Why having a dry/self cater wedding because of money is bull

Adria you don't need a wedding to have a marriage....if you can't afford to have a wedding, don't. Elope. Go to the court house and pay for a small celebratory dinner after with family and very close friends. Have a vow renewal after you're done with grad school and settled in your careers.

Adria, I'm simply showing people like YOU that it CAN be done the right way on a small budget. Trust me, she had his first brother at 19. His second at like 25, and was pregnant with my FH when they decided to get married, feeding two kids, no college education, and not sure where they were working at the time, but they STILL managed to have catered food and liquor for the small amount of guests they had. Your "we are college students" excuse is bullshit.

You're being cheap, just own it.

Oooo chile..

Adria don't get offended. WW ladies are trying to tell you how to properly host guests at a wedding. If you really want to get married you can invite less guests. Postponing would also be a good idea. I guess you don't want to regret many years later about the wedding you are currently planning? People will roll eyes and talk about it at least for a while.

Priorities. Guests should always be properly hosted even if that means you can only have a small number of guests.

Bacon Curly--Don't be ridiculous. What a crazy, insane idea. No, the ONLY option to get married is to not wait until you're done with school and other financial commitments, invite a bunch of people, make them fund it by self catering and then make them give me stuff. I mean, they are my friends and family. They know I don't have any money and they should be THANKING me for allowing them to come to my self catered, dry wedding by giving me their hard earned money. How DARE you suggest anything different?

I hate the "tight budget" excuse.

Guess what. I was on a "tight budget." I had a budget of $5k. So I CUT MY GUEST LIST and provided wine and champagne for my guests.

ETA: and catered food. Ain't no way I was cooking on my wedding day or making anyone else do it.

Adria, just about everyone here is paying for their own wedding, on a budget, etc.

I myself am working on a post grad certificate now, and have been planning through part of my undergrad and all of my grad school.

Guess what?

We have and are saving so we can have a fantastic small wedding, and go all out on the reception FOR OUR GUESTS, since the reception is, you know, the THANK YOU to them for coming.

You rave about how great your food will be, but what people are going to be talking about afterward is how you could afford to serve great food, but didn't bother to even provide beer or wine with the meal.

Don't give me the "we're poor college students" spiel. College students can get off their asses and get good paying jobs too, AND go to school. Amazing that. I've done it, AND I have a son, AND DF and I have kept our relationship healthy and unstrained through it all. It can definitely be done. So stop with the money bs.

It boils down to you either aren't old enough and don't want to admit it (because let's face it, most college students graduate at 21, so they usually haven't been 21 for long...), or you don't want to spend the money and properly host your guests, or you are again one of the spoiled masses who want what they want when they want it, and that when is RIGHT NOW, as evidenced by your "why should I wait?!" Whimper.

Why you should wait is so you have time to grow up and realize that as soon as you invite even one guest, your wedding is no longer about you, it's about literally catering to your guests, those people who you will see at every family gathering for the next 30 years, who will be whispering about your poor hosting every step of the way.

Eta: Holy fuck, she's self catering. Omg. That is one incredibly stupid, selfish, ignorant choice to make.

(See what I did there?)

Also Adria, the medical bills you could possibly be paying for when people get sick from your self catered food will be 10x more than a catering/liquor bill.

ETA: words are hard

Just own it Adria. You're cheap. You want to be cheap. That's cool, just own it. Don't put the blame on your guests by insinuating they have a problem if they would enjoy a glass of champagne or a beer at an event.

Adria It won't be cheap because those damn lawyer bills and medical fees from the sepsis, botulism, and salmonella will force you into bankruptcy

I'm greatful that the guests I have coming to my wedding understand that it's mine and my fiance's day and are overjoyed about seeing us get married. Our guests are family with a few close friends and none of them are going to be offended if we don't provide them with alcohol or even with a meal. Some of my family are traveling from a state away too.

Matt: you forgot that she should recruit the mice and birds. It's not like they could make it any worse...

Yeah my parents got married at a Courthouse on a Friday and my mom's brother came to witness. They went to lunch at a small Italian place after. There were no gifts, no bridal shower, no bachelorette/bachelor parties, and only one bottle of champagne.

They're still married. No one's telling you to put off getting married. We're just telling you that you don't get to invite these people to a wedding to eat salmonella infected egg salad because you (probably) want a gift. It doesn't work that way.

Sorry but my wedding isn't about making my guests happy. Its about the unity of my FH and myself. Yes, there will be things specifically for guests to entertain and keep them happy, but a wedding isn't just a party to entertain. I'll be self catering because that is what i can afford to do and my FH can't decide on food elsewhere. I'll be having a dry wedding because FH and I both live sober lives and dont like being around drunk people. Also, the majority of our guests dont drink. You also need to keep in mind that your MIL was married YEARS ago, when things were MUCH cheaper. Not everyone wants to be married in a park where other people can just walk around your wedding. If you dont know how to properly keep food then dont self cater. My FH is a chef and so is my sister and uncle. We have all the things necessary to keep the food safe. Not everyone has the means or wants an expensive wedding. Get over yourself. Just because it isnt for you doesnt mean it wont work for someone else.

LOL Danielle- that's what they say to your face, meanwhile they're like...........

WHITE KNIGHTS ABOUND. USE YOUR GLITTER SLAVES TO DO EVERYTHING AND FUCK THE PEOPLE WHO WANT A GLASS OF WINE.

Danielle -- are you sure you have guests? I wouldn't go to an OOT dry, foodless wedding. And! I'd talk shit about it forever. I wouldn't even have to attend to talk shit, that's how bad this is.

As soon as you invite a guest, your reception ceases to be about you.

Sorry, SoonToBeMrsSandell.

God they just keep coming out of the wood work, one by one.