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Just Said Yes May 2013

Am I wrong for being really upset that a friend is copying my wedding ideas and her wedding is first??

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Kasey, on August 28, 2012 at 2:32 AM

I got engaged before my friend and set date for about a year after. My friend just got engaged and decided to get married a couple weeks before me, instead of a year engagement. Which is fine, except that her style/theme is exactly like mine. She's seen all my wedding ideas on Pinterest, liked them,...

We're both country/southern girls. Both getting married in a barn (not the same one, thank god!), both wearing cowgirl boots, bridesmaids in boots too, we're both doing wood slices for table decor, both using haystacks for seating, both doing jelly favors, both having a firepit area with smores bar, both using burlap for decor

It just really bothers me because she's planning to do the same things I've been planning, and it's going to look like I'M the one copying HER. We will be having a lot of the same people at both our weddings.

Am I wrong for being upset

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Just Said Yes November 2018
Madison · on April 15, 2019 at 7:53 AM
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If decor was silly we would all just get eloped
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Just Said Yes November 2018
Madison · on April 15, 2019 at 8:13 AM
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I got married 5 months ago and had been planning my wedding for a year, what the theme was what sentimental value each ting had. I used Pinterest but I changed everything I did use from it to make it my own. but this weekend I went to my cousins wedding, I had been told by my mum that the arch I designed and my grandad made and my partners unkle suplyed the wood for was being used at her wedding (they had asked my grandad they they were not related to, to use the arch he said yes and told my mum (they never asked me) I the turn up to there wedding this weekend and everything was the same the colour of the bridesmaid dresses, the flowers, the hay bails with a row of seats at the front, the navy blue suits the red bow ties the hair styles the whole bridle party’s shoe colours, the signing, the similar wedding invitation, the rustic theme the white blankets on the hay bales the gypsum in her hair, the halterneck dress. Let’s just say it was a lot harder to find things that weren’t the same. She had used my mums register song. But little did I know the reception was the same too. We walked in and the cake was very close with handmade red roses like ours, the 2 long tables, the candles from my wedding were used, the wooden candle/name tag gifts my grandad had made just with no candle instead, the vines down the table the jars of gypsum down the table and the wood coasters I was devastated. I managed to keep of the tears so my cousin could enjoy her day plus I didn’t want to become the bad guy. Then the first dance song came on and I was relieved it was different but little did I know that our first dance song was to come on next for the father daughter dance...

im still very hurt about this and don’t know what to say as she said she was doing something completely different how do I face her when she asks if I enjoyed the wedding when I next see her?
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Devoted May 2020
Lizbeth · on April 15, 2019 at 9:37 AM
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That's sneaky and horrible of her. Have you spoken to her? or it might not matter talking to her about it... like Shara said... maybe start changing and maybe she will too and then you can just go back to your idea, if not then screw it! Take it up a notch and make her look measly and cheap... if you can of course.
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