Am I wrong for being really upset that a friend is copying my wedding ideas and her wedding is first??

No way! I'd be upset as well! Kind of makes you wonder how close you really are. :/ Sorry she's ruining your day.

No your not... This is something you are planning over a year and it seems like she is just lets say piggy backing your ideas... I would be a lil upset. However you could take it as a compliment that you have good taste.... I wonder if you start to say your gonna change things up if she is going to change hers also?

We aren't super close friends (like we're not in each others weddings), but we'll be related somehow after we're married... Her fiance is my fiance's second cousin, or something like that lol... But her date WAS set for about a year after their engagement (getting married after me), then once she started pinning things on Pinterest (the same ideas as me) she suddenly changed her date!

To me it seems like she noticed that we are doing the same things and didn't want people to think she's copying me, so she moved the date before mine. I don't know, but it's just suspicious and really bothers me!

How far apart are the weddings? You could let it slide and see what works/doesn't work at hers. Then you can fix/make it better at yours lol

My date is May 18th, hers is April 27 ... And I'm not sure yet what colors she's using but I've made it obvious I'm using teal and purple... If she does those colors also, should I say something?!?

You should call her out on her copying ways! or better yet, move your date BEFORE hers, and don't tell them until they get their invitation.

^^haha... I don't want to be mean, it's hard though, because it really bothers me. I want to be happy for them but I feel like I'm just going to be pissed off at their wedding because it'll be a lot like mine. And everyone will be loving what "she's" done with the decor and think it was all her idea, and then see mine in a few weeks and it just wont be as much of an excitement I feel... I know a wedding isn't about the decor and this silly stuff, it's about me marrying my love, but it's just hard when I've put a lot of thought into these ideas for MY big day and now someone else is doing them right before me :-/

Since she is going to be somewhat related, Try not to be to upset, like Cassidy said, go to her wedding and change a few things up a bit. But in all reality, we all use someone elses ideas.

I TOTALLY see your frustration, but think of it this way - you both like the same things, so it's totally possible that she has no idea that she is taking anything away from you, or trying to show you up.

There are also a few reasons to slide a wedding date up...:/ But we all get a little funny about these things, and I completely see where you're coming from.

Man oh man has society and the media created an atmosphere for weddings! We all "borrow" others ideas for our weddings and we twist them to reflect our personalities. Utilize your FH and his wants/personality also and this should change yours up just enough =) ALSO...stop "pinning" your ideas, keep them to yourself if you are that worried about it. You have quite a few months before your wedding so you should have enough time to make some changes. You are not the first to use teal and purple and you will not be the last. Try not to let these things bother you because after all, imitation is the highest form of flatery =) maybe she envies you.

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I can see how your friend imitating you is annoying. But ultimately decor and the boots/shoes that BMs are wearing are things only important to the bride. Guests rarely pay attention to that.

Most importantly as Tiedaknot said, stop sharing. I would NOT pin or tell her what your colors are. Use the inspiration board here, bookmark the links, get a binder. There're many ways to keep yourself organized.

Happy planning!

I would be so upset also!!! My fh cousin just got engaged and was looking at our same venue and wanted to do it before us! Thank goodness they are NOT having it there!

I would not let it bother you too much. Maybe take it as a compliment that she thinks you have such great taste.

Also, why don't you talk to her?? I mean, have you? or is this just something you've seen from pinterest?

Maybe it won't be exactly like yours? You didn't mention colors? Maybe she has a different color than yours?

Also you will probably have different Bridesmaids dresses and I am sure you won't wear the same wedding dress. There will be some differences.

Also if it bothers you so much, is there a way you can not let her see your pinterest stuff anymore? Or plan a different way so she can see it? You have a little less than a year. Stuff could change for you between now and then.

Good luck!

This is why I stopped using pinterest. Pin a bunch of things that you aren't going to use and make a separate pinterest she can't follow for your real ideas. Ps most people don't incorporate all of their pinterest boards into the wedding... Maybe they will be slightly different ?

Well that stinks, but do you know for certain that she is using the same ideas as you? Or are you just assuming based on Pinterest?

Like others have suggested, stop pinning wedding ideas to Pinterest. Also know that your ideas are not the most original, they are actually very Pinterest trendy. It could just be a coincidence that you 2 are attracted to the same things. Try to put your personal spin to your wedding, and don't worry about comparing your wedding to hers.

Ok do this, start a new board saying Wedding Ideas I am Going to Do. and Pin random crap you hate. see if she steals those lol

Also I had this but lucky for me the other girl's colors are pink and mine are blue and brown. I got engaged june, getting married in May. she got engaged july, getting married in april 3 weeks before us. O.o

I stopped my pintrest from sharing to FB and you can just create a blog to book mark your ideas and such, just keep the web address private and dont share. You also want to keep some things about your wedding a secret/surprise too!

It's ok that like likes your ideas, and want to use some, but it's wrong that she is using most of them. I would be very upset too! I would change or add some things to mine to make things different. Don't tell anymore of your plans to anyone who may tell her, definitely find out her colors! if her colors are similar, I would call her on the whole copying thing. That is a lot of coincidences!

I would be so mad! but that is why i dont discuss my wedding ideas with my engaged friends lol!

I think the problem with pinterest, is really cute ideas are getting used all over the board.

My cousin probably has all the same things pinned that you do.

However, I'd be a little pissed to. How about you guys get together and see what you're doing for centerpieces, talk to her about it, and do something different if you haven't bought anything yet. Be upfront and be like "All our friends will be at both, I want to see what you're doing so I don't do the same thing!"

There could be many reasons why she moved up the date, be it availability of a vendor or something else.

And, I stopped sharing what I liked on pinterest because all your friends and family on there can see it if they follow you and I know like, four people getting married before us!

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