Why don't you want kids at your wedding?

These threads always depress me. Might as well be named "How many obnoxiuos kids do you know?"

I was going to stay away from this, but I just noticed that you asked how peopel who had children at their wedding was.

It was PHENOMENAL. We had two ring bearers, a flower girl, and a flower girl "escort" because our friends children are adorable and wonderful and we love them and wanted them there as much as we wanted their parents there. They are as much a part of our lives as their parents.

My cousin's also had their two very well-behaved kids, and had a babysitter pick them up halfway through the night - their choice. Several people chose not to bring their children, though they were welcome.

Kids LOVE to dance, and like I said, I know OF some asshole kids, but I don't know a single one from whom a tantrum is even acknowledged by their parents, so guess what? They never throw tantrums.

Our wedding would not have been the same without them.

I'm choosing to have a child free wedding for financial reasons. If everyone under the age of 18 was half price, I would be down. Unfortunately they are not and I didn't want to split up siblings. So no kids at all. I don't know any obnoxious kids who are uncontrollable by their parents so that wasn't my concern. But when I saw those numbers crawling up, I had to make some sacrifices.

The only children at our wedding are the ones involved, who are immediate family. We're doing adults only because my fiancé and I are both the last ones of our friends to get married. All of our married friends have children and when they all tied the knot - had none. We want them to be able to enjoy the night and we want to be able to enjoy their company. Plus, our venue is not very child friendly.

After looking at videos and pictures I realize kids don't always know how to act and when. Plus I know the kids in my family and FH family, they are not well behaved and the parents are OK with it. So nope. No kids.

I love kids! All my friends and family have babies ranging from a few weeks to teenage. I do not want any children at my wedding! There disruptive. Who wants little kids crying and running all over the place. If a bunch of children were crying at my cermony I would be pissed. And if a bunch of kids were running around at my reception it's taking away From my wedding night. People want to come out have a few drinks and have fun. Not chasing around children. Drunk people and breakable things I'm paying a fortune for is not a child place. I am letting my 2 flower girls come and my fhs twin sister is bring her newborn only bc they are coming from canada and anyone who could watch the baby will be at the wedding.

We're having 3 kids total (2 flower girls and ring bearer). They're staying for dinner ($10/per for a special kids menu - mini pizza, chicken tenders & fries, or burger & fries), then the sitter is taking them back to the vacation rental with movies and games and a to-go cupcake, since they'll probably be bored at that point. I'm also making little goodie bags for their spots at the tables to keep them occupied during dinner. I dont anticipate any issues, they're all pretty well behaved.

There are so many small reasons, but it all boils down to, I do not think children belong at weddings. I don't think it's the environment for children. We absolutely wanted none at our wedding. Only 1 person had an issue, even though she a no children policy at her wedding (before she had kids). Eye roll.

Well, if you don't mind having kids at the wedding and you can afford them, then include them. However, you should be open to allowing the other guests to bring theirs. Parents love weddings so they can show off their kids I know some ppl who would be pissed if they paid a babysitter and there were 8 other children at the wedding.

I personally don't think a wedding is a place for a child. But, the reason we're not having kids is because there's just too many in my family and I don't feel the need to spend $60 per child. I will have 2 flower girls that will become my nieces. The little one throws tantrums at the worst time. I just know she'll do it walking down the church aisle.

Crying during the ceremony, possibility of running around the reception/knocking over the cake/breaking things/being a general nuisance, extra cost, there's like 30 of them in FH's family alone.... and they are the loudest, most obnoxious/rambunctious/uncontrollable bunch I've ever witnessed....

I just don't like kids, so I don't want them at my wedding.

Honestly its allowing us to invite more adults. We had to limit the guest list and I'm not close with any of our guests kids so ...I'd rather have a close friend or family member than someones kid I don't even know.

FH & I do not care for kids at all and we don't want them distracting any of our guests by screaming, crying, destroying, dancing, touching the cake (my aunt who is a wedding planner says this is something that happens A LOT). Also, we want our friends to enjoy themselves and I would hate to see them leave the reception early because it's 'bed time' or someone is 'cranky because they're tired'. We are having a formal wedding & that is just not a place kids belong.

I think kids at weddings are great! We are only having about 6 because a lot of parents chose to leave their kids at home. That's fine. I think it should be their choice since they're going to have to watch them. IMO, weddings are all about family -- two families joining, starting a family of our own (in our case). Plus, they're always the first ones out on the dance floor! We are not doing anything "special" for the kids, but there is a playground right next to the pavilion. I'm actually happy there are going to be some kids there to enjoy it.

In other words: when I go out for a nice dinner with FH I get annoyed when there are kids babbling & toddling around so why would I want them at my wedding doing the same things?

It was never on our radar. My family has been hosting adult mostly weddings, for decades. Ours' was 21 and up, except for one bridesmaid. Our venue had the right to ask for a photo ID, if we invited guests under the legal drinking age. Also, our event insurance would go up. it was over $20 to provide a seat for each guest: linens, centerpiece, and chair covers. Guests 13 and up were charged the full adult rate - no discount for 5 hours of open bar. Any guests 12 and under, who didn't want a child entrée = full adult rate.

The last wedding we attended wasn't child suitable, anyway. The last course was served close to 10:00 PM. The noise volume of the bad was so loud, we thought our brains would explode. Our little one was home, with a trusted friend to babysit.

We're pretty much eloping, but my parents wanted to be there(my mom would've been devastated). The resort doesn't allow children. If we had our wedding in the states children would've been allowed. We have some kids in our family we would've invited before their parents. We have more adults in our families that don't know how to behave, and that's pretty sad.

We did not add children because we are having open bar. Most of our guests are from our town or close by so they would be able to go home after the reception ( not stay over night). I think most will enjoy the adult evening dancing /drinking.

For us it was 90% space constraints (pretty small venue) and 10% no one in my family every watches their damn kids and they just run wild and do whatever they want.

Okay, maybe 80/20.

Ceremony starts at 7pm. 5 hour open bar. Isn't that bed time?

@Gonefishes any adult who can't understand that hosts have a right to invite some kids and not others needs to grow up.

Coming from a person with kids and yes my children will of course be at my wedding and a huge part of our day, we are only inviting the kids who are our nephews and god children. No others! Just trying to keep it intimate mainly. Kids can be hectic and weddings get boring to them so they naturally run around and get crazy! Lol