When the reception get started I do not want to dance right away. I want everyone to eat first and relax than start dancing. So is your first dance is husband and wife? And what should your last dance be as well? I was thinking of playing don't be trady for the party (because we are going to have an after party after the reception and I want people to get ready for that as well). I want the party to continue on to the next party. Or should we do a slow dance and for the people who will not be attending the after party we can leave it as a good night for them?