What to do when someone added themself to my wedding RSVP???

Who did they add? Their kids? Or other guests? I'd contact them and just say that due to the limit space of the venue and limited budget, THEIR guests just can't be accomodated.

Call them and gently tell them that budget/space constraints will not allow for additional people.

I dont even know who the person is that they added! They are friends of my future mother-in-law (who I didnt want to invite in the first place, my fiancee talked me into it), and so I dont even know them either.

First of all that's so rude of them! Secondly, I agree with Meghan and MrsJoseph, just let them know due to spacing issues you can't accept any additional guests.

Thats about all you can do is do what MrsJoseph said. I don't really think the guests think of the pp cost of a wedding these days.

Dear So/So

I see that you added So/So to your rsvp, however due to limited space and budget restraints we will not be able to accomadate extra guest. Sorry for the inconvience and we hope that you will still be able to help us celebrate.

Actually- if they are friends of FMIL, FH needs to handle this one! He needs to tell his mother that she can't jsut go adding and inviting people unless she plans to foot the bill!

I agree with meghan.

have your FH make the call and just (politely but firmly) inform them that additional guests can not attend

Ditto what Meghan said.

Agreed all of FH.

I would understand adding a name on the RSVP card if it was the guest's fiance, child, husband, etc. because they didn't want to go alone, but it is strange if they are just friends of friends....

Some one did this to me this week and I called and left her a message and followed up with an email letting her know that HER guest would not be accomodated. I invited her other half and since they couldn't make it she took it upon herself to add a name without calling me first....nah holmes not me!

Im so nervoue for this... im hoping people will be smart enough... but apparently they are not. i am preparing myself for the same stern, but kind response that we just cant accomadate any more guests. so dredding that... good luck!

Libragurl: Good for you! I can't believe people think a wedding invitation is something they can pass off to another person like scalping a concert ticket or something. You're not looking for EXTRAS; you're inviting specific people for a reason!

Jessica: Everyone else here has good advice, it looks like.

Actually, it gets easier the more you do it.... by the 3rd call, you'll be a pro. Just be nice, but firm. good luck!

Funny. I had this same problem. I invited a great aunt. She let me know she couldn't make it but was planning on sending her son and new wife and their 5 kids and her daughter and husband and there child in her place.

Huh?

I am sorry what did you say?

Really?

Screw me!!!

So the look on her face when I said, yeah that is probably not going to work because I will get billed double at the venue, was rather priceless. I took the liberty of letting my mother handle our sweet aunt from this point. It's is amazing to me how many people do not understand "etiquette" I wrote the names of the invited guests on each RSVP with no allowance for additional guests. Betcha people will do what they want. So, I'll be keeping my fingers crossed! Say a little prayer and hope for the best! LOL

I wrote something about this a little while ago. The best thing is to handle the situation kindly and with grace (try not to go BRIDEZILLA)

See my post: https://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-forums/the-dreaded-plus-one-why-people-want-one-and-learning-to-graciously-decline/221b03f46efb7607.html

Wow! I mean honestly if they were rude enough to do that then be rude enough to call or send another invite with details on limited space and exactly who is invited and who is NOT.... not being people you do not know!

@Libra - you know what? I love you!

What we did for ours (sorry I didn't read all the other posts) was

"Hi there so and so! So great to receive your rsvp! We look forward to seeing you at the wedding! Unfortunately due to budgetary constraints we are unable to accomodate your plus one request right now. Hope to still see you at the end of July!!"

We went on a little more cuz it was just boyfriend requests and worded it as "At this moment our plus ones are only being extended to those in a longterm relationship, engaged or married."