Anyone get crap for the size of their engagement ring?

I have an amethyst instead of a diamond.

I get a lot of oh he didn't get a diamond, or at least it isn't small! Or my favorite to date, I guess you're going to get a huge diamond at the ten year mark! I just state that I wanted this stone, specifically asked for it, or say I didn't want a ring from a chain store. Most people take the hint.

People suck! Their opinion doesn't matter, as long as you love your ring, then that's all that matters. I picked mine out, from a shop that sold a variety of things, some older and some newer. It caught my eye because it doesn't look so cookie cutter; I had an elderly lady tell me that it looks like hers' from when she was married before her husband passed. So, definitely not cookie cutter. But anyways, if they're that rude, it shows why they're not wearing a ring!

Sorry my nails suck and my skin is so ashy, but here's mine. My ring is special to me because my FH took the time to design it, and to me that is priceless. He's put a lot of thought into every detail of the ring. I love it.

I've received a few awkward comments, mostly people being nosy and wanting to know how much it cost. Sometimes people are just tacky no matter the size of the ring, I guess.

I get a lot of shit because i have a pink sapphire ring wedding set. People are extremely rude. I love the thought and he knew i didn't want anything normal. I wanted something different. I ignore people and walk away. Sorry everyone that most people cannot get the heads out of there asses. Yalls rings are to die for..

Who cares! My FH gave me his great grandmother's ring in the same setting and totally unaltered. So technically, he didn't spend anything on mine. The size of the ring doesn't matter. The cost doesn't matter. Tell them to go mind their own business.

I picked my ring myself. FH proposed with a "promise ring" and we went the next week so I could choose my real ring. It's a white gold ring with two interlocking bands, one band with a small diamond to wear during your engagement and an interlocking band with a few more diamonds to wear once married. That way the engagement and wedding rings don't have to be separate purchases. I didn't want a big flashy diamond. It's just not the look I like, not at all judging what anyone else likes. I've never gotten any especially rude comments, but I do overhear things. Before I was engaged I heard a cousin say "the more you're loved the more carats you get". Nah that's bs. Don't let those comments get to you girl!

Wow thats so rude of them! Don't listen to them. He could propose with a necklace and it would have the same effect of proposing with a ring -- big or small. The ring is just a representation that the two of you want to spend your lives together. I think it's important to affirm your future hubby that he is still the man of your dreams and that to YOU it doesn't matter. And when people make those comments, you can reply with things like "yeah I wanted a smaller one because I wanted the focus to be on our love, not the ring" or something like that. Letting people know it was your choice to get the smaller one will not only show people how authentic your guy's love is but also protect you future hubby's reputation and help with his concerns of what other's might think of them. (Comments like that might also make materialistic people fell guilty/jealous of your relationship -- if you're feeling extra petty hehe )

Wow thats so rude of them! Don't listen to them. He could propose with a necklace and it would have the same effect of proposing with a ring -- big or small. The ring is just a representation that the two of you want to spend your lives together. I think it's important to affirm your future hubby that he is still the man of your dreams and that to YOU it doesn't matter. And when people make those comments, you can reply with things like "yeah I wanted a smaller one because I wanted the focus to be on our love, not the ring" or something like that. Letting people know it was your choice to get the smaller one will not only show people how authentic your guy's love is but also protect you future hubby's reputation and help with his concerns of what other's might think of them. (Comments like that might also make materialistic people fell guilty/jealous of your relationship -- if you're feeling extra petty hehe )

I got a lot of the same comments when I first got engaged. And it hurt a lot. Especially since this is my FH great grandmothers ring. I'm in love with it though and just learned to brush off the comments. Most of them were from women who weren't engaged and I think some of it was petty jealousy.

No one has the right to comment on your ring!! Everyone has different taste. What matters is if YOU are happy with it. Don't let anyone take away from your beautiful proposal by commenting on your ring size. How dare they. If I remember correctly you posted a photo in another forum and it is gorgeous!

I love my rings- DH has made a few comments about wanting to upgrade the center stone and i told him no. It is so sentimental to me and i absolutely love it! My younger sister was the only one who was rude about it and was like wow i would want something much bigger. But she's immature and knows nothing about jewelry lol.

That is very rude... I guess people always think bigger and better but that's almost always not the case... plus everyone's taste is different... if it were all the same it'd be a pretty boring world. Don't let others opinion or comments make you feel upset! Show it with off with a smile on your face.

That is ridiculous. I get a little of both. My ring is 1.01 carrat, which, for me, is almost too big (I had picked out a .7 diamond, and FH upgraded it). I have had some people react like it is too big; FBIL made a snarky comment about how it makes him look bad, I guess my sisters ring is smaller? I love her ring! But then my sister said she expected it to be bigger. It is frustrating. Whatever happened to people just seeing it and congratulating?! *heavy sigh*

My grandma wants FH and I to use the rings she and my grandma wore. We are so honored and blessed. These rings mean so much to me, and I would tell anyone the meaning and love that these rings hold is more important than carat weight.

I fall into the club that just doesn't really get compliments.

My MOH is in love with my ring, but that's why she's my MOH because she knows how long I've waited for my FH (including a bad, bad first marriage that included a bigger center stone, btw).

I had one stranger stop me and tell me my ring was beautiful out of the blue, which is when I really noticed no one comments on it.

I'm an attorney, so I think people assume I should have a big diamond, but my ring is perfect for me. Plus, it's nearly perfect in clarity and sparkles beautifully. It's a constant reminder that I am truly blessed to be marrying my FH.

ETA: TW is 3/4 carat.

Mine is .30 carats. It's petite and I get the "cute" comment. But it was my grandmas diamond put into a new setting that I chose and I love it! It has way more meaning then some big rock for me!

I think it is the Miss Manners column that I read this response to rude comments about anything. Make your face completely blank and just look at them. Don't say a word. You can blink but don't look away. Just keep looking at the person's face. They will squirm. Don't say anything. They will realize what a jerk they are being. You can decide if you wish to accept their apology when they give it.

Another response to consider:

Rude Bitch: I wouldn't accept a diamond under two carats. .

You: (squeal with excitement) I didn't know! Let me see your ring! I'm so excited for you!

RB: I don't have a ring.

You: Oh....I wonder why?

There is nothing wrong with a big diamond, unless you can't afford it. There is also nothing wrong with a small diamond or no diamond. People are just stupid. They can't help it.

My original ring was a piece of copper tubing that DH turned into a band for me. He just couldn't afford to buy me one at the time. Since then he's bought me three different engagement rings. People are incredibly rude. Don't let it get to you. Size doesn't matter.

I think your ring should fit you. If you are simple your ring should be. If you are dainty and love sparkles like me than you want a bigger rock. It's all up to you they aren't wearing it so rock what you love!

What snow white said. nobody can ever just be happy for someone, it's always a dang pissing contest. your ring is too small so he must not be able to take care of you. it's so big you must be a gold digger. it's not a diamond, he's cheap. it's so silly. I don't even wear my e-ring most of the time, I wear a silicone band set because my job makes wearing my ring difficult (that's healthcare for ya) I wear my e-ring for special occasions but really, it's silly if people have a problem with something that literally has no affect on them. I got the 'how much did that cost' bit from people since my ring is about 1 carat, except my ring was his grandmother's so we only paid for it to be re-sized (all of $300 I believe). It didn't matter to me what it cost, I'm more excited to spend my life with my best friend & partner in crime, as I'm sure all of you ladies are too I'm a big fan of several of your rings, especially the non-traditional stones. I love my ring and the family history we get to carry on, but I think I would have chosen something non-traditional had my FH not decided to use his grandmother's ring. As long as you and your fiance are happy, nobody else's opinion matters!