Anyone feeling rushed to have children

I think if you are healthy and make sure you take frequent trips to the doctor along your pregnancy planning you should be fine. My mom had my sister when she was 39 and my sister turned out fine and healthy. I wouldn't recommend waiting any longer than that though. You are 33, the recommended age is nothing past 35 but that optimal. Wait 2 years and maybe you will be in a good financial situation by then, you never know. People shouldn't be pressuring or asking you though, that's private and solely your decision. Is it the same people asking over and over again? 17 times is a lot. If it is you should just tell them you will let them know when you want kids.

Hi! I'm new to WW and this is my very 1st post!! YEAH

Now to your question....YES. I feel rushed all the time to have children. I live in the south and most- if not all my friends are married with at least one child. I'm 27 and FH is 34 so we plan to throw away the birth control after the wedding at let it happen when it happens

Welcome Tiffiney...how exciting you chose my post as your first. I feel honored. Yeah i am probably going to start baby making right after wedding. Maybe i will get him really drunk so he will be completely uninhibited and wont think twice about be responsible. no Just kidding.

@ Eugenia...no one is pressuring me but myself. I personally just feel i am getting too old. Plus being healthy really has nothing to do with the chances of a down syndrome baby. It has to do with the fact that your eggs are sitting there for 35+ years in mid meiosis (basically replication) and the longer they sit the more likely it is that when the chromosomes finally pull apart an extra gets pulls one direction giving your child an extra chromosome which causes down syndrome. Isn't Science fun!!!!! It also makes life seem much more fragile when you actually know how a lot of it works.

We are the opposite, my friends are telling us to slow down! We are going to start officially trying in January, and the wedding is in May! lol But we both really want a child and both have good jobs, a house and enough toys lol. We have reached a time when it makes sense to have one, and don't see why we should wait until after the wedding! Plus his brother and his wife are having fertility issues, so I think that makes us scared we will too and more eager to start trying.

FH and I both had our kids young, 21 and 23, from our first marriages and we each had 3. I can tell you that my brother just visited with his 3 little ones all under 4 and I can not imagine having the energy at 43 to deal with three little kids right now. I agree with the brides/wives who say if you wait until your ready you never will be. You make it work and as long as you are not living on assistance and can provide the other stuff will come along.

Im getting excited FH said we can start in Feb.. but I think we are going to wait until Aug or so because i dont want to be prego during the summer

Well I am pregnant and about to have this baby. But I tell you one thing in life you are never ready. I am not the same age as you but in my late 20's. However, I was the same way needing to get my house, career, marriage etc. But no matter what life hits you in all different directions and their is not such thing as ever ready really when it comes to money. I also see people making less money than I do and have a few kids and living life. That is how I look at it. You will always go through money problems no matter what. Their will be ups and downs that is just how life is.

Sometimes it gets the pressure in having a children for this one. I really just hope that everything would work out well in this one. But for the good reasons of building up a family and not just because of pressure, then that would be a good thing to really have.

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I am dreading this! I know that the second we are married, the first thing all relatives say is.. SO? When are going to have a baby?

I am 32 and my FH is 42. Neither of us are interested in babies. We actually got really upset when the reverend at our Pre Cana said that no one should be married in the church unless they intend to 'add to the flock'. Horrible!