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Traditions vs new trends: what are you keeping and cutting out?

Michelle, on November 21, 2021 at 2:46 PM Posted in Planning 0 8
Based on what is commonly done in your families and social circles for years, what if anything are you keeping at your wedding and what are you cutting out?

Also, are you introducing anything new that is unknown to your social circle that you have seen in person or online? Or is there anything you are clearly not including that you have seen from those same sources?


Latest activity by Melle, on December 1, 2021 at 1:18 PM
  • Alyssa
    Super December 2021
    Alyssa ·
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    We are fairly “go against the grain”. We aren’t doing bouquet or garter toss, our procession songs are non traditional (steel drum music as well). I’m standing on the right side, not the left. Not changing my name or going my Mrs. and we aren’t having kids, and we aren’t doing a cake cutting.
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  • Bird
    Devoted June 2021
    Bird ·
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    We didn’t have a bridal party, maid of honor or best man. We didn’t do a bouquet or garter toss. We had a sheet cake instead of a typical 3 tier fancy wedding cake. I didn’t have a train on my dress. We were so so so happy with our decisions!
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  • Samantha
    Expert August 2022
    Samantha ·
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    Traditions we're sticking with: wedding party, first dance, white-ish dress, traditional florals (bouquets, boutonnieres, VIP florals)

    New things we're introducing into our friend group: destination wedding, no wedding cake (at least, probably not, jury is still out), non-dancing reception in a restaurant.

    Things we're skipping: garter toss, bouquet toss, games and dances, grand exit (couldn't figure out logistics that made sense)

    We aren't the first people in my family to have a small wedding though - my cousin also had a wedding of about 40 people but we'll be the first to not be inviting cousins (Christmas is about to be rough but it's okay).

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  • Cece
    Rockstar November 2022
    Cece Online ·
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    We are going completely against the grain as far as what is traditional in my family. Most notably is the fact we are having a small destination wedding, and it will be adults only. We have an insanely huge family, and all weddings up until now have been 200-400 people, with tons of children. Other traditions we are ditching: I am not wearing a white dress, no flower girl or ring bearer, we are not doing bouquet or garter tosses, no spotlight dances, no speeches from MOH and BM, possibly no wedding cake (other desserts though), no “traditional” wedding food, no grand entrances or exits, and we are extending the celebration to 3 days, rather than just one evening. We are also planning to hire entertainment for the cocktail hour, which no one has ever done in our families.
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  • CountryBride
    VIP April 2022
    CountryBride Online ·
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    I’m having champagne dresses, not having traditional wedding food we are having bbq, we are keeping garter/ bouquet toss,
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  • Emilia
    Expert June 2019
    Emilia ·
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    I introduced some polish traditions (like the real ones, probably not those known in the US ;-)) into my french wedding.

    So there were money tossing after the ceremony, and collecting the coins after that.

    Then we had a special welcome drink at the party (bride and groom both have glasses with some transparent liquid, one is vodka, the other one is water; a person who picks up the vodka will be in charge in the marriage ;-))

    I tossed my veil instead of my flowers and my husband did the same with his bow-tie.

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  • Stephanie
    Savvy August 2022
    Stephanie ·
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    Ditching the wedding party, no cakes, no tossing, no band, reception not at the country club, ceremony not in a church, no cocktail hour, no wedding gown, no groom.

    Introducing the outdoor ceremony and outdoor reception, boutonnieres for all guests, friend/family officiant, photo guest book, bbq, and my fabulous wife to be.
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  • Melle
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    I walked down the aisle by myself

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