Anyone get crap for the size of their engagement ring?

I love my small solitaire! FH mentioned several times if I wanted to exchange it for a bigger one ... no way!! First this is the original ring he proposed with any other ring would just be "another ring "... secondary I Love that he didn't spend money we don't have or went into debt buying something bigger ... we're on a budget... I told him that if he wants he can get me a big ass stone on our 10 year anniversary jaja

Maybe when I was younger those things mattered more, but being 40 and hopefully wiser I'm just so happy I found the man of my dreams.. none of the material things matter FH is amazing

I've gotten a few, "oh that looks nice" but a majority say, it's lovely and that he did good. I wouldn't worry. If you love that's all that matters. You're the one wearing it, not them

People are absolute pieces of shit, and it never ceases to amaze me! I have a black diamond ring and I've gotten "so he couldn't afford a real diamond?"

Only once and oddly enough it was from FMIL !!

My rings not huge it's .75 carat with a halo and diamonds around the band. It's beautiful and FH did an awesome job picking something out for me. I never cared about size and I certainly didn't need a doorknob on my finger either!

When I proudly showed his mom she said "eh...it's too small. You need bigger..or more diamonds " and she said it in front of FH too...more than once!

I got so annoyed and I felt terrible for him. He seemed unphased and said all he cared about is that I like it. English is not her first language and I know there's some cultural differences but I was still so annoyed.

Kristen- that is beautiful! So unique.

@fiddlinbritt next time someone mentions it (it would be great if that were never) I will accept this challenge

I'm glad I posted this, it's made me feel a lot better. The last thing I wanted was to second guess my ring based on others opinions. My FH and I have been through a lot together, and he did a lot of planning to make sure his proposal would go the way he wanted. I love my current one and will love my "upgrade" too. He is still sad I won't let him buy me anything bigger, but I said for our 5 or 10 year anniversary, have at it. I'd rather use the extra money we have now on new adventures and making our house the way we want it instead of carrying the money on my hand.

I have a custom engagement ring. It's a sapphire and channeled emeralds eternity ring in white and yellow 18k gold. My wedding band will be channeled diamonds in an eternity band. I love it! Not only are they my favorite colors but it's something that he designed for me from his heart.

There was a thread I saw here ages ago about pithy responses to get people to mind their own business regarding ring size. I wish I could find it now.

People are going to comment because of the engagement ring culture in our society. I wish there was a way to avoid it.

If someone comments on the size, you could just say "I don't think it's too ______. I absolutely love it and I can't wait to get married."

I am proud to say that I do not engage with people that would be bold enough to comment on the size of your ring. A stone does not define your love or happiness. There are happy couples that do not wear rings and it's no one's place to judge their decision. Wear your ring proudly and correct anyone with enough nerve to make a negative comment.

OP just be thankful you got a romantic proposal. My fiancé and I had talked about marriage for months and he kept saying he'd like to get married soon. I was waiting and waiting for him to propose until one night in the shower I told him look wedding venues book out usually a year in advanced if you want to do this thing next year we need to get on the ball.....his response was well you ruined it I was waiting till after the first of the year to ask...lmao

Our relationship hasn't been traditional since the beginning so no surprises neither was the "proposal"

Love my ring. I don't wear jewelry so it's perfect and exactly what I wanted.

I had zero input on my ring, and he went big--I have a 1.5 ct center stone, and another 1 ct in the halo and band. And you know...people make rude comments about how big it is. Since we have a big age difference (and he works in a profession where it's generally acknowledged that he makes about 2x what I do, never mind that when we met we worked in the same field...), I've also gotten the "gold digger" comment.

The most hurtful ones, though, came from my my mom and grandma. My mother is just generally passive aggressively snarky, and she's made multiple comments about how much bigger my ring is than hers...and my sisters' and sister-in-law's. When I showed it to my grandmother, she said "Why didn't you warn me to put on my sunglasses first?!" (And then proceeded to tell her favorite story about how my grandfather was so dominated by his mother that my grandma got the same wedding set as her MIL...)

I just try to shrug it off. My FH spent the past 3 years working in a war zone, and spent a lot of his deployment savings on my ring. I never, ever expected him to do that, and I am honored that he did. I am going to wear this ring for the rest of my life, and fuck what everyone else says.

I just got from my own mom that I should have kept the first ring. I didn't care because it's my choice and he agreed that we can go exchange it. I prefer nice and smaller ones. My FH proposed with a 3 CT ring because he thought bigger is better. It didn't suite me well. I think my current ring that we picked out together is 1 ct or just below... I don't really care. I love it. The photo shows when it wasn't sized.

Sometimes you just need to politely tell people to go scratch.

I got the look from all my snooty bitchy old lady coworkers in the teacher's lounge when they found out I was engaged. They directly looked at my hands to see my ring. Much to their shock I didn't have one. My FH proposed with the wedding ring. We bought wedding bands two years ago in Hawaii. They are made out of Koa wood, puako shell and tungsten. As we talked about marriage several times over our 5 year relationship I continually said I didn't want a diamond ring. I'm not gentle on my hands and found it to be a waste of money on a diamond I would never wear.

We get married in 7 days. In Hawaii. I can't wait for our rings to be blessed in or Hawaiian ceremony.

Sometimes I look at my ring and think "whoa!".....sometimes it looks smaller. But every time it's a wonderful reminder forever

Your ring symbolizes the love and commitment you and your FH share. People who comment about the size of a ring are simply rude. How does the size of your ring affect them? It doesn't. They don't know how to mind their own fucking business. I had someone I know comment on how my ring wasn't expensive enough and she wouldn't take a ring that didn't signify her fiancé "investing" in her. Well, she is still single and every guy that goes out with her runs the opposite direction very quickly. It's not the appearance of the ring that matters. It's the thought behind it.

@smcloud love it. I think FH is under the impression that bigger is better as well, though I've driven the point home that I would rather have smaller and better quality, than large and full of cloud or imperfections. He is pushing the .5 carat, which is still fairly small! After seeing the adorable heart shaped diamond with the halo (.33ct), I don't want anything else. I doubt he was expecting me to say "no.. let's go smaller!" Haha.

Yes... I always get compliments, but no one is ever like "OMG" when they see it. I get "cute!" often. At first it made me feel a little insecure, but I LOVE my ring. It's a certified antique that we found at a small jewelry store across the country. It's so 'me'.

I had one girl say, "it's cute, just not my taste at all." And I said, "well I guess it's a good thing I'm the one who's engaged then."

I feel like I am converting people away from the pre conceived notion of an engagement ring every time I show them mine! I have only gotten positive reactions and some people have even said they wish they had a non traditional ring. Opals aren't for everyone, though.