Worried what others will think

Who care what they think its your wedding not theirs...if they dont like it then thats their problem

You are paying for it entirely on your own? Hes not able to help?

and dont worry about impressing anyone.

a wedding is not supposed to be for impressing people.

its a time to share a unity with someone and everyone gets to share a special day with you.

so relax and do things your way =]

Oh do not worry, you are not alone!!! I panic about this about once a month. My problem is comparing it to my friends weddings. In the long run, it is about the 2 of you and that is it!! And since you are the bride and the only one paying, you are also the only one who's opinion matters I found this little quote attached on pinterest very early on in the planning process and I try to keep it in mind whenever I get stressed- hopefully it can help you too!

Why worry if you're good enough for his family? Obviously, you're good enough for him, and that's much more important.

Is your FH helping you in anyway? Financially, emotionally (listening to you about yoru day), planning wise?

Have you expressed your concerns to FH? It's sounds like you are mostly concerned with what his side of his family will think. Is FH contributing or participating? Do you want him to?

This is an excellent forum to show off your projects and ideas and get a few hundred extra set of eyes to help spot any areas that could be improved quickly and easily.

You aren't alone - i had a breakdown like 3 weeks before our wedding where i was like "omg nobody is going to like it, it's going to look homemade, we are going to look ridiculous..."

it all turned out well - don't worry!

its not about them its about YOU and FH

@maggie

I love the picture

so very true

My mom isnt able to provide any money so I dont expect his family to either. To be honest no one has been really involved in it or the plans... very depressing...And so far I have been the only one paying..

First off, it's FH's wedding as much as yours. So he should be helping both to pay for it and to plan it. One obvious way he could help is to know his own family's taste, and plan things they will like.

Beyond that, though, the function of a wedding is not to impress people. The function is to enable people who care about you and FH to celebrate this big step in your lives. So limit the guest list to people who care about the two of you (which all by itself will save money without being tacky), and then you won't have to worry about impressing people.

I totally agree with 2d Bride

Yes they're all right! This isn't about them its about you and FH. Trust me we all have worries about this stuff, myself included. In the end you and him are the only ones you have. So I would just focus on that and not worry about them!

My invitations were postcards and I didn't do Save the Dates at all. Not a single person openly scoffed at my complete and utter cheapness. People realize that weddings are ridiculously expensive and that a lot of people have to do it on their own.

In my opinion, you're damned if you do and damned if you don't. There are always going to be people that turn their nose up at some part of your wedding because you didn't "do it right" and there are going to be just as many people who make snide comments about spending money frivolously, and why didn't you just save the money and skip such-n-such. Have the wedding you and FH want, and forget the haters.

But you didn't answer if HE is helping with the wedding, as he SHOULD. LIke 2D said, its about the two of you.... be you and let him be him and it will be fine. But if HE isnt helping financially... psh... i wouldn't be planning

Just remember it's only 4 (or 5) hours of your entire life! I think when you try to look at it that way it makes it seem crazy to even think about spending a ton of money- 4 or 5 hours- that's it! And honestly people will only remember your wedding for so long, so make sure it's special to you- that's all that matters, because you and your FH are the ones who will remember it forever! Who cares what anyone thinks- as long as at the end of the day you're happy with the one standing beside you.

I bet it will be beautiful!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I know it's easier said then done cause I worry about what other think. But everyone is right it's your day and if no one is hellping you do what you want it's your special day. in saying that I know it wont stop the worring I have found that coming to this site makes things a lot better. Good Luck what ever you do will be beautiful

Dont worry, you are your biggest critic

Why isn't he helping you pay? Especially if his family is "well off" why are you getting stuck with the bill?