UPDATED: Should I track down estranged family members and family friends who have not bothered to RSVP?

@Jaci no problem. That why they keep me around.

If you didn't want to invite them, have your parents follow up on them and tell them the due date to get back to you. How easy was that?

If you have already followed up on everyone, and the due date is past, then you are done with what is required.

Wait...you contacted them to make sure they know the date of your wedding...but at that point you didn't think of asking them if they were attending?

BRITTANY THANK YOU. That is essentially what I did, I confirmed everyone got their invites, and I sent them gentle reminders, and they obliged that they understood the time frames and everything. and I am planning the way I want. Like I've been saying, theres alot more to this and I know I come off as rude, but I really do have my reason for not contacting CERTAIN people.

A) the INVITATIONS can get lost in the mail.

B) uhh, a text or email definitely CAN get lost in cyberspace, look it up...also people make mistakes and could mistype something.

C) you sound like a not so nice person (for the sake of not calling people names) and if I got invited to your wedding I'd RSVP with a delighted, resounding NO.

D) you're an askhole.

E) bye Felicia.

Please agree to give us a follow up and a BAM.. It's like waiting for a season premiere after a cliff-hanger season finale.. I will be on the look out 8-7-16..

Don't say you weren't thoroughly warned by caring community members who wanted you to enjoy your day.

And here comes the white Knight...

I seriously don't get it. If you asked them if they got the invite, why didn't you just ask for an RSVP then or tell them you need to know etc.? How inefficient.

Also are you 1000% sure none of your guests emails went to spam? Because that seems like a risk.

Why would you send invitations to "people you don't really speak to, or see all that much"????

OP: you are now providing MORE information that is completely changing your story. You first said there is no reason to follow up. Now you are saying you have followed up.

@VC that's what I'm saying! OP had the time to contact them and ask them if they knew the date of her wedding, but not the time to ask if they were attending...I'm in awe

You had time to call and ask if they got the invitation but don't to see if they're coming? Why couldn't it have been in the same conversation. Are you intentionally trying to piss of your parents and extended family?

Lol August Skies, that's totally your prerogative, I find it amazing how I post opinion for it and I'm attacked by people who don't even know the full situation or who want to assume I'm an "askhole" I have a different opinion that isn't harming you, I don't understand the hostility...

Communication must be lacking:

- not being efficient with her follow ups

- not providing the details about how she has been handling it

I wonder if her guests will know what is happening the day of and how planned it will be.

Our RSVP deadline was yesterday and I just followed up with my side of non-RSVPers because I realize people have other things going on with their lives and may have forgotten. IMO they're important to me so I didn't want to dismiss them as not attending. I sent the following from our joint email:

Hi there! We wanted to check in and make sure you haven't lost your invitation. RSVPs were due June 24, 2016 and we haven’t received one from you yet.

We are looking forward to celebrating with everyone so we hope you can make it. It wouldn’t be the same without you but we understand there are sometimes circumstances beyond our control.

Please RSVP at (website) with your meal selection so that we can make sure there is plenty to eat and drink for everyone. If we don’t receive an RSVP from you by July 2, 2016 we will have to mark you down as not attending.

Thank you and have a great weekend!!.

We'll probably end up calling late next week in case the email got lost in cyberspace.

Because they still had time to RSVP. That's why i didn't ask. I felt like it would have been being too "pushy" If I asked them right then and there. I felt the follow up of making sure they got the invitation and making sure they knew of the time frame was good enough. My point being those, who wouldn't the guest follow up to make sure I received an RSVP in the first place? Maybe it's me, but If I was traveling hours away, I'd additionally contact the host of the event to make sure there wasn't any communication mishaps. Also, I had to invite these people because my mother is helping financially. her money, her rules.

Well.. with heavy hearts, we announce the passing of this opportunity to save this upcoming wedding day from unnecessary stress..

Unfortunately.. There was nothing we could do.. The bride seemed set to proceed in her direction down the 'I'm not calling to confirm RSVP path'.

I truly do wish you the best and hope this doesn't turn out the way the majority of us suspect it will.

No theres definitely some hostility, seriously lol. But I appreciate the feedback! I honestly just needed to know if the way I was trying to go about it was not sound. I honestly felt that because of my family situation (that I won't go into here) That I shouldn't have been expected to follow up with certain people.. I guess not.. lol

A) No one is attacking you. Your ideas, perhaps but not you as a person.

B) Let me tell you a story. One day, my husband and I got an invitation to something. We both said we'd go. He thought I RSVP'ed and I thought he RSVP'ed. We didn't realize the RSVP didn't happen until I cleaned out my desk and found it (thankfully, there was a paper invitation).

Here's what you DON'T do on this site: brag about being arrogant. Your actions appear very arrogant and you are appearing to be a bridezilla. You may be a nice person, but you're not coming across as that with your proposals.