response was, 'oh, it's cute.' I mostly just brushed it off. It is a smaller diamond but I love it. FH actually freaked a bit when he got it because he thought it was too small but my mom, and a few of his friends, reassured him before he proposed and then I reassured him after. I love my ring. Though, I do suspect I'll end up with an upgrade at some point. He proposed back in August and he still makes remarks about it being too small despite me telling him it's completely perfect and I have no interest in an upgrade unless something happens to my current ring.

From one girl at work I also got a response of "oh, that's cute".....it was a gentle reminder for me as to why she single and I walked off. Happy with nothing. #hater

I would kill a bitch. People make little comments about my stone being morganite. I get things like "that's nice, too" when I tell them it's not a diamond. I usually get pretty snippy and tell them I actually dont like diamonds and I sent him pictures of morganite rings for months before he proposed. But thanks so much for your input!!! ))

People suck. Don't let them make you feel that way. Your ring is stunning and amazing no matter what. You don't have to justify its size or any other aspect of it.

My ring is small and dainty and I love it. I have no idea what the total weight is, I never asked and I don't care. I've gotten a couple of not so enthusiastic comments, but nobody's been downright rude to my face. I know it can be hurtful when some people are so rude, but let their stupid remarks roll off your back. Anybody who spends any time judging other people's rings, or their SO's choices/circumstances, needs to get a grip. All that matters at the end of the day is that you love it, and you get to marry the love of your life.