Alcoholics and a wedding

Just say no.

ETA : just say no to the cousin wanting to plan the bachelor party. With regards to your weddings guests, you cannot control their behavior before during or after your wedding day. You cannot control their behavior ever. Plan the wedding you and FH want.

Sorry, alcoholic friends and family, you are not invited to our wedding. Is that something people even do? (Yes I know you didn't do that)

If they truly are alcoholics they will figure out how to get a drink on their own so really it is a punishment for the rest of the guests. You aren't going to stop them just because you aren't serving it.

Ugh. Let adults be adults. Wouldn't you be embarrassed and ashamed if you knew an entire guest list was punished because you had a difficult disease such as alcoholism???

For fucks sake people, stop punishing people and let bartenders do the jobs they're trained to do.

Not an excuse not to have alcohol. Whether it's there or not an alcoholic will find a way to get their hands on booze. You can't control other people's behavior

You are not responsible for the actions of others and unless you plan on frisking people at the door, alcohol WILL be in attendance at your dry wedding whether you like it or not.

Yeah, I think they would probably bring their own alcohol to the wedding if you invite them with no alcohol. The other guests will really appreciate having alcohol as an option. Also, the bachelor party is usually planned by the best man.

They will either come drunk or sneak alcohol in. Telling an alcoholic no doesn't stop the disease (which is EXACTLY what alcoholism is).

Not having alcohol at tour wedding will not stop an actual alcoholic from getting a drink. Im fact, having a bar with a licensed bartender would help provide more oversight on their drinking.

Oh geez this won't go well

Your post makes me think that you don't know much about alcoholism. I think it might be a good idea for you to attend a local al-anon meeting.

Do you have any diabetics coming to your wedding? Uninvite them or don't have cake.

Are they actual alcoholics or do you just disagree with their drunken behavior?

Just stop it. You are not in charge of other people's behaviour (nor it is your privilege to label them along the way). You can't 'handle' people like this, and it's cavalier, fruitless and misdirected to think you can.

Do you REALLY think that your not providing alcohol will stop anyone, "alcoholic" or not, from drinking? Then I have a surprise for you. People with 'addictions' are remarkably adept at hiding them and enabling them.

Provide an open bar of some sort, hire bartenders who are responsible and let your guests act like adults at an adult party.

So the only way for people to have a good time is alcohol? Alcohol shouldn't be such a big deal. Some of you act like it's not a wedding if everyone can't drink.

Making popcorn, waiting for the one reliable person who loves to post about alcoholics.

Oh boy

Dry weddings are a very hot topic on WW. You probably should have lurked a little more before posting this, OP. Just be aware that you will be getting very brutally honest responses/opinions.

Out of curiosity, how old are you?

This is ridiculous logic, especially if they are truly alcoholics, AND it puts YOU in a horrible place as far as liability is concerned.

With that logic, if you have anyone with diabetes or blood sugar issues, you better not serve cake or desserts, soda, lemonade, or sweetened tea. If anyone is overweight, it might be best if you serve only salad. No coffee or diet soda, for those caffeine addicts.

Do you see how insane that sounds? This is the same. A true alcoholic will not just bring a flask: they will bring enough to get them and many others very, very drunk. To make matters worse, you will have no bartender, which means if they drive drunkenly, YOU and YOUR FH are responsible for their actions. If they're arrested, guess who could go to jail? Guess who pays the doctor bills and/or civil lawsuit settlement should they hit and seriously injure/kill someone? You. A bartender knows how and when to cut people off and is insured against this behavior.

You are literally wanting to punish the rest of your guests for the poor choices of a few. Don't do this. You're hosting an adult affair, treat it as such and stop mothering your guests. They're adults, they are perfectly capable of making their own educated choices.