More Bridesmaid Etiquette Questions, Answered!

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No matter how much you love your bridal party, there may be etiquette issues that can arise.


Questions from Brides

I really wanted a relaxed bachelorette party but seems like my bridesmaids are planning to throw me an all-night rager. How do I let them know this isn’t my style?

If it’s early enough in the planning process, talk to your bridesmaids - or if you feel more comfortable, speak with just your maid of honor. Say how much you appreciate their hard work, and express your concerns politely and gently. If it’s later in the planning process and money could be lost if you change plans, you may want to let the party proceed. Be grateful that your bridesmaids took the time to host a party for you, and enjoy the time spent together, rather than focus on the activities.

One of my bridesmaids just announced she’s pregnant and will be very close to her due date at my wedding. Do I ask her to step down?

This should be your bridesmaid’s decision, not yours. She’ll likely say that she still wants to be a part of your wedding, but there is a possibility that she’ll have to miss it. Or, she may feel that your wedding is too close to her due date and she won’t be able to travel so she must step down. Whatever she decides, be understanding and supportive.

Question from Bridesmaids

All of the other bridesmaids are close friends, but I’m the bride’s cousin and I barely know any of them. I feel unwelcome and unable to share my ideas. Should I speak up?

Absolutely, but be aware that majority does tend to rule in these situations. Be friendly and say “I’m so excited to be bridesmaids with you guys. I had some ideas that I thought (bride) might like, and just wanted to share.” If you feel that the other bridesmaids being outwardly rude to you, speak to the bride to see if she can step in and help.