Age Discrimination- young couple

Marriage is a decision for you and your FS to make, if both of you feel this is the right step than that's all that matters. My FH and I met early 20's and got engaged within a couple years and are finally getting married this year and I love the fact we were able to grow together, yes there were and are hard times no matter what age it's just if you both are willing to grow through things with each other

View Quoted Comment Right? Fellow “old lady” here. I’ll be 35 at my wedding. 22 is young, but it’s not too young to get married if you have your head screwed on straight. You can do this OP! 😊

FH and I are in our early 20s. My family and friends have been supportive, but his parents actually tried to talk him out of proposing. It’s annoying, but we truly believe we’re right for each other. There hasn’t been a moment that I’ve second guessed whether he’s right for me and my FH says the same. In my opinion, people don’t have to support it. That could be less dinners I have to pay for at my reception. 🤷🏻‍♀️

We are on the younger side and have experienced some judgement for it, not by family but by vendors! (I was 24 and he was 27 when we got engaged, we will be 26 and 30 by the wedding though). We have been called "kids" at a venue, people have assumed our parents were paying for it or that we didn't have the money to pay, and I even had vendors assume we were shopping for my sweet 16.... it's a bit offensive to say the least. Only you can know you're ready at such a young age, but I do think 22 and 23 is old enough to know what you want if you are on the more mature side. I would just reccomend taking your time and maybe having a long engagement to really make sure you are in fact ready for marriage. As far as the outside judgement, you can't pay it much mind because at the end of the day this is YOUR lives.

I’m 23 and my FH is 25, we’ve been together for 6 1/2 years and while we have family and friends who support us and have been waitin for us to get engaged, there’s always those few who think they know what’s best for our lives more than we do. My FH has had relatives tell him not to get married, that he’s too young and should be enjoying life and dating around. I’ve had friends tell me I’m too young and it’s crazy that I’m actually going through with it. I find it sad that the idea of marriage has changed so much, but if you look around our generation gives up on everything so quickly and only wants to have fun without commitment so I really don’t take their opinions to heart. We have grown together in the last 6 1/2 years and have been through so much that has made us stronger. The way I see it is we are blessed enough to have found our significant others at a young age and get to grow older together longer 😊

I’m 25 and my old boss said to me “forever is a long time... now isn’t it hilary” and this made me uneasy about her.. don’t doubt people’s love until you’re in their shoes or they give you a reason not to. There’s people who have been together since 8th grade that I know and are strong couples and there are people I know who got married at 28 and we’re divorced in 2 years. That being said if 22 year old me had married my ex it would have ended ugly.

But no one should question your love without reasoning your spouse and your families support is most important... sorry I accidentally posted my other comment before I was done!

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That's crazy! we haven't experienced that from vendors. When i'm paying vendors a few thousand dollars I'd expect them to ZIP it and provide the service that I am paying for. GEEZ! Sorry you have had to go through that.

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Thank you! I appreciate your input.

Well, no one I know that married before 25 is still together. The odds are just against young marriages.

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It goes back to "if you don't have nothing nice to say, don't say anything at all!" haha 30 isn't even old, my goodness! Thank you for your input.

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Thank you I appreciate the encouragement!

It's harder when you're younger and have less life experience. However, that doesn't mean you and your FH aren't ready. You sound like you're being smart with budget classes and counseling. Part of growing up means learning to have faith in yourself and ignore your critics. Back until just the last few decades, your age was the most typical age to marry. Best wishes for a lovely and long marriage.

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Thank you so much! I appreciate your input.

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My FH and i met when I was 18 and he was 28 and I knew the day I met him he was the one and I mean that ppl thought we were crazy now we are going on 12 years of being together and they all look stupid. I know its not the same age range but I want u to know as long as u guys love each other thats what is the most important dont worry about what others think or say. I know its hard not to let it bother u but try.

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I totally understand that, like I said in a few posts back my fiancé and I had to grow up quickly due to life circumstances such as abusive parent(s), addiction and mental disorders within our immediate family that we both had to GROW UP and become fully independent by 20. Of course by no means does that mean that "we know it all" but it has helped us really narrow down what we'd like in a life long partner! thank you so much for your input and kind wishes.

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That's amazing! thank you so much for commenting and encouraging!

That's around the age my parents were married and they have a very strong marriage and the added benefit that they were able to have many fun "couple" years of travelling together and building their wealth up before having children at 30. Don't worry what people say, most everyone these days will scoff at religious reasoning but a shared faith is the best tie you could possibly have, so you're probably better off than most getting married in their 30s. If I had met my FH sooner (and I wish I had!) I have no doubt that we would've taken the plunge and been 100% fine at any (appropriate) age, unfortunately I've had to wait until 26, and we are "waiting for marriage" which is definitely hard - if that's part of your reason I totally get it - also adds to the frustration because not many people know or understand! I have faced a lot of judgment for only dating a short time, having a short engagement and for scheduling my wedding on a Friday to allow for planning in a short time, but it's our marriage and our lives and nobody should get to bully us into thinking we're making any kind of mistake. I have zero doubt in my mind that this is the one and only person for me - as long as you're happy and know in your heart you're making the right choice, don't let these other people plant doubt in you, or make you feel bad! Stay strong.

I know plenty of people who got married around the same age as you. That was almost 14 years ago and they're still together and all very happy. My parents got married younger than you guys and they will be celebrating their 46th anni this year. They are still very much in love.

You're taking premarital courses, counseling and budget classes, so clearly you two aren't rushing into this and really working hard to learn as much as you can before taking this next big step. Who cares what anyone else thinks. Especially people who give you their opinions when you don't even ask.