Discussions by Michelle

Are you keeping the centerpieces all the same or mixing up the styles if you couldn’t decide on one look?

How festive are you going? Are you planning to have a winter wonderland with red/green/pine or blue/silver/snow, or are you steering the opposite direction with no holiday decorations/colors at all?...

What things have stood out to you as a guest at other weddings that you loved and wanted to include in your own wedding that may or may not be uncommon in your circles? An unconventional food/beverage...

Over the course of planning, what did you not care about that is “expected” by online articles and Wedding Industry vendors pressure that you must focus all your attention and energy on? Some examples...

Do you have a preference or does your venue have a fire code restriction on the type used?

Your favorite brand, either drug store or high end, that doesn’t dry out your lips and is long lasting? Also what tips and tricks do you have for making regular lipstick last longer?

As a guest, do you prefer the couple telling you what to wear or do you feel that is overstepping? As a hostess, do you have a preference of what vibe you want or do you trust adult guests to dress...

Which are you keeping vs skipping: Grand entrance (of any variation) at the receptionMC announcements First danceBridal party danceCake cutting ceremony ToastsAnniversary dance or alternative...

When are you doing this? Are you dismissing the rows after the ceremony or greeting them at the cocktail hour or a pre ceremony cocktail hour? Those who did the pre- or post- ceremony cocktail hour...

Are you treating them as guests only, which is a huge honor in itself, or are you doing something special instead? For us, it was really hard to pick 3-5 people on each side to honor as attendants...

How many did you decide to invite? Did you increase or cut the list at any point before save the date notices were sent?

Based on what is commonly done in your families and social circles for years, what if anything are you keeping at your wedding and what are you cutting out? Also, are you introducing anything new that...

Are you embracing the holidays or going with a different aesthetic? Are you doing anything unique for the season? What do your inspiration photos look like?

What have been your favorites as a guest and what did you absolutely hate?

Is this actually a thing that adults do? I was shocked reading another site where a bride was being encouraged by multiple fellow brides to ask a bridesmaid or other friend to be on “wine duty” to...

Are you walking into the cocktail hour/reception without any fanfare or announcement beyond what the officiant says at the end of the ceremony? While many djs consider it to be bare minimum standard...

Putting together a binder for yourself with pockets to hold contracts, paint chips, fabric swatches, brochures and so on along with a printout of the wedding planning spreadsheets from GoogleSheets is...

Which songs or artists are you and/or fiancé not wanting to hear at all?

Do you plan to have these at the reception? Switch them to the rehearsal dinner or eliminate them entirely? They are rare/nonexistent in our circles and we don’t feel comfortable with that much extra...

If you choose not to greet guests at the end of the ceremony, how will you will make sure that you get to everyone to say hi and thank you at the reception that doesn’t cut into dancing time? For...