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ToTheMoon
Devoted June 2013

Why Are You Getting Married?

ToTheMoon, on February 5, 2013 at 12:17 PM

Posted in Planning 50

My FH and I met with our officiant (AKA his dad, my future FIL) and he asked us a question that he asks all the couples he marries: "Why are you getting married?" To which neither my FH or I had any immediate answer other than "Because I love her/him". Actually my FH said, "I just want the party"...

My FH and I met with our officiant (AKA his dad, my future FIL) and he asked us a question that he asks all the couples he marries: "Why are you getting married?" To which neither my FH or I had any immediate answer other than "Because I love her/him". Actually my FH said, "I just want the party" but he was joking.. I hope lol.

I know this may sound silly, but I never really thought about WHY I'm getting MARRIED. Like why not just live with the person I love forever, with promises of being faithful and loving and honest? Why make it legal? Why do the whole wedding sha-bang? It took me some time, but I finally found a way to put into words why I'm marriying my FH and how (for me) it goes a lot deeper than having the same last name. Have you guys ever really thought about why you're getting married?

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  • Emily
    VIP August 2015
    Emily ·
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    Because even though he gets on my last nerve sometimes I can't imagine my life without him and can't imagine being with anyone else. He's treated me better then any other Guy and I can't wait to grow old with him and start a family

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  • HoundMama
    VIP May 2013
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    Because I want to. I am an only child. I've been a loner my whole life. Yeah - I've had friends, but no one valued their solitude more than me. Relationships never panned out for me. Usually, I would get sick of someone after 2 dates - if they called me more than once a week, I felt smothered. I had zero interest in sharing my personal space with anyone. I had always thought, "I will know he is "the one" when the time I spend with him is more valuable to me than the time I spend with myself." That's exactly what the situation is with FH. Yes I still like "ME" time, but I love time with him so much more. At the end of the day, there is no one I would rather share my time with, share good or bad news with, no one I would rather have there when I laugh or cry. Whether things are good or bad, just his presence brings me comfort. I don't want to see anyone else's face when I wake up in the morning, go to bed at night or someday when I leave this world, more than his. He is my best friend.

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  • Steph ☺
    VIP April 2013
    Steph ☺ ·
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    We are very honest with people when they ask us this. We are getting married to have a big party. I mean other than we love each other and he is really the only man I have ever seen sharing my life forever with (realistically)... I mean before him I was adamant about no marriage and no kids... then I met him not only am I getting married but looking forward to having babies one day, probably very soon.

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  • TRUDIE
    Expert September 2013
    TRUDIE ·
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    For me is that I love him and want to carry his last name to seal the deal, make it more official. Instead of saying baby mother or girlfriend. Been together from high school, married for 10 years. So now we are renewing our vows, and having a big party !. Why? because we did'nt have a actual wedding when we first got hitch. He's my bestie, and a great companion now and forever.

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  • Megan
    Expert April 2013
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    We got asked that the first time we went to meet with our pastor. Since we were already living together and more or less acting like a married couple what would change? I agree that legal/medically we will be seen as family. this summer i realised the hospital thing i took him to the ER early in the morning and had to sit in the waiting room while he was in the back since i wasn't "family" the recpetionist felt sorry for me and finally let me in the room with him after the x-rays and other stuff to keep him company while the doctors got everything setup to discharge him. Plus i was raised with the thought of marriage before kids, so thats was always the plan.

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  • Mrs.SexxxyGonzalez
    Dedicated September 2013
    Mrs.SexxxyGonzalez ·
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    I'm marrying him because I never want to live a single day without him. I love him more that anyone on this world. I'm marrying him because he's my everything and I feel incomplete with out. Every smile every warm hearted feeling is before of him. He change my life and I'm never turning back..

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  • Mrs V (Roe)
    Master August 2013
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    @ Lily. Thank you so much for both the compliment and the sentiment. God bless you and your honey as well! :-)

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  • Mrs. M
    Super August 2013
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    I'm marrying him because I want to wake up to his face for the rest of my life, I want to have babies that look just like him and act like him too!. I want to be able to travel with him while he is in the military. I want to be there to support him in everything he does in life -- and mainly I want him there for me forever. Yeah we coulda stayed engaged forever but than no one recognizes you as one. We can be in critical condition in the hospital and neither of us would have a say. I would much rather him make the call to pull the plug than have me rot away being a vegetable for my whole life. He is the only person that understands me and for that I don't want anyone but him to take care of me.

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  • Sh
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    Sh ·
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    Well when my officiant asked me this I told him that I truly love him, and as cliche as it might sound, I want to marry my best friend. He is the one who makes me laugh like no one else has and makes me feel (and treats me) like a queen, and what girl wouldn't want to feel like that every single day of their life? I want to be there to watch him laugh every day and to wipe a tear or give a hug when ever he needs it. And I am doing it the way God wants it because having Him in our lives would be a great blessing.

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  • ToTheMoon
    Devoted June 2013
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    These are ALL very sweet, honest and wonderful reasons to get married!! What lucky guys and ladies you all have!

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