Anyone feeling rushed to have children

Such a tough situation. I'm the opposite though- had children early and don't want any more. Are you up for trying as soon as you get married? 33 and 35 (if you have a second one fairly soon after the first) are ABSOLUTLY not too old!

Oops- Double post!

Yep. I have been asked a grand total of 17 times since we returned from the honeymoon. KMN.

Nope. but then again I'm 26..But I've heard especially nowadays 35 is not considered too old or risky, now if you get over 40 then ya it may be more of an issue..For FH and I we want to have steady careers, not just jobs and done with grad school, and we feel being financially stable is a must..but everyone has different priorities and circumstances..it's best to just talk it over with FH. :-)

I'll be 34 when FH and I get married - it's our first marriage, neither of us have kids. Women are having kids at a much later age nowadays than when our mothers did, and I think prenatal care has kept up. I'm not too worried about it, but we also don't want to wait 5 years either.

Yes, very similar situation as you. Luckily FH is in good financial shape but I still have students loans I want to finish paying off quickly. Plus want to make a career change to something that is more family friendly which means more school...

Just thought I would throw this out there: After looking at your engagement pics, you and FH will make some pretty darn cute kids!

@Ab That was my original goal too. I wanted to be done with school, have a steady well paying job, live in a house and be married before i had kids. I just felt it was the responsible way to go about it. But it is looking like that is not going to be the way it pans out.

I think anything under 40 when having kids should be fine. Prenatal care is getting better and better. I can understand why you would feel rushed though.

Let me tell you something that people have told me since getting pregnant before we were ready. NO ONE is ever completely ready to have a child. No one is ever at the exact perfect moment in life, financially stable, or anything. It just happens, planned or unplanned, and then you deal with it. And you make it work.

BTW - not to hijack your thread...but did you notice your stars?

Strangely, no..and I will be 36 when we get married -- first marriages for both and no children that we know about . Maybe after we're married we will feel differently. We talk more about adoption than having our own actually.

Well, I am only 20 and I've already been asked... I think people are joking, but I am not sure. I really really really want a baby, but we can not afford a child right now!

I do agree with Taryn s.

My mother always told me if you wait tell you "ready" to have kids you never will

OOOOHHHH HIP HIP HOORAY.. 5 stars!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Thanks Ashley

I'll be 31 when I get married, and while I know it's mostly in my own head, yes I do feel rushed to have children. I want 2 or 3 kids, and I really don't want to be 60 when my youngest graduates high school.

FH and I have discussed it, and while we're not "ready" we know that if we changed the priorities in our life (especially on spending $$$ and saving $&dollar that we would be able to afford a kid. FH loves to point out his coworker who has 4 children, a wife who doesn't work, and who makes approx the same as FH does... apparently if they can do it with 1 salary and 4 kids, we should be able to do it with 1 kid and 2 salaries.

We'll probably have our first child within the next 2-3 years, sooner if FH gets his way. He's like 1.5 - 2.5 years.... and only that long because we still have 8 months until the wedding.

My FMIL has been on us for years now to have kids. I'm only 25 and like you, am currently in school. I want to get used to having just the two of us for a while, as well as becoming more financially secure before having kids. It seems like everyone on my FB is either pregnant or just popped out a kid or two. Sheesh.

No way! FH is clucky and I am anti-clucky. I work with children all day and they don't make me clucky at all! That said I am only 21.

Don't fret too much, my mum was 30, 35, 38 and my dad was 32, 37, and 40, when they had us three kids.

OMG, YES... My mother and FMIL have that look in their eyes when everyone talks about kids. Its cute and annoying at the same time. I get it, we need to produce children. We have to do Vitro so we have to save up after the wedding.

We ourselves do not feel rushed in terms of age. I am 26 and FH is 27. We are going to start trying in 3-4 years. FMIL would like grandbabies sooner but she hasn't pushed the issue too much.

I can understand you feel the pressure because everyone talks about the "ticking clock". If its any help, one of my close friends just turned 40 and has an 8 month old. Her and her hubby were trying for a year and it did take awhile but they were successful. They too were not financially ready a few years ago and I am sure it would have just been added stress had they had a kid then.