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2020 Brides

Futuremrsklep, on April 23, 2018 at 9:39 AM Posted in Planning 1 274
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Who else is getting married in 2+ years? How much planning have you actually done so far? I’m getting married on December 31, 2020 and I feel so lost with planning (or even getting all of my ideas straight) since my wedding is so far away. Anyone else feeling this way?


  • Jasmine
    Beginner August 2019
    Jasmine ·
    I'm getting married July 25,2020 and I feel the same way the only thing I have is my wedding party. I don't want to get a wedding planner right now because it is to early
  • K
    Just Said Yes October 2020
    Kelly ·
    I am getting married October 3, 2020, but have gotten some planning done. We booked our venue, photographer and DJ, but that's it so far. I have not thought much about the colors, my wedding party, where we will be getting married, etc. I keep saying to myself I have over 2 years to get this all done, but I know those 2 years will go by quick.
  • FutureMrsKC
    Master January 2019
    FutureMrsKC ·

    When we got engaged we were almost at the 2 year mark, but a little past. This is a great time to just soak it all in. Make some Pinterest boards, really think about what you want, but also remember that trends may change a lot in two years, something that's "in" now could seem silly by then, and then other things might pop up over time that you'll love!

    I'd definitely think about budget and draft a guest list just to see what kind of size you're working with and what size wedding you can afford. Don't ask your wedding party yet, at least until a year before. Relationships can change, and you have a long time before you need to make that decision so I'd save yourself while you're ahead. You might be able to book a venue this early, so if you find something you love I'd lock in the 2018 prices because they can go up from year to year. This is the time to definitely enjoy your engagement and brainstorm!

    What helped me was planning the big stuff over time, I bought a calendar and said "Ok in May we are booking the venue, june we find a caterer. In the fall we took engagement pics, etc." That always made me feel like I was "planning" without being overwhelmed and still getting stuff done. Now I'm 9 months away with all of my major vendors booked, a lot of decor bought, and I feel like I'm in a really good place planning wise.

  • Trisa
    Just Said Yes September 2020
    Trisa ·
    Yes! I'm planning a September 20, 2020 wedding and am so lost. Really just trying to tie down exactly what we want so we know what we're looking for. I've been going to bridal shows as they come up but the whole process is so overwhelming. How early is too early to book a venue?!
  • Kaylyn
    Super May 2019
    Kaylyn ·
    October 2020, we have our venue and budget set. Our wedding is in a different state so we’re going to try to tackle the rest of our vendors and engagement photos at the same time when we go there next year
  • Futuremrsklep
    Dedicated January 2021
    Futuremrsklep ·
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    Thank you so much for the advice! Thankfully, I’m not one to jump at trends. I want my wedding to be classy and timeless. I made a preliminary guest list and asked FH to make one as well for his side. Also, I asked my mom the other day to give me a suggestion list of guests that I might have forgotten about!

    Also, random side note: you sound a lot like my cousin, planning-wise! She has had a long engagement and had almost everything done a few months ago, 9 months away from her wedding!
  • C
    Just Said Yes October 2019
    Chelsea ·

    My wedding date is set for June 6th, 2020. The only thing I'm currently trying to take care of is starting a rough draft of a guest list so I can go ahead and tour venues and get one picked out as soon as possible since it is during peak season. I say important things for me right now are: trying to secure a venue, photographer, and DJ and other than that I am just trying to get a vision of what I like as far as color schemes and dresses go. I probably won't start worrying too much about details until next summer!

  • Futuremrsklep
    Dedicated January 2021
    Futuremrsklep ·
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    I don’t know! I’ll probably book mine ASAP once I find one I like, but I’m getting married on New Year’s Eve so venues are booked far in advance for those.
  • Mandy
    Savvy August 2019
    Mandy ·
    I'm getting married in May or June of 2020. FH and I have set a budget and looked at venues, caterers, and florists so far. I would suggest setting a budget and looking at venues first. Everything else seems to start to fall into place after that!
  • Chelsea
    Dedicated January 2020
    Chelsea ·
    I'm getting married January 17th, 2020. I got engaged November 10th, 2017. A few months into my engagement I had a venue, planned, photographer, DJ, and photobooth. I have my colors picked, most of my bridal party, my guest list although it will be changed a little as time goes on, my budget is set, etc. We are currently working on a videographer and caterer. After that, we will take a break from the wedding planning for a bit.
  • A
    Just Said Yes October 2021
    Ashley ·
    My wedding is June 21,2020
  • S
    Just Said Yes February 2020
    Sheyanna ·
    We are getting married February 29, 2020. The only thing that I have chosen is our colors and my bridesmaids. I’m feeling so overwhelmed with trying to figure out a venue and who all is and isn’t invited!
  • C
    Just Said Yes September 2019
    Christine ·
    My dream date has always been October 10, 2020! I feel like I have to plan ahead because I know so many people are going to want to have that date. It also is a Saturday luckily. My whole wedding party is picked out and our colors are done. I also keep buying little things here and there so I don’t have to shell out so much in when I do get married!
  • Amanda
    Savvy June 2020
    Amanda ·
    I am getting married June 27th 2020. I have most of my wedding party picked out. I have gotten prices for the venue and DJ so far, but have not done much of anything else. Still not sure with the colors. I think I have an okay start for now.
  • B
    Just Said Yes October 2020
    Bobbie ·
    October 2020 here. We have our colors and a first draft of our wedding party and guest list done. I'll probably start gathering ideas in June (while on vacation). I want to look at venues this October and see if we can book something to lock in price. Will definitely be following this thread to see what ideas I might miss
  • M
    Beginner April 2020
    Mary ·
    Hey all, we set a wedding date for April 18, 2020. I feel like any time I talk to ANYONE about it, family, friends, venues, florist, photographers, ANYONE!
    No one takes me seriously. Everyone’s response is “oh you have time” which, yes, is true but I also don’t know the first thing about weddings. I want to ask the questions without getting Those god awful looks AND I would love to look at vendors without getting spammed with “you won 300 dollars off your photography but you have to book now”
    please tell me I’m not alone?
  • J
    Beginner June 2020
    Jennifer ·
    I'm planning my wedding for June 6, 2020. Our venue is booked. I have a wedding party for both me and my FH. I have ideas of a color scheme but I might change it. I already bought my wedding dress.
    I have ideas of a photographer's and where to purchase invitations, save the dates, etc. I got a list of other vendors near my venue to look into. Oh and I have a rough draft of a guest list. I have asked my mother to write down other people I forgot about but she still hasn't gotten back to me.
    I want to find a photographer soon because I want to get engagement photos done during spring to match the same time as the wedding.
    So I think I'm on a good track so far with checking off my to-do list.
  • J
    Beginner June 2020
    Jennifer ·
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    I have been through that already. Went to 3 bridal shows and "won" a free trip to whatever place. And I come to find out it's not free at all and it's a huge scam. Don't sign up for those.
    Also, make a new email just for wedding planning. Any site I sign up for, or any vendor I talk to.. I give them that email. Once the Wedding is over, it can be deleted and forgotten about. Plus have your FH have access to it so he can see the emails you get too.
  • robyn
    Just Said Yes April 2020
    robyn ·
    Not engaged yet, but I know it’s coming soon. I went ahead and picked the date April 25,2020. Exactly 2 years from today. I’m trying to nail down the wedding party and things. Next I’m trying to figure out a reasonable venue. We are both nerds and decided on a Harry Potter themed wedding.
  • D
    Just Said Yes May 2020
    DaNell ·

    Yes! We're shooting for May 5, 2020, and I am slightly overwhelmed. I like to be on top of things and I love planning, but when it comes to my wedding, I'm a little lost. I know my colors, a rough bridal party, and what venue I would *like* to book, but that's about it so far.

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