Am I wrong for being really upset that a friend is copying my wedding ideas and her wedding is first??

I feel you on this one. I had the same thing happen to me. Just went to their wedding and they had the same guest book idea I had liked and posted on my tumblr, the bridesmaids wore the same dresses I wanted my girls to wear, her dress silhouette changed to mine... Etc.

What can you do? Absolutely nothing.

Thank God I have about 8 months to change and improve our wedding.

I would definitely be livid.

Gaurd your wedding plans with your life.... ok not that serious but don't pin your ideas or share every detail I have a pinterest board but none of my pins are what I want for my wedding just things that I think are pretty

I'm not trying to sound snarky but did you create these ideas yourself? Are you the original inventor of these ideas? If no, you are in essence, copying someone else as well. Yes it is annoying that she is doing this. But really, exactly how many of the exact same guests will you both have at each others weddings? Chances are not that many despite the whole 2nd cousin issue. You still have all of your family and friends along with your FH's friends too. I seriously doubt anyone important will notice. Just keep planning the wedding of your dreams and stop making your ideas public knowledge. Just like you have the right to do the wedding you want, she does too, even if it happens to be the same one.

I completely understand. I would be furious! It just sounds like it is NOT a coincidence and that makes it infuriating. Repinning all the ideas etc? Yes. Someone else found it before you and those are not your ideas but you are sampling them together to make your special day unique for you and your FH. Maybe you can talk to her and say something like, "i saw that you like the same ideas on pinterest as me, maybe we can go over our ideas so we don't have an identical wedding?" try not to sound judgmental or in any way accusative. Kill her with kindness!

I understand being upset. THink of it this way...Imitation is the sincerist form of flattery.

Also, this entire internet wedding sharing process is all about inspiration and getting ideas from someone else. That's why we share here. The thing is, we all put a different spin on the idea and make it our own. That's what makes all of our days different.

Own your wedding by letting it reflect your DH and you.

Stop pinning on Pinterest.

Your wedding will be different simply because it is yours! Take a deep breath and realize that it doesn't matter so much what anyone else thinks. So what if they think you are copying? You will have a beautiful wedding that you love and isn't that the most important thing?

If you guys have similar senses of style and she loves your ideas, that is actually sort of a nice thing any other day of the week. You guys are similar in some of the best possible ways!

I agree with the ladies here! Even if you pin, you're pinning a link to someone else's blog or DIY that you'd like to make your own...i totally get how annoying it is that she is someone you know doing this, but just know that no matter how similar the weddings may seem on "paper" or in concept, they will be completely different in reality.

Try your hardest not to let it bother you.

I would be so pissed! This is partly why I dont use pintrest! I dont need people stalking my ideas and copying them from me. I dont see a problem asking her what she is doing and saying something like I noticed we both have a bunch of the same things pinned, are those your real choices? And getting info. She might be doing that to mess with you, she might just like them but not really planning on doing anything like that, or she might really be planning all that. Either way, try not to stress about it all and maybe look at what you have planned and use this as an excuse to make something you had planned more special? Like I have seen the hay stacks draped with fabric and exposed, personal touches around the barn, tons of lanterns, etc that you DONT PIN and hopefully will be different. most people wont remember the little details. Honestly of all that yo umentioned, I would remember sitting on hay because honestly I would not be happy about that!

Most importantly, STOP PINNING!

You have all the reason in the world to be upset. My BFF is doing the same thing to me except its with life in general not just wedding. At first it did bother me when it was small stuff like shoes and purses. But now its gotten much bigger. They had to buy the truck we wanted, the boat we wanted, a bigger house, etc. My boyfriend told her last fall he was going to propose at Christmas. Her and her boyfriend went out immediately and started shopping for rings and got engaged in December. Guess who is planning her wedding with all the details we love and who STILL isnt engaged after 8 years. UGH!

I dont think its wrong to be a little bit upset, but there are hundreds of similar rustic/country weddings on blogs/Pinterest. You're unlucky that a bride with the same taste and plans is your friend, but I wouldn't be too worried about it. You can still personalize your wedding and add special touches that represent you and your FH. With different accents, your weddings will look totally different.

I would be very upset, that is why no one knows our wedding theme or has seen our rings until they get the invitation and our wedding day they will see our rings. Can you change some things up a little bit and do not tell her. use different size jars for your flowers, make your napkins out of old handkerchiefs that you can find at thrift stores. do not post anything else and if you do change some things do not tell anyone!!!!

Imitation is the greatest form of flattery

Id be ticked but Id keep on planning, stop pinning, and make better ideas or same concepts different ideas

Look on the bright side-

As least she isn't copying your FH

OMG! SXC wayyyyy too funny but so true! I would love to see her face after its pinned! lol

I would totally be uspet. I would not PIN anything else. I also would switch some things up on her to make it your own again, do not pin those! I get that we all get ideas from someone else, but we make them our own and we dont copy every detail. Thats crazy and a little weird! LOL! Seems like you have admirer, yes I agree with the girls on that one take it as a compliment and then keep all your plans to yourself. I personally have told lil to none of what Im doing. Not even the BM know extra details unless its set in stone and it has something to do with them. Only my Mom and My Aunt knows what my dress looks like (My MOH wanted it to be a suprise with her too! she is so silly!) I mean they know the basic stuff like colors. LOL

I'd be annoyed, so I can understand, but also it's really flattering. She must love your ideas! And it shows that you guys have a lot of similar interests, which is kind of cool. (Also you'll get to see what works and what doesn't!!! Good reconnaissance!)

Labake FTW! Per usual.

I know you've become attached to all of these ideas but like Kasey said, they're not "yours." You're not the first bride to ever get married in a barn with boots and haystacks and jelly favors, etc. If that's all your wedding is about then I've been to "your" wedding before, in Bozeman Montana ca. 2004.

But that's not all your wedding is about. The way you interpret those ideas and those details will be different from anybody else b/c you're you. And even if your friend is just literally copying everything you do exactly the way you do it, so what? You're kind of lucky actually, her wedding is like a trial run for all of your ideas. So you can take notes and make improvements for your go-round. I wish I'd had that opportunity!

Let it go, and don't let this be something that makes you question your friendship or have an attitude with her. It's just not worth it in the grand scheme of life.

Omg! The same thing happened to me!! My best friend who only knew this guy for 6 months got engaged before I did and stole all of my pinterest ideas! I was pissed! I called her out and she ended up changing her colors! I totally understand your pain. How many people will be attending both weddings? More than 20?? A handful? I think that's what matters.

I know this is old . But im looking for feedback. I got married on our friends farm. We've been wanting to do outdoor, someplace where everyone could stay and camp if they wanted same theme in a raw barn that we painted and cleaned out to be even suitable for a wedding . It was unused and not very nice looking before we transformed it, We were on a small budget and chose this place perfectly so we could bring our own things, party until any time. And all the reasons you mentioned . We always wanted an outdoor wedding and my husband actually spent a lot of time making our wedding perfect. I get ideas are borrowed but it's common etiquette not to copy someone you are so close with, not to take their venue, their theme, their anniversary!!!!!!!!!!!!!! We were going to have an anniversary bbq there that weekend that we told her about and magically she doesn't remember. . 3 months after our wedding my best friend announced they will be having the wedding at our same friends farm as well. And will be doing it exactly a year later, same theme, same mason jars, burlap, same type of food. they are already married but magically "this was their dream wedding" they don't even like outdoors, hate animals, have really expensive taste, don't even own mason jars or anything burlap., her taste heels, and fancy, and red and black. I shared all of my ideas with her because she was going to help me decorate and make stuff since she like being creative. All of a sudden she didn't create anything for me and now I see her wedding is basically everything I sent her and with a large budget so all the things we wouldn't afford to do. We chose to budget for honeymoon. As if this wasn't already annoying she's used every attempt to make hers sound different by bashing ours. Example 1- when asked about bathroom situation were not getting a port o potty because those end up smelling really bad and are disgusting . Example number 2 . I'm using haystack seating but I'm doing it better and diferent . People don't understand it hurts so much and is so uncomfortable, I could go on and on but these were the worst 2. Im in her wedding and I don't want to her anything about her wedding. I don't respond to anything and my husband is more pissed off than I am. We chose to have an intimate wedding of only 100 people they will have 40 of those same people . All same friends! All of our friends will be there. my husband set Her things he wanted to suprise me with but we couldn't do them for whatever reason, she is doing those things. Both of us don't want to attend the wedding and don't want to hear anything about it. All of the memories that were at that exact place exactly a year later - our anniversary weekend we shouldn't have to spend it at a place that we don't want to be at. We aren't even happy for them. She even deletedour wedding pictures from her social media Shebasicslly walked in and said i could do this "better "that's exactly what she says when she walks in anywhere, no one can duplicate our love and our day. I wouldn't change our spcial day at all. but they are taking away our memories. And we just aren't happy for them.

I know this is old . But im looking for feedback. I got married on our friends farm. We've been wanting to do outdoor, someplace where everyone could stay and camp if they wanted same theme in a raw barn that we painted and cleaned out to be even suitable for a wedding . It was unused and not very nice looking before we transformed it, We were on a small budget and chose this place perfectly so we could bring our own things, party until any time. And all the reasons you mentioned . We always wanted an outdoor wedding and my husband actually spent a lot of time making our wedding perfect. I get ideas are borrowed but it's common etiquette not to copy someone you are so close with, not to take their venue, their theme, their anniversary!!!!!!!!!!!!!! We were going to have an anniversary bbq there that weekend that we told her about and magically she doesn't remember. . 3 months after our wedding my best friend announced they will be having the wedding at our same friends farm as well. And will be doing it exactly a year later, same theme, same mason jars, burlap, same type of food. they are already married but magically "this was their dream wedding" they don't even like outdoors, hate animals, have really expensive taste, don't even own mason jars or anything burlap., her taste heels, and fancy, and red and black. I shared all of my ideas with her because she was going to help me decorate and make stuff since she like being creative. All of a sudden she didn't create anything for me and now I see her wedding is basically everything I sent her and with a large budget so all the things we wouldn't afford to do. We chose to budget for honeymoon. As if this wasn't already annoying she's used every attempt to make hers sound different by bashing ours. Example 1- when asked about bathroom situation were not getting a port o potty because those end up smelling really bad and are disgusting . Example number 2 . I'm using haystack seating but I'm doing it better and diferent . People don't understand it hurts so much and is so uncomfortable, I could go on and on but these were the worst 2. Im in her wedding and I don't want to her anything about her wedding. I don't respond to anything and my husband is more pissed off than I am. We chose to have an intimate wedding of only 100 people they will have 40 of those same people . All same friends! All of our friends will be there. my husband set Her things he wanted to suprise me with but we couldn't do them for whatever reason, she is doing those things. Both of us don't want to attend the wedding and don't want to hear anything about it. All of the memories that were at that exact place exactly a year later - our anniversary weekend we shouldn't have to spend it at a place that we don't want to be at. We aren't even happy for them. She even deletedour wedding pictures from her social media Shebasicslly walked in and said i could do this "better "that's exactly what she says when she walks in anywhere, no one can duplicate our love and our day. I wouldn't change our spcial day at all. but they are taking away our memories. And we just aren't happy for them.