Anyone get crap for the size of their engagement ring?

People who talk shit about little rings have some insecurities of their own and/or skewed thinking they need to look into. The worth of a relationship is not measured in possessions.

No one gave me shit about size (honestly it was too "big" for my taste) but my mom did go "oh... it's.. black...?" when she first saw it.

ETA: better photo. Also, aside from like two rings here, all the pics I'm seeing I'm going "O_O those are BIG!" so it's all relative.

You all some gorgeous rings btw

No truer words were ever spoken FlightyFluitist.

I don't get judged from the size I have 1 CT but not 1 person ever told me it was beautiful .. it hurts sometimes I guess but I freaking love my ring so whatever

People will always have something to say, regardless of how big or small your ring is. My ring is a 1.7 diamond solitaire and when I showed it to FMIL's best friend, her response was "oh... that's cute." People are incredibly rude - as long as you love it, thats all that matters.

@Amanda I got a lot of "that's so you" comments which honestly I liked better. Once, in a check out line the girl ringing us up out of nowhere just looked at me (with FH standing there) and said "He did good." I was on cloud 9 that day all from a rando comment lol.

Wow people are rude! Mine isn't dainty but it is pretty unique. ONE acquaintance made a comment about how FH should have gone with a traditional design (to her that was a halo design with tons of diamonds) since it's a ering and my reaction to her was not nice. I'm definitely team say something smart back.

No one has said anything out right to me but they have asked to look at my ring, checked it out, and then didn't say anything except "hmm" as they switch the topic. Lol hard to ignore actions and comments at times but I just remember how in love I am with my ring and my FH

I haven't gotten anything negative about the size of my stone, but did get a rather rude comment from a former customer of mine who grabbed my hand and said, " bless his heart, could he not afford a diamond?"

My ring is an amethyst and I love it so much. It's absolutely perfect.

@Jamie you should have explained how diamonds are actually completely worthless and price is only inflated due to marketing. They're a dime a dozen and so ahrd to resell for any worth because jewelers know that.

So far the only comment I got that struck me as weird was "wow, how much did he spend on that?"..... and that came from a male, married co worker....I shot back and said "how much did YOU spend on your wifes?" and he said "$120". My answer was "more than that". People are insane. Rings are about what they MEAN, not what they look like. Everyone I've seen on here is gorgeous and I'm sure PERFECT for the women wearing them.

My ring is technically a promise ring from Zales. He got it for me when we were 18 and going to different colleges as a promise to stay together. I loved it more than life itself. At the time, it took him FOREVER to save for it and my 18 year old self showed it off whenever I could.

When I got pregnant 2 years later, my fingers swelled up and it didn't fit me anymore. He got me a pandora ring to replace it for the time being in case it still fit me after I had the baby.

Well, baby came and it still didn't fit me. So to surprise me, he got it resized and proposed with it.

It meant so much to me that he did that and I bawled my eyes out. I love this ring so much, even if it's "small" or "just a promise ring".

Eh, there's more to a ring than size. I always told my FH that I'd rather have a smaller stone of better quality than something bigger but of poorer quality. I have a sapphire for my center stone because I knew my FH couldn't afford the kind of diamond I wanted, and it's lovely. Personally, I don't really like dainty diamond solitaires or dainty rings in general. I'd rather wear a plain band or an eternity band or have a less expensive center stone rather than a dainty diamond solitaire, but I know that's my preference and that's what I like. Even if I didn't like someone's engagement ring, I'd never say anything out loud to make them feel bad.

Member of the *dainty* ring club here!

I've gotten some out of place comments.... asking if it's a promise ring or a purity ring or even a counter culture fashion ring placed on my left hand ring finger. Comments about how I can always upgrade. People who ask to see the ring and can't even come up with something nice... just flat "oh". The "it's so /you two/" in a condescending tone. I've gotten people who clarify if I'm married. Ring or no ring at all doesn't change the fact that I'm happily married and I love my husband.

I'll be honest. Now that I've had it for more time, it does suck defending it. You shouldn't have to defend a symbol of love. So hey... I feel you there.

Don't let the haters get under your skin. Your ring is special because of what it means to you and your husband. No one can take that away with tackles comments.

It does get easier to deal with... but it's always annoying when people say shitty things.

Maybe it's just me but I never really cared about ring size. I even found it kind of weird when people wanted to see it right after we got engaged. Like, I never ask people about their rings, or even really notice them. If someone really gives you crap about it, then that's on them.

Ah! Kels, I'm in love with your ring!

@MMB: thank you

Yes! FH had my ring custom made based off of photos I sent. I get the "it's cute" comments and my dad even flat out said he could've went bigger. So rude. My moms is bigger annnddd YELLOW! Way to go dad.

I have size 4.5 fingers. I thought mine were tiny, but 3.5?!

I haven't received comments one way or another. I have a 5x7mm emerald cut sapphire. It's about the equivalent of 1 carat. We chose the size because the 4x6 was a little small for the setting, but the 6x8 would have overlapped the band. I think we chose the perfect size; it's visible but not like it's too big/heavy for my hand.

Advertisements use larger diamonds on purpose, to display the piece and accentuate the style, and of course draw attention to the ring. But those are by no means the average or standard sizes.

I get comments cause mine has no diamonds. I didn't want diamonds I wanted emeralds because in my books on crystals and such emerald is the stone of true love and fidelity. People are like "no diamonds?" I say I'm not typical, explain why I didn't want diamonds and why I love this ring. He even went above and beyond and got a flush setting so it didn't snag while I crocheted. People can be so rude. If you love it that is all that matters.