Wedding fundraisers????

Okay so you FH is in their wedding.. You want us to pay for his tux, give you a wedding present AND help PAY for YOUR wedding..???? And they invited EVERYONE on her facebook to this...

IMO i think this is literally the TACKIEST thing i have EVER seen and i refuse to go... i dont care if FH is in the wedding or not, i will not be apart of this. I am just baffled anyone would even THINK of doing this... and the fundraiser is 5/19, that's less than a month before their wedding!!!

If you can't afford a wedding- 1. dont invite the whole damn town and everyone you've EVER met and 2. go to the damn courthouse!

Am i wrong feeling this way???

WOAH... that's new.

Ummm I seriously dont even know what to say about this lol

Are they from Canada? there was a bride on here a few weeks ago hosting a fundraiser - well, three to be exact.

No you're not wrong.

I couldn't see the "continued" but I prob don't need to .. TACKY!!

Ok I take that back... I second Christine

Wow. Why would you have such a big WP but have it in a backyard. Unless it's a luxurious estate, that is WEIRD. And. Wow. Just. Wow.

I get that J&J's are common in Canada, but I would also hope they're done to help, not to completely fund a wedding. The issue with that girl Lizz mentioned was the additional J&J's, not the original one.

I don't care if your FH is in their wedding, he can decline, end of story. And please take pictures/video when you go to this wedding. Please.

Reenski, Lynzey...thank you. Yes.

LMAOOOO at Lynzey!

Tacky and greedy! I wouldn't go either! 30 person wedding party... talk about drama!

IMO I would have to agree with everyone so far ... that is tacky as hell.

Definitely ridiculous. Almost as bad as the lady who was invited to a wedding where they "charged" for admission.

I have heard of these! I think in Canada they are more common, more popularly called a 'Stag and Doe" party. I have never attended one, but I feel like you are justified in your feelings, especially if your FH is in the wedding party. If they are not doing a bridal shower and receiving gifts, I think it would be more acceptable but definitely not a method I would choose.

Can I do a fundraiser for a VaCay? It's going to be a nice one so $50k a plate.. I'm going all out politician style.

As for a wedding... This is something that I wouldn't do nor would want to be a part of... the FH and I talked about courthouse wedding then reception in a year to celebrate on our anniversary. We nixed the idea and pushed our wedding out almost 2 years so we could save. BUT we were doing what worked for us.... this story on the post is totally not my style.

I hear this is popular in Canada, but if the couple is that delinquent with their own finances, you'll get a wedding present from me, but not a dime more. Is your honey going?

BTW you are all invited to my fundraiser...

I declined the invite RIGHT away, he said he won't be going either. he didn't realize it was also in Port Huron so he said that was even worse. I've had MY family members call me saying how tacky it was bc THEY were invited just by being her facebook friend...

Send them an IOU

I'm going to say again -- if you're Canadian and a J&J is common in your area (or in some parts of the US, even), great! Go for it! But they shouldn't be the SOLE source of financing your wedding. It should assist, it should lessen the burden, but it shouldn't be the only way you can get the thing done.

Also, this case sounds like a "princess" wanting a big wedding but not wanting to PAY for a big wedding. There is never a need for 30 people in a wedding party -- I would say, "I'm sorry, I'm one of how many? Yeah, no, that's all right." Because at that point, I think you're just trying to spare feelings or feel special, and neither of these things are worth my money.

Also, as a wise MrsO once said (not her exact words), I will gift you a physical gift, but I won't aid in your inability to keep your finances and priorities in order.