Why Are You Getting Married?

I'm somewhat of a traditionalist. I want to grow old with my FH and raise a family. I think marriage is a life long committment, by law. I am forever committed to my FH, no matter where life takes us. I want our children to understand that as well. I think some people take marriage to lightly.

But I have to say, I want the party as well!!

My answer would be hard because i cant really explain it. I love my FH and cant wait to spend the rest of my life with him. I want to marry him because I want everyone to know he is mine and i am his. I want to have his last name and sign it with pride and be a part of a great family and build a family of our own! Of course, I cant wait for the party either and for everyone to talk about my wedding for years to come because i think it will be that good! Thats about all i can think of right now. that is a tough question because when you are really in love, its hard to explain it further than because i love them..

That's a very good question. I'm content with the status quo... didn't even need an e-ring. But FH is a traditionalist and wants the legal union, and the party so he can tell all his friends and family how much he loves me. Um... ok.

Honestly? Yeah, I want to be married. If anything for legal and financial reasons. I love him very much, and I'm not scared to be married, but I don't think it's necessary. I've discussed this a lot in the last 4 or so months with my therapist. He tells me to get married, so I'm listening.

I know deep down after all the ups and downs, I want to spend my life with him being his wife, not wifey, baby momma, etc. Not just the party of having all our friends and family, I want to marry b/c I feel we are meant and blessed to be together.

I'm marrying FH because he's the piece in my life that I didn't know was missing until we met (or rather, had gone out a few times. I wan't wowed on the first date LOL). I want to build a life with him and create memories. Every time we're together I find out something new or interesting about him. Even life's challenges are easy with him around. We just work.

I don't care about the party at all. I never expected to feel that way. It'll be fun to have our favorite people around us and have a great get together, but I could do without it too and be just as happy.

Oh, and he treats me like I am THE most important person in the world to him. He appreciates me as much as I appreciate him.

Definitely because we're in love and want to be committed to each other for life. I want to proudly wear his last name(mine is confusing and hard to spell lol). We want to start a family and I don't want a baby daddy. I want all of our friends and family to know how much we love each other. And we definitely want the big she-bang!

I want to raise a family with him, create a home with him, to wake up by his side every morning and change diapers together and sit on the porch and watch our babies grow up around us, then sit on that same porch and watch our grandbabies grow up around us. I want to share nightly dinners with him, joking and sharing stories across the dinner table. I want to stay up late at night, watching videos on youtube and watching movies with him. i want the late nights of intimacy. I want the marriage, and i want to share it with this man. The wedding is just a very expensive plus. If it really came down to it i would go to the courthouse but im really hoping that doesnt happen. i love him, and i cant wait to share a marriage with him. but before we can do that, we have to tie the knot because i am religious and dont believe in sex before marriage.

Tax purposes. Just kidding. Sort of.

@Alissa N. - I said the exact same thing at first. It's so hard to put into words why you love someone. I was sitting there thinking.. how do you describe a feeling? Lol

@Leanna I think that's my FH's OTHER reason for wanting to get married! Lol

Ill be the first to admit, before i met FH, i wanted the party. I wanted the big shebang where i would wear the frilly white dress and everyone would be so happy for me and theyd drive hundreds of miles to be there for me and we'd have a mountain of gifts to open and everyone would cry while i danced with my dad. But that was a child's dream. Now that im with the man i am meant to be with, none of that matters anymore. My main objective is no longer to throw a great party, its to take his last name and wear his ring. Ive realized what is important here, and it is not the wedding. Its the marriage.

Taxes, insurance both health and car... the huge party.. kind of.

I'm a product of a child of parents who were never married. I never thought the only way to have a child is to be married, in fact I am the biggest support of NOT getting married because you are pregnant Doesn't make my priest happy with me but oh well.

I love FH he is my best friend when we 1st met never did I want to date him I just wanted to be friends then we started hanging out more and we became best friends and somehow started dating. I can't picture life without him in it and I don't want too. I love him and I know he loves me. As long as we are living together we might as well get married, I know my family isn't the biggest fans of us living together while not married (we moved in two years ago together before being engaged) We can be whole as a family. I know he is my rock he has supported me through the death of my dad which hasn't been easy and family hardships again not easy if we can make it though.

Those we can make it though everything, it just seems like it's the next step in our relationship to take to make us closer.

This may not be popular but I think a big part of being married is to help you through the hard times. I know that in the next 50 years, there will be times that we won't want to be together (insert runaway bride quote here). But it's the vows of marriage that get you through those hard times knowing that this person you are with is going to be there for you as you are for them. It's making that lifelong commitment that takes your relationship to the next level, uniting you as a team.

I love him and have been commited to him for years. I can't imagine my life without him. He brightens my day with just a phone call. I knew that he was the one when I got sick and would rather him take care of me than my mom. I am a whiny sick person and puts up with me. He sat with in the ER during my lumbar puncture.

I want us to all have the same last name once we have children because i think its unifying. Also because my family respects married couples more than just faithful living together couples. For me were already practically married, been living together 2 years, nothing will change for us besides last names and tax filings

Part of it is tradition, I guess you could say, though I am breaking other traditions (we live together already, that sort of thing).

For me, a legal marriage is a sacrament that I want to share with no one other than FH. He's the only man I have ever been sure of. In fact, the day I met him, as I watched him walk away, I thought "That's the man I am going to marry."

We have been through so many things together, good and bad, and we keep it going. Even when I have a tantrum, he does not give up on me. Even when he plays his XBox and forgets to pay attention to me, I don't give up on him.

When I was younger, I always joked that if I did not get married by the time I turned 30, I was giving up and going to be a nun (which would never work because I'm a protestant and the Catholic church would probably kick me out). I met FH when I was 30 and had JUST given up, thanks to a on and off relationship falling apart for good.

Now, I realize that age means nothing.

So very well said ladies!! How sweet!

For us the reason was not traditional at all, we didn't need to be married to move in together or have a baby, it was mostly the party. I love DH very much, however we have been together for 9 years, owned a house for 4 years and had a baby 2 years ago, so we have done things backward. For us it was just the next step

I want to marry my husband again because this year we have been married has been such turnmoil for us. I believe we went through more than what most couples go through in 10 lol From getting married to losing our jobs, to moving, to being homeless, to finding a place, then our apartments got condemed, to being homeless yet again, to the city helping us find another place, to the arguements fights and the tears we are still here and in love. OMG Im tearing up as I write this. Everyday he still tells me hes glad hes married me and would love nothing more to marry me again.

Loving this thread