Age Discrimination- young couple

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Yes exactly! Thank you for commenting and giving your input I really appreciate it, especially because you understand the religious aspect as well. I love your parents story, that is so sweet! congratulations on your engagement, best wishes to you and your FH.

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Aww that's so sweet and encouraging! thank you for commenting.

I'm not surprised you're getting comments- people will ALWAYS have something to say! You will never please everyone. My judgy comment that I got was that my FH and I got engaged after only 6 months lol. It didn't bother me a ton because it was the right thing for us and by the time we had gotten married it had been over a year and half.

My thoughts on "young marriage" have more to do with personal development than age. At 22 (even up to 26) I wasn't ready. I didn't achieve everything I wanted for myself yet. I wanted to travel and work on my career. I didn't even start dating my H until a whole year after we met because I wasn't ready to date seriously for long term purposes. That being said, I have more than one friend who got married under the age of 25. Caveat being that they both did tell me they wish they had waited a little longer to do it however, they're both happily married with children now. Also, people who get married without having a job/income, way of contributing to society or plans to improve I feel set themselves up not to do well. I only know one couple that got married right out of college that got divorced and that was due to one of them cheating.

No matter what age you are, it doesn't guarantee marriage readiness. I've known of people who lived together for years before getting married (in their 30s) and their marriages didn't make it beyond the 3 year mark. Your preparation for marriage together (counseling, budgeting, etc) and your commitment and love for each other will carry you through most of life's problems. There are gonna be some roadblocks that you'll need help with but you'll be able to work them out. Obviously, there are no guarantees for ANYONE, but your age alone does not determine your success or failure.

Also, my grandmother married by grandfather at 16 and they were married until the day he passed away.

ETA: this is also highly regional. I lived in the South for 4 years and I had friends lamenting their single spinster status at age 24 and that they were gonna grow old and never get married. Most of the people I knew there got married in college or shortly after. I live in California, am nearly 30 and at least half of my friends are still happily single.

View Quoted Comment Thank you for commenting and giving your input! At the end of the day it all comes down to what is "best" for me (as in a person individually) . You can't judge someones journey based on your own personal experience as it is a very small sample size. "your age alone doesn't determine your success or failure" SO TRUE!

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We both turned 20 this year (actually my birthday is next month) and we’ve gotten so much crap from people. Mostly on here but some of it is extended family. It honestly doesn’t bother me anymore, like it’s not your marriage is it? 😂

FH and I are getting married next month at 22. We've been together for 7 years and have been through loss, my mental health, college, etc. I lived with friends throughout my college years and got that experience. I honestly feel like we've gone through more than most of the adult couples I know getting married (most of them have been together a short while). I don't second guess it because I know what I want and I know the man I'm marrying. I think it's completely inappropriate to throw out opinions on someone else's marriage due to a couple being in their early 20s. This is an etiquette forum, so why blatantly go against etiquette by placing judgement. OP, I'm sorry that you've been dealing with it while wedding planning. It's not acceptable.

I am 19 and so is my FH.... I posted about this on here, same exact issue as you and same classes and all... people discriminated me on here. Just try to ignore those that aren’t close to you. It’s frustrating.

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Thank you! That's so exciting you have one more month to go!!! I'm still in the triple digits.

View Quoted Comment I'm sorry! people can be so quick to judge and place personal experiences on others. Only you know in your heart and gut what is right for YOU.

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If you're in a happy and healthy relationship then why is it a problem? congratulations! and Happy early birthday.

I’m 23 and my FH will be 26 the month after we’re married.

I juts roll roll my eyes. Coworkers are always going on about how young I am and how I should travel.
We both have really good jobs and have been together for 5 years living for 4.

Also, I can travel with my husband. He is honestly more interested in doing that than me since I’m a workaholic and homebody.

I do not have personal experience marrying young, but two of my closest friends married just out of high school, and my brother and his wife married just out of college. All three couples have had a beautiful, committed, and strong relationship with their partners. I am certain that if enter your union with love and determination that you can have a long and happy relationship. Congratulations!

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I had the opportunity to travel across Europe, and I would love to go back with my FH. Just because you're getting married young it doesn't mean you can't travel anymore lol I do resonate with being a homebody though.

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Thank you so much!

I've got a handful of backlash for marrying so young (I'm 23, he's 22) but for someone to say I'm not fully ready to get married is a bit ignorant. We both are financially stable, have full time jobs using our college degrees and so on. I don't know how another 5 years (28 years is what people say) will change whether or not I should marry him, considering we've already been together for 7 years but it is what it is, don't let those get to you (:

I did but in the end they were right. We got married at 21 and 23 and divorced at 30 and 32.

For us we grew apart not together. It had nothing to do with our ability to pay bills or live on our own. We were just not the same people in our 30s as we were when we got married. We grew separately instead of together. The person I am today would not even give him the time of day if I met him today.

And I'm not saying that all young couples are doomed, plenty make it work and have long happy marriages but the people who make comments are likely doing it from a well intended if not slightly rude concern because they care about you.

You are going to grow and change a lot in the next five - ten years -- the challenge will be if you are able to grow and change together. I have known lots of people who got married young and divorced and people who got married young and stayed together. It was always all about whether they were able to grow and change together. This doesn't seem to be something you can know ahead of time, because you don't know how you will change. That is why most people suggest you wait. Good luck -- and hopefully you will be one of those couples who are able to grow together.

I have a very similar breakdown as you do, we will be 22 and 23 when we get married at the end of this year. Our families have been extremely supportive, especially since I’m done with college, and we are both completely self sufficient as we have been for a few years. Don’t let other people, including people on WW disclosurage you because of their own negative experiences. You’re going through the steps and to be perfectly honest we aren’t THAT young getting married. The majority of my friends are married and have been for a few years. Just stay around people who sees supportive.

View Quoted Comment Thank you so much! And congratulations.