Age Discrimination- young couple

You're probably not going to get the responses you want on here. Most people on WW will tell you even if you are financially secure that getting married in your early 20s is a bad idea. You are not finished growing and who you are at 22 will not be the same as who you will be at 28. I was married at 23 and I contacted a lawyer to start divorce proceedings before our first anniversary. Now I have no idea why I would think I was ready to be married or what I saw in my ex.

Me and FH will both be 23. Family and friends have all been extremely supportive but I have felt I've received some negative comments at work. Mostly, I just try to brush it off, but easier said than done.

A lady at work recently told me how lucky I am to have found my soulmate at such a young age and wishes she'd found her husband and married younger so they could have spent more time together. It was such a refreshingly kind and touching thing to say that I honestly wanted to cry.

So keep that sentiment in mind! You are so so lucky to have found your person and be able to start and build your lives together.

I'm turning 22 this month and I'll be 23 when I get married. FH is turning 25 this year. At first my parents weren't thrilled because of my age and some of my friends made a couple of comments at first about waiting a little bit longer. No one says anything anymore.

I'll be 22 and he'll be 24 and we've been together for 7 years. And been engaged for 3 years lol. Weve lived together since i was 18. Finally getting married this year. So everyone I've talked too, like more stranger wise, always says it's not like he'll be the one and youll be together forever. My family has never said anything to me about it. I think you can change and grow with each other as you get older. And it's no one's opinion but yours. They have no idea how you two feel about each other.

You're happy with your FS so don't let it bother you. I know it's hard I sometimes feel like I'm the 'Old Lady' bride at 36, seeing ladies in their 20's at every wedding related place. But I'm happy, it took me a bit longer but I found him no one else's opinion matters.

You're lucky to have someone when you're younger you'll have more time together. Remember that, not the negativity

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Thank you that is really sweet!

Yes, both my fiance and I had to grow up pretty quickly due to the hand that life dealt us. We're truly lucky to have found each other! I wish people would realize that not everyone is craving that "party lifestyle" and that getting married young is awful. If anything I am so excited to have so much life to live with my FH and do life together!

Best of wishes to you!

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Thank you so much!

And yes! it doesn't matter how early/late you find the person you want to spend your life with. It's amazing finding that special someone.

Congratulations, you're NOT an old bride!

If you're secure in your decision, then don't let it bother you. IMO, if you are letting people get to you, you probably see some truth in their arguments...

Most of the comments actually came from my parents rather than everyone else. We'll be 25 and 24 by the time we're married (23 and 22 engaged). The only advice I'll give you is to seriously think about it. Can you support each other through rough times? Are you able to take a step back in tough times and remember why you love each other? Can you work through any issue in an "adult relationship" manner? There are many more questions to ask but it'll take too much time to write them out. Really only you and your fiance can answer those types of questions. If it all comes down to yes, you're both ready for marriage, then ignore what other people say. It's easy to lump every situation into "you're too young to get married in your 20s" but it really comes down to the couple despite age. But, also know that that advice also comes from people who have seen many young couples divorce and their own personal experiences so it's not that they're trying to hinder your happiness or control some aspect of you, they just want to make sure you're making the right choice. How you answer their remarks is up to you, but just make your life choices smartly.

I'm sorry you're being discriminated against. Personally I believe that age is just a number, and that it's maturity that counts. One of my daughter's will be 23 and her FH 24 when they marry. Both us and his parents are in full support of the marriage, but I wouldn't be surprised if they get comments from time to time from outsiders. Try to brush it off as you know deep down that you're ready.

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Thank you! And it's so true, a connection can not be understood if you're not the one experiencing it directly.

FH and I will both be 22 when we get married.

Luckily we haven't had anyone make comments about how we'll only be 22 when we get married.

We're high school sweethearts and by the time we get married we'll have been together for 6 years (our wedding is on our 6 year anniversary). We are financially independent from our parents, own a house, and are getting a puppy this weekend.

I think there's something to be said for if you truly know if this is the person you want to marry. From the moment we met, we basically knew we'd get married some day when we were ready and able to and mature enough to commit to it.

I would say listen to the people who express concern. But don't let them change your opinion (unless your opinion needs changing...don't ignore any problems like signs of abusive behavior, etc.). You know your relationship best so trust your gut!

I will be 22 when I get married. My FH brother thought we were crazy for getting married young too. We are in love and we also love God. We want to get married and then start a family. Years ago people got married even younger than us and divorce wasn't as common. I know I am ready to be married.

My FH are I super young as well! We’ve prayed about our relationship so much! It’s amazing how we’ve had confirmations from God. Recently a rumor started that we only got engaged because I am pregnant. I think it’s hilarious because that obviously not true! It’s sad that young people cannot get engaged without people assuming they’re going to have a baby. Like no! Maybe it’s because we love each other!!
So many people have said that my FH is so wise for his age. Many people may not understand but the way I see it is that we just get to spend more time together. We’ll have been married longer than other couples our age. Don’t let it get to you! If you know he is truly for you then it’s what matters.

My fiance and I were 22 when we got engaged and will be 24 by the time we're married. He is my person, and I am lucky to have met him so early on in life. When you know you know. We are also thankful to be financially stable with good jobs so we do not see a need to wait around to get married. I love doing life with my best friend

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Thank you! what ends up frustrating me is just the nosiness of some people. I just find it rude when people give their "two cents" without being asked, ESPECIALLY when they don't know me or my fiance that well.

My husband and I just got married and are both 23. I grew up in a family where everyone got married young because why wait when you've found the one! All happy, long marriages. Don't let those people get to you! Blessings to you and your FH!

Sorry some people are going to give their opinion about your relationship when its not wanted or needed. My best friend married her high school and college sweetheart the summer after they graduated college. She was 22 and he was 21 at the time. They have always had a very mature and healthy relationship that most friends and family didn't try to question them getting married. When you know, you know. So disregard anyone who tries to make you feel like you aren't making a good decision when its your and you FHs decision to make. Yes there are some people out there with their own experiences and thing they should have waited until they were older, but that was still their decision to make.

I am 22 almost 23 and FH is 26 almost 27. We get this ALL the time. Well he doesn't, I do. "Why are you getting married so young? You have so much life to live." Yes, yes I do have a lot of life to live and I want to live it with the love of my life. I am much more mature than most people my age as I already got the sought after "college scene" and party animal out of my system, so I'm ready to settle down and move onto the next adventure. My family has never had a problem with it, it's always random people we meet who have an opinion.

All in all, it's your life! If you feel you're ready to take on the next step, go for it! Age doesn't mean anything in my opinion as a 20 year old can be just as "mature" as a 40 year old. Depends on how one carries their self. I just laugh when someone makes a comment about me being too young.

I think the reason you are hearing so much from people is the older you get the more opinions you have about things. I would tell anyone under 24 to wait, BUT, that's from my experience. I got married the first time at 24, had I waited a couple of years, I know that we would not be divorced. The first couple of years of marriage are tough and I was not mature enough to handle infertility, job loss, & all the other stumbling blocks.

Having said that I have friends who met at 13 married at 18 and are STILL married & crazy about each other. I say if you are confident in your relationship, don't let anyone tell you otherwise, but if you are second guessing anything, WAIT. Marriage is difficult, believe me.