Super July 2017

What is the BIGGEST waste of money in your opinion for a wedding ?

wifeytobejuly17, on February 20, 2017 at 11:41 PM Posted in Community Conversations 0 49
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Be respectful of everyone ladies but I just wanna know - what is something you've seen or are doing even that you're like "my lord that is a giant waste of money!"




  • Jane38
    VIP September 2018
    Jane38 ·

    Little detailed crap that adds up fast! Do you really need personalized napkins?

  • Ashley
    Devoted July 2018
    Ashley ·


  • Del
    Master November 2017
    Del ·

    I don't think anything's a waste of money if you actually want it and you spend a proportional amount on guest comfort. I watch Say Yes to the Dress and I see brides spend $30000 on Pnina's fairy-princess-stripper gowns with the nipple tassles or whatever, but if they can afford it and they're serving a nice meal with an open bar in a comfortable setting then whatevs.

    That said I've seen couples bleed to death from a thousand small, unnecessary expenses. If you pay for BM proposal boxes, StD's, favors, programs, etc and find yourself with no money for the larger things, then financial counseling before getting married is probably a good idea.

  • wifeytobejuly17
    Super July 2017
    wifeytobejuly17 ·

    Oh my . Nope I don't need personalized napkins that people will blow their noses with and wipe their mouth with weird

  • EC18
    VIP April 2018
    EC18 ·

    Personalized ANYTHINGS (cups, napkins, whatever), favors (unless they are edible and very yummy), programs (unless your ceremony is in a foreign language, and even then, folks will be able to figure out what's going on), buying anything except a dress at a bridal shop (sorry folks, but I do a hell of a lot of internet/amazon shopping and I can damn well guarantee there are identical items to almost everything at any bridal store available online for about half the price, including but not limited to shoes, veils, hairpieces, etc etc etc)

    ETA: This is just my opinion, based on experience in my life. If you (or anyone) wants these things, and your/their guests are properly hosted, go for it, it's your money.

  • wifeytobejuly17
    Super July 2017
    wifeytobejuly17 ·

    @ashley m yeah idk if I'm even doing favors !! I can't think of anything that'd be cheap and worth it

  • Shannon
    Dedicated October 2020
    Shannon ·

    Favors, personalized everything! I'm getting colored napkins but I'd rather not have people blowing their noses or wiping their mouths on our names and wedding date.

  • Jane38
    VIP September 2018
    Jane38 ·

    This post is great - keeping mental notes of crap i don't need or want

  • Ali
    Master June 2017
    Ali ·

    I agree with personalized anything, nope don't need my wedding date and names on a cocktail napkin.

  • Miranda
    Super December 2017
    Miranda ·

    Personalized stuff and favors. My sisters favors were personalized glasses with their names and wedding date they have sat in the back of cupboard since I brought them home.

  • Syd D. S.
    Expert July 2018
    Syd D. S. ·

    I think ornate BM proposals are a waste of money. I totally get wanting to do something fun, but do they really need a necklace, the Bridesmaids movie, a card, and a bottle of wine in a box filled with confetti?

  • Dreamer
    Master May 2013
    Dreamer ·

    I think planners are sometimes a waste of money. They've become some kind of a status symbol, to have them. Weddings have gone on for centuries without them.

    If you have money in your budgets for the odds and ends, fine, but I've been to more than a few weddings that have personalized favors, photo booths, etc., but the food is poor in quality and quantity.

  • C.C.
    Super August 2017
    C.C. ·

    Programs!! Put the details on a sign at the entrance or forgo them altogether. They won't be missed.

  • MNBride
    Master June 2017
    MNBride ·

    Delfina $30,000 nipple tassels. I'm dying.

    I feel like I spent entirely too much on my invitations that are just going to get thrown away but whatever.

  • S
    Devoted May 2018
    SquirrelsInLove ·

    Chiavari chairs. They are not comfortable.

  • Natalie
    VIP March 2017
    Natalie ·

    Chair covers. No one notices the chairs unless they're uncomfortable.

  • A.L.S.
    VIP September 2017
    A.L.S. ·

    I think those little things that add up. Things like obnoxious signs everywhere and little trinkets.

  • Laura
    Master July 2017
    Laura ·

    Have to disagree on the chairs. Ugly chairs can ruin a beautiful room very quickly.

    I agree that anything personalized is a waste!

  • M
    VIP March 2017
    Miss S. ·

    Favors! I always throw out those little bubbles or tiny bells. The edible favors aren't that great either - thanks for this tiny bag of m&ms to tide me over since you skipped cocktail hour.

  • Nonna T
    Master April 2014
    Nonna T ·

    Very respectfully, please change your avatar and don't tell people how to post.

    Everyone has a different view of what's important to them. And afterward you might say, what was I thinking?

    Some love flowers, flowers everywhere and some don't.

    Some want programs, napkins and favors, others don't.

    $10k dress? Sure if your budget allows. Top shelf bar? If you like...

    As long as the basics are covered: good food, good drink, good chairs (not necessarily covered) and good music, then to each their own.

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