Sad Day...wedding is cancelled :( Need advice

Soon to be Mrs. Smith-that is actually kinda cute. Thanks for the suggestion!

I'm so sorry to hear that. Sounds like a horribly difficult decision to make, but a very mature one. I would maybe buy the dresses from your BM (if you can financially mangage) and then try to sell them online and get as much back for them as you can. And keep your head up.

I am sorry to hear this, I hope everything works out for the better. I agree with Blair and Soon2bMrs.Smith.

I had to cancel my wedding... we had 11 months left still so thankfully none of the girls had their dresses yet... our living arrangements, cancelling our reception hall, church etc, was not fun at all... I feel for you! Having to deal with their dresses is really the last thing you want to think about and I'm sure they will understand. I agree with Mrs. Smith though, they may want to party in those dresses and find another time to wear them also, ask each of your friends what they think? Maybe only 1 or 2 will want some money back, most I think will understand.

BTW, I'm totally happy with my husband (and can't believe I almost married my ex!) Everything happens for a reason! Even if it doesn't feel like that right now!! Chin up! xo

Talk to them -- if I had a friend who was in the process of cancelling her wedding and figuring out her living situation, there's no way I would let her pay me back for the dress -- I would let her take it to the consignment shop since (as others have stated) a set would sell better and then give me any money she makes from the consignment sale. But everyone's different -- I would like to be asked though.

A party sounds like a great idea to thank them for their efforts to date and to cut loose a little yourself -- I'm sure this is an incredibly difficult time for you and your friends and family are going to be a great support system!

THanks Kim D. We have not started the process yet of cancelling everything. My Mom said she will help with that. It all just really sucks!

IM sooo sorry that you going through this((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))))))))

As a bride I would offer to buy back the dresses but as the BM i would not let the bride to that

i also think after things get worked out with your living arrangement's and vendors

you should have a UN wedding party

when the judge signed my divorce papers, I went out and partied, i found it was a good release of all the hurt and anger and a cheers to the fact for my rights(1/2 of assets, spousal support, house) in the divorce ever again

I am so sorry to hear that.....did you by any chance get them from Davids Bridal? I cancelled mine at one point and two of mine had already bought their dresses...i called the store and they told me that they could get a full refund, but DO NOT tell them that the wedding was cancelled....just tell them to say that the bride went with another dress....that's what the lady told me....I think she felt bad lol. In case you got your gown there as well, the same technique worked to get my gown refunded as well!

I would reimburse your BMs for their dresses and then you can try to sell them yourself, that way they don't have to wait to get their money back.

I am so sorry to hear you guys are unable to work through the issues and had to cancel. As for the dresses, maybe you could take some of the money you originally planned to use for downpayments and purchase the dresses from the ladies and then sell them yourselves on ebay or craigslist to recoup some of the money.

Btw, I admire someone who has enough corage to recognize when something is not right and make the very difficult decision to not make it even worse (reference a Kardashian here for example). I wish for you both peace and compassion from others while you go through this.

I had a friend who had to return her wedding dress and the store gave her a credit to use. It was over $1000. I had to buy a BM dress and I was able to use her credit. So maybe something like that. It was at David's Bridal. Good luck to you though.

So sorry to hear this, I will keep the both of you in my prayers. I think you should offer to pay at least part on their dresses, but have them list them on ebay or something, and you make up the difference. Post pics on here and see if any other brides could use them for their wp.

Noone ever wants to see a breakup, but it's better now than to build a life together and it happens down the line. It sounds like you both still love each other, maybe it won't be a wedding cancellation, maybe it will be a postponement.

Thank you everyone for the great advice and kind words. It is going to be a difficult process for sure. 3 years, a house and a dog...alot to deal with. Thank you all!

You could always try selling them on here (if they allow that stuff). Brides on here could always use the dresses, and you could use the money for paying back your BM. Maybe just post your colors? I know I am in a wedding and have my own coming up - so I would be willing to help if I could. =]

Is it anything that pre-marital counseling would help? Or couples therapy? I am so sorry that this is happening to you, if you still love each other maybe some outside guidance could help?? If not, then its good that you guys can do this now, instead of right before or, even worse, after the wedding. We all love and support you here!!

So sorry to hear this. I would be heartbroken too. Try craigslist if you decide to sell the bridesmaid dresses online. I've seen a lot of bridal wear for sale on there.

Hugs to you!

I see a lot of people has given you great advice on what to do about the dresses. I just wanted to also chime in and tell you that I am sorry to hear about your situation and everything happens for a reason. This could be one of the hardest things you've ever had to do but one day you'll be able to look back and know that it was the right decision. Good Luck with everything.

Sorry to hear this, sounds like you two made the right decision for you and that's all that matters. Praying for strength and healing for the both of you.

Thank you for all the kind words and support. You ladies are great. We are making the right decision...just really, really stinks!

I'm very sorry to hear you are going through this. I also want to applaud you for having the guts to do what is right for you both and not just going through with the wedding for the sake of going through with it. I was questioning whether to go through with my 1st wedding 13 years ago even the day of and I was so worried about what people would think and felt I had to because people would be dissapointed. Time will heal your heart.

As for the dresses, try selling them on Craigslist maybe. I see alot of brides and bridesmaid dresses there all the time for sale.