Wedding fundraisers????

I am in total agreement Mrs. Bryce. I wouldn't go to a fundraiser. The only fundraisers I support are people that are going through some medical conditions and they can't control the costs of treatment etc. If you can't pay for your wedding don't expect others to fund it!

Wow! I've never heard of this and I live in Canada (Alberta). I'd be interested to know how many people actually attend.

Yeah, and that last line you added, Mrs. Bryce, inviting EVERYONE on Facebook just because? No. No no.

The fact that you and your family all find it tacky shows that this is NOT the norm in your area, which is a completely different story from Canadian traditions.

"I've had MY family members call me saying how tacky it was bc THEY were invited just by being her facebook friend... "

I have no words..... I'd like to sneak in just to see how many people actually show up to this. Please keep us updated!

I'm from Canada myself and our j&j will be held (because my WP told me they are holding one for us, not because we WANT one) will be about 3-4 months before the wedding. Usually the j&j's are just to save an extra little bit before the wedding, not to fund the whole thing! This seems tacky and kinda rude really...if they wanted a small wedding they should have had a smaller WP and less people in attendance to cut down costs...yuk!

I'm from Canada, and they are predominately done in Manitoba (province). We call it a social. Basically its a big party. You sell tickets, and then offer cheap drinks and a silent auction, as well as a dance and food at the end of the night. Depending on the amount of people that come and the greatness of your prizes, you can raise anywhere from $2,000 - $20,000. A few generations ago, it was more of a fundraiser thing, because couples starting out had nothing really. Now however, its a big party and we don't see it as tacky, we see it as whoever wants to support you, will. But i can see if you don't grow up with them as a precursor to a wedding, it would look that way. However we don't force people to go, and its everyone's choice. I do agree that if you are only have 30 people at your wedding, it is very cheap to ask everyone you know to fund it.

What does J&J mean?

Jack & Jill

That is tacky as heck. If I was friends with this chick I'd tell her to her face lol. If you can't afford a wedding then wait.

Christine, I will have to politely decline your invitation. But thanks for thinking of me.

BAHAHA what?! I second Reenski, PLEASE take pictures at their wedding! Because it just sounds like it will be SUCH a classy affair

SUPER tacky! WOW. Just WOW.

I just deleted some other thoughts. I am not making so much sense today.

Yeah I have heard that wedding fundraisers are common in Canada.

But this sounds SO tacky. I'm sorry, pay for your own wedding, because I will not be funding it for you! And inviting everyone on facebook?? Oh hell no.

Their wedding sounds like it will be... interesting. I hope her parents have a big backyard.

@Valerie, I think they have 30 people in the wedding party, not for the entire wedding. And again, it's one thing to help towards costs, it's another thing to use a J&J in an area where it's NOT the norm to finance your ENTIRE wedding when you have no financial savvy.

Looks like they want to have the Wedding/Party of the Century and have everyone pay for it!! Really, who invites everyone from their Facebook page?? Super tacky and it looks like they have no shame in asking.. Lol

*looking for jaw to pick it up off floor*

Wow... I feel bad because my mother is paying for the food (she insisted) and MOH is buying us stuff... just WOW!!

I'm so glad i'm not alone in this... I'm literally FLOORED anyone would actually do this. And she made the invite herself but is saying that her aunt is throwing the party for her.. umm ok.

Like my cousin said, they should've just had the wedding BYOB... that'd be tacky as hell too but not as tacky as asking ppl to PAY for your wedding!!! *smh!

Wow! That's just a no.

Wow! I am from Canada (British Columbia) and have never heard of this. I couldn't imagine having a fundraiser for my wedding. I think it's super tacky.

I do agree in this situation that its tacky, especially if it's unheard of in that area (like Reenski mentioned). She shouldnt be having a wedding they cant pay for and should have been smarter saving up for it.

I'm from Canada (sarnia, Ontario so right across the river from port huron) and Stag and does/J&J's are crazy common here, pretty much everyone has one but it is usually the WP that throws it for the B&G. FH and I are having one but we are not having bachelor/bachelorette parties.