Sad Day...wedding is cancelled :( Need advice

I'm so sorry! I really don't know what else to say

As for the BM Dress Maybe pay half if its in your budget that you can...

Thanks Future Mrs. L. I had thought that maybe they could try to sell them on craigslist or ebay or something and then I could make up the difference? IDK...

That's terrible news, I'm so sorry to hear that.

My sister's wedding was canceled a few years ago and there were a lot of hurt feelings all around because she didn't do anything for her bridesmaids who had already spent money and she didn't return any of the gifts she received. It was a tough situation, but she should have done those things. No one would expect you to do it right away, but it would certainly let your friends and family know that you care about the efforts they put towards your wedding. If you offer, they may even say no, but at least offer.

Sorry again, thoughts are with you in this tough time. : (

I'm sorry to hear you've canceled your wedding. As far as the bridesmaid dresses, if they can't return or sell and you are able to I would offer to pay them back.

Thanks Kristen. Thats the last thing I would want right now! Dont want to hurt my friends and family. My parents have been great about the whole thing. They could care less about the money. They want to make sure I am happy. But my BM might be a little upset. $150 is alot of money. Thanks again.

I'm so sorry, that's a terrible thing to hear.

I think if you explain what is going on to them they will understand too. If you are able to help them out with the dresses I think that its the thought that counts. My friend decided to shorten her BMs last minute and a few of us were stuck with dresses we purchased. I didn't let her pay me back for it because she was in a really rough spot. I kept my dress in hopes of finding another occasion to wear it ( and I did).

I'm sorry you're going through this....but it sounds like you two made the right decision...better to be happy separate than unhappy together.

I agree with Shannon...If they can't return/sell the dresses...I would offer to pay for whatever they have spent on the dress. It's the right thing to do.

And you could certainly take your time, no one expects you to have that money just laying around of course! Just letting them know you intend to help out with what they spent will go a long way. Take the time you need to feel sad about what happened though. I'm glad your family is there for you, that must help a little!

Sorry to hear about that. my thoughts are with you. im pretty sure your BM know your going through a tough time right now and they probably wont ask you much about it, maybe reimburse them half or see if they could sell them online.

Im so sorry to hear this, my heart goes out to you

I would buy the dresses from the girls and try to sell them at a local bridal consignment shop. They are more willing to take BM dresses if they are a set

I'm sorry to hear! I think it speaks a lot of your character to be going through this and one of the first thoughts that comes to mind is how it will effect everyone else in your life. You sound like a sweet, strong individual and you will get through this just fine

I'm really really sorry to hear that. Best of luck to you.

Oh sweetie sometimes when it seems like something is lost, it is in that losing that we can obtain something bigger...a fresh perspective. Maybe what's right is really only right now. Give yourself sometime to heal and explore what's best for you. 6 months from now you could have an entirely different view. Hang onto your dress. You may need it sooner than you think.

Rachel

Thanks everyone. My parents and his bestman are the only ones that know as of right now. We arent telling people until we figure out our living situation, which is a whole other nightmare. But it is good to know that my parents have my back and will support me, as Im sure my friends and rest of my family will too.

I will definitley offer to pay them back. It will take a while, but Ill try to do what I can. Thanks.

Blair-the consignment shop is a great idea. Thanks for the advice.

Aretina-thank you for the kind words.

Hopefully one day down the road it will all work out. Time will tell.

I'm sorry you're going through this. I'm sure your BM's will have your back and won't press you about the dresses they purchased.

Sorry you have to go through this. I hope everything works out for you.

Sorry to hear about your wedding! I know it's a tough decision but in the end it's a right decision! Don't worry too much about the bridesmaid dresses right now I'm sure they understand that you are going through a lot right now

Thank you

I would buy their dresses from them. (if they arn't a style they would wear for anything else) and then take them all together to a consignment shop, to see if you can sell them. Especially since the shop doesn't have to dry clean them or anything you might be able to get quite a bit back.

Sorry to hear about your troubles, hard to see now that this is the right decision but if it is that big a deal (having kids, where to live etc) it is better you decided to call it off than go through with it and then get divorced.

If you don't want to buy the dresses you could throw an anti-wedding party for the girls, make an awesome girls night, (un batchlorette like how some people throw parties when their divorce is final) pay for their drinks, dinner etc insead. Tell them I know you guys spent so and so already & that we can't get that back so what Im gonna do is spend $500 and take us all for dinner drinks and dancing. Then your giving them what you would have at the reception anyway)