Vegan Wedding--Rude? Experiences?

Also there's alot of food you eat every day that doesn't require cheese or animal products to make it taste good.

If someone's father doesn't eat anything but chicken wings and corn dogs, I suspect he doesn't eat anything at most weddings.

Great point Bobbi! That person would be ripped to shreds because they are not serving alcohol. It's double standards.

There is nothing in the Baptist religion that says you can't drink or serve alcohol. Every Baptist I know drinks.

The best sushi I ever had was vegan. I may be a meat-and-potatoes girl, but creative, well thought-out vegan food is delicious and would be my choice any day of the week! It may seem rude, but give them a chance to wow you.

@A.L., you must not know many bible belt Baptists then. I literally know people who couldn't dance at their weddings because their Baptist church doesn't allow it/approve of it, much less serve/consume alcohol.

Well this couple better be wearing vegan clothes if they are forcing their eating choices onto guests. But I bet the groom will be wearing leather dress shoes and both could be in silk or wool.

I used to get preached at by an old boss about being both evil and unhealthy when eating meat at work, but she lived for designer shoes. She only stopped the moral shaming once I pointed out her leather and cashmere.

My writing collaborator is a Southern Baptist from Arkansas. Drinks like a fish.

I don't think it's rude. Would it kill you to not have meat in one meal? That said, I have a vegan friend who isn't serving vegan food at his wedding, but the top tier of the cake is vegan.

Don't get me wrong. I'm sure I could find something at a vegan wedding. I'll eat or at least try just about anything once. As far as alcohol, I can't drink more than two or three sips without feeling sick anyways so either of these situations wouldn't matter very much to me, personally. I'm mostly playing devils advocate here because I love to debate things. However, if a bride/groom wants to attempt to have a big party without alcohol due to their own personal morals and ethics then I say let them try or to convince them to do more of a sit down dinner party versus a blow the roof off kind of party which we all know isn't realistic. People are known to party/dance more with alcohol in their system. With that said, I do side eye when people do things to cheap out on their guests. I completely agree on the people being terrible hosts when they're cheaping out on food or alcohol because they want a big ass guest list and expensive dress with the breathtaking venue without wanting to pay the bill for their guests to enjoy themselves.

I don't think the vegan/no alcohol comparison is equal. For example, serving alcohol if I don't personally drink it doesn't actually harm anything. Serving meat if I am morally opposed to eating it means that because of my wedding, animals are still losing their lives. It would be hypocritical of vegans to allow living creatures to be killed on their behalf, whether or not they are personally eating it.

Again, allowing alcohol when the host doesn't enjoy it is not the same thing.

I don't think its rude. Its more rude to be an ungrateful guest and bitch about what you're being served

@bobbi ftw. Excellent points, same ones I was attempting to make thank you for putting that a little more eloquently. My recovery is more significant in my life than veganism is, though they're both important. It's not exactly fair that I'd be bashed if I chose not to serve alcohol because I am in recovery, everyone says "well, not everyone is an alcoholic" sure, I get that. Same with my veganism, "well, not everyone is a vegan" it's the same thing in my eyes. If it's okay for someone to say "eating vegan food for one night won't kill you", again.. "not drinking for one night won't kill you". Literally the same thing. Granted, veganism and someone not wanting to serve alcohol because they want to be cheap is different. But even despite my recovery being of utmost importance in my life, I'm still told I HAVE to serve alcohol to avoid being a shitty host. I'd think the same would go for vegan options and meat options.

I don't think it's considerate. But on the bright side, at least you know now so you can plan accordingly

So....with this logic in place, they shouldn't have any clothing sourced in countries that still use child labor, unless the treatment of children is less important than the treatment of chickens.

And Holly? Although I've asked numerous times on the dry wedding posts, no one can accurately tell me why alcohol is immoral and unChristian, nor can they point to any scripture in the bible that supports that. Wait! It's kinda like the "Obama is wiretapping Trump Towers! fiasco! We don't need facts; we just BELIEVE...and that's enough.

But I digress.

That bride's dress better not be silk then. So many people are self-proclaimed "vegans" just following it because its "trendy" to be vegan now. Nothing against true vegans, but If you're going to do this, be sure you're 100% not using ANY animal products in any of your daily life. Including things in your household that may be harmful to bees, insects, etc.

Even though I tend to believe that the reception is for the guests and the hosts should try to do what they can for the enjoyment of the highest number of guests, I'm ok with making an exception if there is a true moral/ethical/religious reason for food choice decisions. I guess I also can't get too fired up about this, because I've grown up in an area with tons of veggie/vegan food everywhere, so it is hard to imagine being upset over not getting animal products for one single meal. As long as the vegan hosts take care to provide a good balance of options, and have a caterer that can work with people who have serious food allergy/intolerance issues (eg. gluten/nuts), I think a vegan wedding is fine.

Tried to hide double post and accidentally hid both. Sorry!

Celia - I know nothing about the Baptist Church, but PPs do. My comment was referring to those posters.

@Bobbi, the difference between a vegan wedding and a dry wedding, as I see it, is where the "harm" is focused. If one truly and deeply believes that drinking is wrong, the hypothetical harm being done is happening to the person who is doing the drinking. Whereas if you believe using animal products to be wrong, the harm is being done not (predominantly) to the eater but to a helpless third party (AKA the animal being eaten.)

So it comes down to paternalistically trying to prevent your guests from making decisions you don't agree with versus refusing to cause harm to an entity who has no say in the matter.

I say this as someone who loves meat and cheese and eggs and all that stuff. But make no mistake--if you serve chicken at your wedding, you are directly causing living creatures to be killed to make that possible. I grew up on a farm and I am comfortable with that knowledge. Not everyone is.

ETA: Stephanie beat me to it while I was typing.

They are making everything vegan, including their wedding attire! I'll just grab food to eat before and after. I don't want to drink on an empty stomach, if my few veggie dislikes are in most of the dishes.

For the record, I dont consider myself terribly picky. I am allergic to tomatoes, and I dont like mushrooms or tofu. I love asparagus, all squash, artichokes, potatoes, green beans, etc. I just happen to see mushrooms and tomatoes in a looot of dishes.