Bride covering groom's eyes outdoors

Photo: Cadey Reisner Weddings

With mile-long to-do lists and many loose ends to tie up, the final days leading up to the wedding can leave you feeling like a hot mess of stress. There are a few things you should avoid doing during the final hours of your single life in order to keep your sanity (or what’s left of it).

Don’t doubt yourself
It’s important you don’t second-guess all the choices you’ve made leading up to the wedding. Whether you start to have doubts about the bridesmaid dresses or what you’re serving as the main entree, there’s not a whole lot you can do about it at this point. Chances are you’ve spent a good amount of time weighing the pros and cons of everything down to the table napkins. This late in the game you have to trust that your signature cocktail was the right call and that your hairstyle is the best match for your dress. At the end of the day, your guests are going to be more excited for you and your fiancé(e) than they will about what favors you give them.

Don’t sweat the small stuff
Don’t fret if things don’t go exactly according to plan. If you have a wedding planner, it’s their job to take care of last-minute changes. Small details like escort cards and your guests arriving on time should not be your main focus. You’ve worked hard up to this point to make sure everything goes off without a hitch and some things are simply out of your control. Things that seem like MAJOR dilemmas to you will likely go unnoticed by your guests.

Don’t forget to rest
With so much on your plate you may forget to take a deep breath and slow down. Set some time aside for yourself in the days leading up to the wedding and allow yourself to just sit back and relax. Take that time to do something non-wedding related such as read a book or go for a run. It’s important that you don’t let all the planning drive you out of your mind, this is supposed to be a fun time!

Don’t worry about everyone else
If you’ve delegated tasks to the wedding party and various family members, trust that they will get it done. You assigned them tasks so you DON’T have to worry about it. It’s also not your responsibility to make sure your guests arrive places on time or to remedy to issues they may have with their travel or hotel reservations—it’s not your problem to fix. Your wedding party is there to support you when those kinds of things happen so don’t resist their help, take advantage of it.

Don’t forget to enjoy to yourself
It’s your wedding after all! When it comes down to it, the only thing that matters is about the fact that you and your S.O. are making a lifelong commitment to each other. No misplaced escort card or incorrect lipstick shade is going to change that fact. Try to keep a realistic perspective on the day and soak it all in. This is a once-in-a-lifetime moment!