Wedding Party paying for Rehearsal Dinner?

OMG, no. It is perfectly okay to tell this MOH that you do not have the money for this stuff.

Lol..wut.

RH is optional (like everything else you mentioned) and is paid for by the couple. I just want to know the "logic" behind why the MOH and couple feel the bridesmaids need to pay for this.

Giant fucking nope.

No way this should not be a thing. Bridal shower maybe but none of the others.

No, this is incredibly unusual. Traditionally, the groom's parents pay for the rehearsal dinner, which isn't as common anymore, but it's certainly never been the expectation that the BMs would cover it. Not that this would make it any less inappropriate, but why the BMs and not the GM?

That's what I thought! It seemed really odd!

This a massive NOPE. The rehearsal dinner is where the couple is supposed to honor and thank their families and WP for investing money, time, and energy, in the wedding up to and including attending the rehearsal. This is supposed to be hosted for the wedding party not by the wedding party. If the bride is demanding this, someone needs to set her straight by saying "no."

If the MOH volunteered to host (Idk why the hell any MOH would) she cannot in return voluntell the bridesmaids to do it.

You are more than welcome to make it clear that you are not funding the rehearsal dinner, and cannot afford to help host the other parties.

Funding the bachelorette and shower are already optional, if you don't want to or can't afford it there is no reason to stress about it, being asked to host the rehearsal dinner is inappropriate and offensive.

Shut that shit down.

What? No!

The groom doesn't want to ask the groomsman to fund this. This is all the bride.

Holy crap. No way.

Fuck no. Bride/MOH are way out of line.

The Groom's Parents host the rehearsal dinner. Where did the MOH come up with all this other ridiculous info?

Absolutely not; it's rude and entitled as fuck, and that would be cause for me to jump ship. It's not just the money (which is sure to be significant) but the attitude.

The spa day (which is unnecessary, sorry) should be paid for by the bride . RD should be paid for by the couple or, more traditionally, the families. It's literally a thank you to the bridal party for rehearsing and supporting the couple.

Someone needs to clue this bee-ache in...and I have a clue this is only the tip of the iceberg.

It's like she asked you to be a bridesmaid so you would buy her stuff instead of because she wants you to be a part of her big day...

Also I "like" how the groom knows it's wrong so he won't ask his GM, but he won't pay for it himself...

No freggin way. This isn't your wedding. My fiance and I are paying for everything. I don't know who is throwing my bridal shower. And my future in laws are paying for the rehearsal dinner only because they paid for the other 4 brothers and I lost that fight!

And I still apolizged for them spending money.

Ok, I thought that this was wrong. I just wanted to make sure this wasn't a thing. I was very annoyed when I heard about this. This is overboard, and I couldn't imagine asking my bridesmaids/man to do this for me. I would be so embarrassed! I'm embarrassed even the thought of asking.

This hasn't been the easiest wedding to be a part of thus far, as I already have so much homework for it... and it's due the week I'm on my honeymoon.

I just find it funny that I'm stressing about a wedding 5 months away, and mine is in a week and a half, and it's a cake-walk.

No. That's insanely ridiculous. The couple getting married (or their parents if they offered) host the rehearsal dinner.

'I already have so much homework for it... and it's due the week I'm on my honeymoon.'

Um what?! Homework? Due the week of honeymoon? Homework? The fuck!

Yeah, i would probably bow out of being a bridesmaid. as a bridesmaid, i have gladly paid to host the shower and bachelorette, but it was not "required" of me. and the spa day/rehearsal dinner are total BS. that should be covered by the couple.

Oh HELL no. I'm very sorry for you. Your friend is extremely rude and entitled and I think she needs to be set straight on what your responsibilities of the bridal party are.