What is the BIGGEST waste of money in your opinion for a wedding ?

Little detailed crap that adds up fast! Do you really need personalized napkins?

Favors

I don't think anything's a waste of money if you actually want it and you spend a proportional amount on guest comfort. I watch Say Yes to the Dress and I see brides spend $30000 on Pnina's fairy-princess-stripper gowns with the nipple tassles or whatever, but if they can afford it and they're serving a nice meal with an open bar in a comfortable setting then whatevs.

That said I've seen couples bleed to death from a thousand small, unnecessary expenses. If you pay for BM proposal boxes, StD's, favors, programs, etc and find yourself with no money for the larger things, then financial counseling before getting married is probably a good idea.

Oh my . Nope I don't need personalized napkins that people will blow their noses with and wipe their mouth with weird

Personalized ANYTHINGS (cups, napkins, whatever), favors (unless they are edible and very yummy), programs (unless your ceremony is in a foreign language, and even then, folks will be able to figure out what's going on), buying anything except a dress at a bridal shop (sorry folks, but I do a hell of a lot of internet/amazon shopping and I can damn well guarantee there are identical items to almost everything at any bridal store available online for about half the price, including but not limited to shoes, veils, hairpieces, etc etc etc)

ETA: This is just my opinion, based on experience in my life. If you (or anyone) wants these things, and your/their guests are properly hosted, go for it, it's your money.

@ashley m yeah idk if I'm even doing favors !! I can't think of anything that'd be cheap and worth it

Favors, personalized everything! I'm getting colored napkins but I'd rather not have people blowing their noses or wiping their mouths on our names and wedding date.

This post is great - keeping mental notes of crap i don't need or want

I agree with personalized anything, nope don't need my wedding date and names on a cocktail napkin.

Personalized stuff and favors. My sisters favors were personalized glasses with their names and wedding date they have sat in the back of cupboard since I brought them home.

I think ornate BM proposals are a waste of money. I totally get wanting to do something fun, but do they really need a necklace, the Bridesmaids movie, a card, and a bottle of wine in a box filled with confetti?

I think planners are sometimes a waste of money. They've become some kind of a status symbol, to have them. Weddings have gone on for centuries without them.

If you have money in your budgets for the odds and ends, fine, but I've been to more than a few weddings that have personalized favors, photo booths, etc., but the food is poor in quality and quantity.

Programs!! Put the details on a sign at the entrance or forgo them altogether. They won't be missed.

Delfina $30,000 nipple tassels. I'm dying.

I feel like I spent entirely too much on my invitations that are just going to get thrown away but whatever.

Chiavari chairs. They are not comfortable.

Chair covers. No one notices the chairs unless they're uncomfortable.

I think those little things that add up. Things like obnoxious signs everywhere and little trinkets.

Have to disagree on the chairs. Ugly chairs can ruin a beautiful room very quickly.

I agree that anything personalized is a waste!

Favors! I always throw out those little bubbles or tiny bells. The edible favors aren't that great either - thanks for this tiny bag of m&ms to tide me over since you skipped cocktail hour.

Very respectfully, please change your avatar and don't tell people how to post.

Everyone has a different view of what's important to them. And afterward you might say, what was I thinking?

Some love flowers, flowers everywhere and some don't.

Some want programs, napkins and favors, others don't.

$10k dress? Sure if your budget allows. Top shelf bar? If you like...

As long as the basics are covered: good food, good drink, good chairs (not necessarily covered) and good music, then to each their own.