What do I do?? People aren't RSVPing!

Wait...no need to worry about it now they still have 11 days!

And after the deadline, split the list up and have others help you...if it's FH's family ask his mother or other family members to help out.

Be patient if they are anything like my family they will wait til the last possible second to RSVP! Then if they still don't you and FH will divide and conquer the list of phone calls! You can do it!!! :-)

You can send a reminder email/FB message

"Hey eveeryone, just reminding you that the R.S.V.P date is fast approaching (and the wedding!). Please R.S.V.P by DATE by mailing the card/going to our website at www.site.com/Calling PHONE #. We have to get final head counts into the caterer as soon as possible! THanks so much and we look forward to seeing you on our special day! Love:

Danielle & FH NAME"

That's probably a really good idea... I will try to be patient and then start sending out e-mails or calling.

I've only had 60 out of 300 RSVP so I know how you feel. I've already drafted up an email to send out ON THE DAY they are due so that I can give them another week and then start making phone calls.

Yeah my rsvp date isn't until the end of June ahha but I've already freaked out a few times :-) I only have 9 sets of people--3 of which were no's! Hopefully they pick up at the end. Hang in there!!

You still have 11 days, so its not so bad! Right before the RSVP date elasped for my wedding, my mom contacted those from her list, and I had my MIL contact those from her list. I bugged my own friends, and it all worked out. No need to worry yet!

You have some time padded in there which I'm sure was intentional. I'd say wait til the deadline and see where you stand. Our RSVP process was actually not as wretched as I expected. Most of our guests met the deadline and we have about 85% attending. Our deadline was May 1 and I received quite a few even this week but that is b/c FH sent out some last minute invites.

I just sent out a little reminder email or text for my guest and I got a pretty good response back

I agree with sending out an email or fb reminder the day they are due in or even a week earlier as a reminder they are due this week. After that split the list up and start calling

Email and facebook helped a lot in getting folks to rsvp for us. Especially since our rsvp was online and the email contained a convenient link.

That's a good idea! I wouldn't have thought about putting a link on there... I just might have to do that.

This always happens and it annoys the hell out of me! Here's what we did as a "subtle" reminder. We had one invite get sent back to us and one person who never got theirs so we took that as a perfect excuse to nag people. We emailed everyone we hadn't hear from and said that we've had some problems with invites getting to their proper destination, since we hadn't heard a response from them we wanted to make sure they did in fact receive their invite and could they please let us know. That seemed to kick most of them into gear that they should be responding and we got a flood of rsvp cards back. You could make up an excuse like that so you don't have to feel like you're nagging people

Each time I read a post like this it makes me think about Cabell and her Miss Manners' infinate knowledge. I read this on a post of hers once

"Miss Manners... considers it an unfortunate concession that hosts even need to state that they would like a response (in sensible times, guests could figure that out for themselves), and finds it distasteful that they feel they must provide the response themselves, in the form of prestamped cards or a voice-mail drop. Especially since such techniques don't work. People who are not polite enough to answer invitations are still not going to answer, even if you lie down in front of them and beg them to kick you once for yes and twice for no."

Danielle I can relate... while my date is a little later than yours I have found a lot of people have yet to reply (especially from FH's family). I think a lot of people read it, put it aside and forget... but I'm sure that next week you are going to have a lot of mail. Good luck!

So would it be wrong to write this on the RSVP?

"You want to eat? Then send the D@#% RSVP card back. It's got a freakin' stamp on it so all you have to do is put yes or no and put it in the mail. The postal service will do the rest for you. You don't even have to waste your dime. If you don't RSVP and then you show up, your a$$ isn't gettin' fed."

Shannon I just spit my coffee out. lol!!!

LOL nice shannon!!!! I feel the same way! Truthfully, I'm not hunting anyone down. Ours is a smaller wedding so if people don't respond then I'm assuming they aren't coming. It's mean, I know but they are adults and I'm not babysitting!

^^^^haha lol that would be nice if you could say that right haha!!!

My RSVP date is the 5th. I've got about a lot of rsvp's but am still waiting on some. Some I know are coming and they just haven't sent them yet. I figure when the day comes I will send out an email or something. My mom was telling me yesterday that some people will wait until the RSVP date to send it back. So we will see. But I don't think a friendly reminder on that date would hurt at all.

That's where I'm at Casey, if you don't respond to me then you aren't coming. End of story. My friend actually just got married and when her RSVP's weren't in she gave them a little email nudge and then she posted something along these lines on fb- "I'm assuming everyone who didn't RSVP isn't coming to the wedding? Wait, let me rephrase that. YOU AREN'T COMING!" I laughed so hard when I read that.