Why don't you want kids at your wedding?

We are still torn on this, but mostly because of a space issue. Also, many caterers will arrange for kids meals or offer a discount. Ours is offering a discount for children.

We will have three (maybe 5) kids and a baby at our wedding (most likely). I suppose I just don't care tbh? It's their parent's choice if they want them around a bunch of drinking adults and their responsibility to keep an eye on them. Except for one wedding where the toddler screamed during the whole ceremony (it was their kid), I've never seen kids cause "problems" so I'm not against their presence.

I love children, so don't get me wrong, but you never know how they were raised. I was a nanny and some children are not well behaved. I don't want parents to have to worry about them running off on the farm when they are drinking. The wedding venue is indoor/outdoor on a farm with thousands of Christmas trees. If a child takes off, then it's going to take an army to find them. It's also a DW, so we want it to be more of a vacation for them. The few people with children are some of my cousins. Most of them don't go to family events any more and the one that does wants to leave her son at home, so she can have a good time.

The main reason we didn't want kids is because it added about 50 to our numbers. That is a lot of kids. I also don't think kids under 13 should be around a bunch of dancing drunk adults. There is a reason bars are 18 or 21+. And lastly I don't like little kids on the dance. They are fun for 2 songs and then its awkward.

That being said my nieces (11 & 9) were at my wedding until about 830. Their mothers choice for them to leave, not mine. I would have let them stay because they are easy and really well behaved. They also wanted to go home because they were tired.

I had a lot of kids at my wedding and I really enjoyed them. My husband has kids and all my bridal party has kids. I guess its our age group. I wanted to share the day with ALL my friends and family and kids are a big part of our lives. When it was all over, I am so glad I allowed kids. Some of my best photos are video clips are of us dancing with the kids. Also, we had an open mic and a few of the kids got up and said some really sweet and touching things.

I am not trying to persuade you to allow kids at your wedding, but rather showing you that we enjoyed it.

We will have only our children, no nieces or nephews, no exceptions, not even for out of towners. We have been very clear and very firm from the beginning with this and people are falling into line. Budget is a small part of it but I mostly just dont want any crying babies during the ceremony or kids running all over the dance floor. It's your day, so your choice. However, making any exceptions will seem like favoritism and may offend others. You know everyone thinks their little rugrats are angels. lol

So, I really really REALLY did not want kids at our wedding BUT it was a non-negotiable with DH (his one and only MUST for the wedding) and his family and I knew that it would not go over well at all...and he really wanted his 8 nieces and nephews there (why, I have no idea...they couldn't have cared less and at least 5 of them won't remember even being there) Personally I don't know why anyone even wants to bring their kids to a wedding so badly, but whatever. So...we had kids there...we invited I think a total of 20 (and I think we had between 15-18 actually there). (FWIW since it was brought up, our venue provided a kids meal option at half the price of the adult meals...we fed them chicken fingers, fries and a cookie.) Honestly, having kids there was one of the things I was most stressed over. I just really don't care for kids...I know that makes me sound like a troll, lol, but I don't. I don't like being around them, they are too unpredictable and I don't want any of my own. But, I can honestly tell you I don't even remember seeing ANY of them, except my flower girls of course. I know they were there, because I see them in pictures, but they didn't disrupt anything...thank goodness. I think I just got lucky, lol. Had my DH not felt so strongly about having the kids there in his family, I would have 100% had a kid-free wedding just to save myself from stressing over it so much...and if that meant some people wouldn't come because of it, so be it.

Because my husband doesn't like kids, because I don't think kids taking over the dance floor is cute, at all. I didn't pay a grand for a kiddie dance party, and because my wedding was very adult oriented. Kids wouldn't have even had fun.

My venue is historical and there are lots of original decor and its just not kid friendly

It was easy for us. Everyone who has kids wasn't going to be able to make it to the wedding, except for one of my friends who was completely understanding. We were going to invite her son who is friends with my kids, but when those three get together, they're holy terrors. I didn't want to deal with that. I just told her that we're on a tight budget (which is also very true) and she said, "You needn't say more." She's having her sister watch her son.

Kids don't belong everywhere. Formal events are not always appropriate for children and that's OK.

I want all the children! I love their unpredictable-ness and dance skills. We will be having about 25 children from newborn to 12. Yayy!

Kids will be welcome at ours. Our venue only charges $10 for children and they serve the kids first. I myself have kids and this is my second wedding. My first wedding venue had a room where there was a tv, games ect. The wedding venue this time around also has a room kids can watch a movie ect. A wedding is about 2 families coming together and kids are part of the family. I can not imagine celebrating my day without my nieces and nephews. My sister got each of the kids crayons, coloring books, ect. At the end of the day it's your choice but remember what the day is about!

I'm not having anyone under 13 and the only reason I am having two 13-year-olds is because they are first cousins, and their brother and sister are older and will be invited. I couldn't exactly cut them. My venue offers a young adult meal for anyone between 12 and 20, which is $20.00 less than the full price.

I will also have my nephew there for as long as my sister wants to keep him there, but he will be two and my venue won't charge for him.

I'll be having about 8 children at mine. I'm not worried about it. The children at the last wedding I went to were adorable and everyone had a blast with them. Plus, my family isn't really the type to hold back just because children are present. Lol I was at some wild holiday family get togethers and parties growing up.

And my venue's kicking us out at 10:30, so partying into the late hours of the night isn't even an option without having to take the party somewhere else and all the kids will probably be asleep by then.

We are including children. I think if we were a younger couple we may have done things differently. However, children are an important part of our family and we did not want exclude any of them. We also did not want guests to decline to attend because they could not bring children. At least 50% of our guests have children under age 13. My family’s weddings have always included children.

Our venue has a smaller room attached to the main ballroom that will be set up specifically for the children up to 13. There will be multi-colored paper lanterns hung from the ceiling in that room to make it fun & festive for the children. We have a TV, DVD player, and a selection of children appropriate movies available. There will also be coloring books, crayons, games, cards, and a wedding activity book for the kids.

I have hired college students to supervise the children’s room to ensure the safety of children while in the room. Children are not required to stay in the room, will join us for dinner in the main ballroom, and can come to the dance floor if they choose to do so.

Because the number of kids we'd have to invite would cost us an additional couple of thousand dollars in catering at our venue.

Our wedding is taking place during typical dinner bath and bed hours, so even the most well behaved child would possibly be thrown off. That being combined with the only kids we now also being toddlers and not necessarily the most well behaved made it easy to just say no. Also, all of the children (three groups) spent every other weekend with their dads so we knew that there was only a 50% chance that they would even been able to come. We do have three children in the wedding, however. They'll be in the kids room during the reception with a babysitter.

We're allowing children but I hope most guests leave them at home. I feel parents have less fun when they have kids there. They spend most of their time chasing them around, telling them to behave, and then leave the reception early to put them to bed.

I can tell you that I had three kids at my wedding and 90% of my photos included or featured them.

Reason # 25 why not to have them.